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Why don't you get a "real" job?

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My almost 14 year old is REALLY pushing my buttons.

On the way to school today we were talking about how nice it would be to have my own car so we can go on trips without having to rely on Dad. (That man procrastinates and we never go anywhere)

Then DD asked "Well, why don't you get a job?"

Me, "I do work."

DD "No, I mean like a real job."

Me, "Oh sure!" "Just let me put your brother in public school and I'll get right on it."

DD, "Why don't you?"

Me, "Are you really asking me this?"  "He can't function in public school." "You know that."

DD "No I don't." "Maybe you just don't want to work."

At this point, we're at the front gate. She gives me a quick hug and leaves. I'm standing there in shock. Where did this come from??

by on Sep. 12, 2013 at 12:07 PM
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Taylor_Dawn
by New Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 5:01 PM
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Thanks. Never heard of people going that before... interesting..

Quoting mem82:

It's scraps of fabric that you wipe with rather than using toilet paper. You then wash the cloth like laundry and reuse.

Quoting Taylor_Dawn:

Family cloth? No tp? Care to explain?



Quoting paganbaby:

LOL! Our family cloth works just fine. If she wants toilet paper that bad, she can buy it.

Quoting mem82:

Honestly, I would get the kid some toilet paper.

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.





Silverkitty
by Bronze Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 5:04 PM
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I found this interesting Family Cloth.

Quoting Taylor_Dawn:

Family cloth? No tp? Care to explain?

Quoting paganbaby:

LOL! Our family cloth works just fine. If she wants toilet paper that bad, she can buy it.

Quoting mem82:

Honestly, I would get the kid some toilet paper.

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.






Precious333
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 5:29 PM
You know, i was just thinking. At this age thye just love ti argue and debate! Maybe make a debate or make her give a persuasive speech?


Quoting paganbaby:

Yeah, I don't know how my mom let me live to see 18 LOL

Quoting Precious333:

Oh goodness...i remember being that way, how my parents tolerated me, i dont know!



mem82
by Platinum Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 5:47 PM
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I will straight up admit that the whole idea of family cloth makes me gag a bit. 8)

Quoting Silverkitty:


I found this interesting Family Cloth.

Quoting Taylor_Dawn:

Family cloth? No tp? Care to explain?

Quoting paganbaby:

LOL! Our family cloth works just fine. If she wants toilet paper that bad, she can buy it.

Quoting mem82:

Honestly, I would get the kid some toilet paper.

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.







paganbaby
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 7:29 PM

Nice!

Quoting Leissaintexas:

Woah! I realize every family is different, but that kind of disrespect towards parents just is not allowed here. Sorry, but  I would seriously be handing out some serious consequences if my child of any age questioned me like that. When my then-13 yr old asked me "so what exactly do you do around here all day, that I have to do your dishes?" I handed him a sleepy two yr old and a poopy-diapered 6 wk old and said, "it's all yours, buddy! If my job is so easy, you do it for a day." He then had to do extra chores for his disrespectful attitude and lost all media access for a week.


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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 7:31 PM

Good idea but she would moan and complain that I'm making her do work,lol.

Quoting Precious333:

You know, i was just thinking. At this age thye just love ti argue and debate! Maybe make a debate or make her give a persuasive speech?


Quoting paganbaby:

Yeah, I don't know how my mom let me live to see 18 LOL

Quoting Precious333:

Oh goodness...i remember being that way, how my parents tolerated me, i dont know!




Lilypie - Personal pictureLilypie Breastfeeding tickers

paganbaby
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 7:35 PM

Good blog! 

Quoting Silverkitty:


I found this interesting Family Cloth.

Quoting Taylor_Dawn:

Family cloth? No tp? Care to explain?

Quoting paganbaby:

LOL! Our family cloth works just fine. If she wants toilet paper that bad, she can buy it.

Quoting mem82:

Honestly, I would get the kid some toilet paper.

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.







Lilypie - Personal pictureLilypie Breastfeeding tickers

paganbaby
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 7:46 PM

No. I refuse to spend money on something that she's going to wipe her butt with. I already compromised by buying her disposable tampons, shampoo, conditioner, disposable razors, all kinds of things I don't personally use.

Yeah, I wasn't a very nice one either,lol.

Quoting AutymsMommy:


What she said.

What the kid said is completely not okay... but sometimes kids just want to be "normal" and I think that's completely OKAY.

I was a nasty, horrible teenager :P

Quoting mem82:

Honestly, I would get the kid some toilet paper.

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.






Lilypie - Personal pictureLilypie Breastfeeding tickers

paganbaby
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 7:47 PM

It's cool. It's not for everyone,lol.

Quoting mem82:

I will straight up admit that the whole idea of family cloth makes me gag a bit. 8)

Quoting Silverkitty:


I found this interesting Family Cloth.

Quoting Taylor_Dawn:

Family cloth? No tp? Care to explain?

Quoting paganbaby:

LOL! Our family cloth works just fine. If she wants toilet paper that bad, she can buy it.

Quoting mem82:

Honestly, I would get the kid some toilet paper.

Quoting paganbaby:

That could be it. She's always wanted the high life. I know me staying home makes finances tighter but I do the best I can for her. She goes on trips with the church, I have her involved with the teen center, they also do trips and volunteer work, and I put her in dance. Growing up she was always in different classes and sports. My aunt would take her on trips out of state and show her a different way of life.

But that's not enough for her. She wants what she perceives as "normal". Two parents who work, toilet paper, store bought cleaning supplies, public school, a mom who shaves and store bought lunchables. EVERYTHING doesn't have to be homemade mom! Fortunately or unfortunately, our life isn't like that. 

Quoting mem82:

Maybe she is feeling jealous of the fact that her brother's issues have shortchanged her experiences and made things difficult for the family?

I'm not saying she is right but being almost 14 she is starting to understand how the world works. She is starting to understand that jobs=money=luxuries like second cars=better social life for her/ less stress on the family which means better family life for her.

Also, I assume her brother probably needs more of your time than she gets. If he is disruptive, she might be feeling a bit resentful.








Lilypie - Personal pictureLilypie Breastfeeding tickers

Precious333
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 7:51 PM
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Lol, i thought so!


Quoting paganbaby:

Good idea but she would moan and complain that I'm making her do work,lol.

Quoting Precious333:

You know, i was just thinking. At this age thye just love ti argue and debate! Maybe make a debate or make her give a persuasive speech?





Quoting paganbaby:

Yeah, I don't know how my mom let me live to see 18 LOL

Quoting Precious333:

Oh goodness...i remember being that way, how my parents tolerated me, i dont know!







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