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Why don't you get a "real" job?

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My almost 14 year old is REALLY pushing my buttons.

On the way to school today we were talking about how nice it would be to have my own car so we can go on trips without having to rely on Dad. (That man procrastinates and we never go anywhere)

Then DD asked "Well, why don't you get a job?"

Me, "I do work."

DD "No, I mean like a real job."

Me, "Oh sure!" "Just let me put your brother in public school and I'll get right on it."

DD, "Why don't you?"

Me, "Are you really asking me this?"  "He can't function in public school." "You know that."

DD "No I don't." "Maybe you just don't want to work."

At this point, we're at the front gate. She gives me a quick hug and leaves. I'm standing there in shock. Where did this come from??

by on Sep. 12, 2013 at 12:07 PM
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Jenn8604
by Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 3:27 PM
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Good cuz she's obviously learning NOTHING!!!

Quoting paganbaby:

I want her to homeschool so bad. She flat out refuses. So the deal we have is that she has to get her Fs up to Cs by the end of Christmas break or I'll take her out.

Quoting Jenn8604:

Maybe she's jealous he gets more of your attention already and he's homeschooled and gets EVEN MORE of your attention and it's getting to her. Offer to homeschool her too (I'm sure u have, but offer again).

By 8th grade I did all my work on my own unless I had math problems I took to my dad or an occasional English or Science question I took to my mom. She'd be able to finish in half the time and have more time to do stuff she wants and spend more time with you.


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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 3:32 PM
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LOL! Our family cloth works just fine. If she wants toilet paper that bad, she can buy it.

Quoting mem82:

Honestly, I would get the kid some toilet paper.

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.




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ablackdolphin
by Bronze Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 3:53 PM

She's 14, enough said lol.  Sorry, but it's true!

paganbaby
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 4:02 PM

Doesn't mean I have to like it though,lol!

Quoting ablackdolphin:

She's 14, enough said lol.  Sorry, but it's true!


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hwblyf
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 4:46 PM


Lunchables are nasty and far more expensive than the indiv ingredients.  My mom loves to tell the story of my sister saving her allowance so that she could buy wonder bread instead of having homemade.  :)

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.




Leissaintexas
by Bronze Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 4:49 PM
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Woah! I realize every family is different, but that kind of disrespect towards parents just is not allowed here. Sorry, but  I would seriously be handing out some serious consequences if my child of any age questioned me like that. When my then-13 yr old asked me "so what exactly do you do around here all day, that I have to do your dishes?" I handed him a sleepy two yr old and a poopy-diapered 6 wk old and said, "it's all yours, buddy! If my job is so easy, you do it for a day." He then had to do extra chores for his disrespectful attitude and lost all media access for a week.

AutymsMommy
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 4:54 PM


What she said.

What the kid said is completely not okay... but sometimes kids just want to be "normal" and I think that's completely OKAY.

I was a nasty, horrible teenager :P

Quoting mem82:

Honestly, I would get the kid some toilet paper.

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.





I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff:  we're Catholic, we're conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol).             Aimee















Taylor_Dawn
by on Sep. 12, 2013 at 4:56 PM
Family cloth? No tp? Care to explain?

Quoting paganbaby:

LOL! Our family cloth works just fine. If she wants toilet paper that bad, she can buy it.

Quoting mem82:

Honestly, I would get the kid some toilet paper.

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.




mem82
by Platinum Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 5:00 PM
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It's scraps of fabric that you wipe with rather than using toilet paper. You then wash the cloth like laundry and reuse.

Quoting Taylor_Dawn:

Family cloth? No tp? Care to explain?

Quoting paganbaby:

LOL! Our family cloth works just fine. If she wants toilet paper that bad, she can buy it.

Quoting mem82:

Honestly, I would get the kid some toilet paper.

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.





paganbaby
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 5:01 PM

Ha! That sounds like something dd would do,lol.

And, exactly! My homemade lunchables have the same ingrediants, only healthier, plus fruits and veggies.

Quoting hwblyf:


Lunchables are nasty and far more expensive than the indiv ingredients.  My mom loves to tell the story of my sister saving her allowance so that she could buy wonder bread instead of having homemade.  :)

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.





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