I have a friend...her DD was in my class in preschool and kindergarten over the past 2 years. They also have two older boys. The elementary school is different from our K/prek, so the LO moved on to the "big" school this year. Mom knew I was homeschooling at the end of last year and dad told me that mom wants to hs but isn't confident enough, mom confirmed...dad kept saying mom is capable and should do it.
I just got this email from mom:
Hope all is going well with you. Wish I was homeschooling my kids. LO had her first hard day today and it broke my heart. She doesn't want to go to school because she doesn't want to have to miss me. She doesn't like morning outdoor recess. It is just to crazy and overwhelming having the whole school outside at one time.
I really want to homeschool them starting next year, but I need a lot more self confidence to be able to do that.
Well again. Hope all is well. Just wanted to let you know we were thinking about you.
I emailed her back actually suggesting she pull the 1st grader now and take a year to get that down, then pull the big boys next year (as they enter middle school and I think high school or maybe 8th grade) if she still wants to hs them. But since I know the LO so well and know she will thrive at home with mom and I can just see her little spirit being crushed in the "big" school, I think mom should pull her.
Is there other advice you would give? I really think mom is capable of schooling the 1st grader with no problem...1st grade is not hard! I offered to go over some things with her and help her know what to teach the LO and to just meet to talk if she wants.
My heart is breaking for the LO since I know her so well and know how hard even the transition from prek to k was for her, she was even placed in the class I was going to to ease her transition (our kindergarten is amazing, the principal and staff are so awesome, if my kids had stayed there we wouldn't have hs'ed, lol). While I do think working on transitions would be good for her, I don't think forcing her to go to the big school with big classes and have her get lost in the shuffle is good for her :/ I just feel so sad and want to fix it for her. And I wish mom would get that confidence boost and know she can do it!
Sorry this is kind of OT, but is there any advice I can give her to help her with this? What would you say?