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How do you go about "punishing" for not doing school work right??? Im talking about a teen responsible enough to this stuff..but he just isnt applying himself. I have told him countless times that just because he is "homeschooled" doesnt mean he can slack off and get away with things. 

I have tried many methods with him, he is learning...somewhat but just not applying 100%. I set up the entire week. Tell him there will be a quiz today on certain stuff...he has 7 days to study for it, I tell him what pags it will be on....i give him everything I can think of help him...and come quiz day today he just goofs off because he "doesnt feel like doing anything today". One of the questions was for his history and it was What was the rosetta stone...his answer "a website that helps you learn languages" I ask him how that pertains to history and he says..oh i didnt know u meant the history rosetta stone.........im like REALLY this entire quiz has history vocab words matching things etc..and that is your answer...

How do you go about dealing with laziness? He also has an essay topic due next week.that HE ASKED me if he could do.....every thursday is "research day" where he works on his essay etc. And I remind him next week its due....He isnt going to have it done because he doesnt even have a draft written up yet and its 4 pages long on 2 greek gods of his choosing. (I orginally said 1, but he wanted to choose 2 so he got 2 gods, and 4 pages instead of 1 god 2 pages) I am so tired of explaining things. If i be mean about things he is going to goof right through it....

HELP im at my wits end. I need suggestions. Please.


EDITED *** he has had 4 weeks to complete this 4 page essay. He is just pure lazy..was lazy in public school and hateful and always got into trouble, so thats why i pulled him out he wasnt going anywhere period, he had done failed so many times. He is suppose to be in the 10th, but he is in the 8th according to the school district. Everything I tell him goes in one ear and out the other. Im trying to teach him responsiblity but he is being a teenager......URG 

by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 11:24 AM
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PurpleCupcake
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 12:23 PM

Has he been tested for educational delays, medical issues that would impact learning, or is he seeing a therapist?

Quoting JerrysMom2011:

I have tried the non structure thing with him and that makes him more lazy. I am trying to find ways to make this stuff fun we only school for about 2 hours a day, he does and can do well when he wants to he just recently got a 100% on a english grammar test that had 60 questions (GED offical pretest) just some days he just...idk not movitvated. If I dont have some type of structure this boy would never do anything. He has had a real hard life (abuse, neglect etc) He is choosing ways he wants to do things. I have gotten him excited in reading FINALLY he loves the series that Dave Pelzer wrote called "a child called it"  He is on the next book now, and we do reading assignments from it etc. 


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Just my opinion...

It sounds like you are doing public school at home. Too structured and rigid.

Have you tried being more relaxed? Unschooling? What about verbal discussions as opposed to written essays? Let him choose the subjects he wants to do? Plan for a day not a week or month? What about doing less subjects a day? Instead of 45 minutes per subject (6 subjects a day) why not do an hour and a half per subject (4 subjects per day)

Homeschool moves at a much faster pace than ps. Literally if he only wanted to do a subject twice a week he would still finish by the end of the year.

I'm willing to bet that you are teaching him the way in which you learn best. And that doesn't suit his learning style. Just a hunch, I could be wrong. 

I really wouldn't jump on the punishing bandwagon just yet because it will make things worse. Try checking into different methods of teaching and different learning styles first.




JerrysMom2011
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 12:24 PM

He falls asleep during anything documentry related, which is why he wanted to do the essay on the greek gods. his choice. Math games he just acts like he doesnt know how to work a computer...writing prompts are his only semi strong suite. I am getting him to do descrptive paragraphs every week. Just one..he chooses between 5 topics. Topics he loves and he is excited about. This week instead of a paragrah he started a story about the topic, so i am running with that idea next week, for him to continue that. 

Quoting PurpleCupcake:

The ged stuff can be really boring sometimes. Have you tried doing documentaries for history and science? Internet games for math? Writing prompts?

Quoting JerrysMom2011:


He is studying his GED material..thats the sad part its not like its real hard stuff yet..we are starting from the very beginning...decimals, nonfiction, egyptians etc. deschooling..? whats that?

Quoting oredeb:

 i agree with purple cupcake and leissa,  he shouldnt be disrespecting you.

also how bout deschooling for a bit or have you done that? find something hes interested in, let him do the research, how old is he? 16 yet? let him take his ged and get a job






JerrysMom2011
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 12:28 PM


He has, and no one can find anything really wrong with him, he has been through and "graduated" therapy. He has to read things outloud for him to understand what he is reading, and he has gotten by his other grades in school by going to summer school..his mother would always "reward" him with who cares if you dont do well in school..you can go to summer school and pass....so he has always slacked off in school from day one. He in in anger management, but other then that everyone says he is a healthy teenager.

Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Has he been tested for educational delays, medical issues that would impact learning, or is he seeing a therapist?

Quoting JerrysMom2011:

I have tried the non structure thing with him and that makes him more lazy. I am trying to find ways to make this stuff fun we only school for about 2 hours a day, he does and can do well when he wants to he just recently got a 100% on a english grammar test that had 60 questions (GED offical pretest) just some days he just...idk not movitvated. If I dont have some type of structure this boy would never do anything. He has had a real hard life (abuse, neglect etc) He is choosing ways he wants to do things. I have gotten him excited in reading FINALLY he loves the series that Dave Pelzer wrote called "a child called it"  He is on the next book now, and we do reading assignments from it etc. 


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Just my opinion...

It sounds like you are doing public school at home. Too structured and rigid.

Have you tried being more relaxed? Unschooling? What about verbal discussions as opposed to written essays? Let him choose the subjects he wants to do? Plan for a day not a week or month? What about doing less subjects a day? Instead of 45 minutes per subject (6 subjects a day) why not do an hour and a half per subject (4 subjects per day)

Homeschool moves at a much faster pace than ps. Literally if he only wanted to do a subject twice a week he would still finish by the end of the year.

I'm willing to bet that you are teaching him the way in which you learn best. And that doesn't suit his learning style. Just a hunch, I could be wrong. 

I really wouldn't jump on the punishing bandwagon just yet because it will make things worse. Try checking into different methods of teaching and different learning styles first.






PurpleCupcake
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 12:34 PM

Ok...LOTS of people will disagree with me and I understand why...so not starting a debate.

He has issues. Have you thought of trying medication for depression?  Has he seen a psychiatrist (not psychologist)? 

Lack of ambition + anger issues + bad childhood equal a recipe for a disaster. There are meds that can help with those issues.

Quoting JerrysMom2011:


He has, and no one can find anything really wrong with him, he has been through and "graduated" therapy. He has to read things outloud for him to understand what he is reading, and he has gotten by his other grades in school by going to summer school..his mother would always "reward" him with who cares if you dont do well in school..you can go to summer school and pass....so he has always slacked off in school from day one. He in in anger management, but other then that everyone says he is a healthy teenager.

Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Has he been tested for educational delays, medical issues that would impact learning, or is he seeing a therapist?

Quoting JerrysMom2011:

I have tried the non structure thing with him and that makes him more lazy. I am trying to find ways to make this stuff fun we only school for about 2 hours a day, he does and can do well when he wants to he just recently got a 100% on a english grammar test that had 60 questions (GED offical pretest) just some days he just...idk not movitvated. If I dont have some type of structure this boy would never do anything. He has had a real hard life (abuse, neglect etc) He is choosing ways he wants to do things. I have gotten him excited in reading FINALLY he loves the series that Dave Pelzer wrote called "a child called it"  He is on the next book now, and we do reading assignments from it etc. 


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Just my opinion...

It sounds like you are doing public school at home. Too structured and rigid.

Have you tried being more relaxed? Unschooling? What about verbal discussions as opposed to written essays? Let him choose the subjects he wants to do? Plan for a day not a week or month? What about doing less subjects a day? Instead of 45 minutes per subject (6 subjects a day) why not do an hour and a half per subject (4 subjects per day)

Homeschool moves at a much faster pace than ps. Literally if he only wanted to do a subject twice a week he would still finish by the end of the year.

I'm willing to bet that you are teaching him the way in which you learn best. And that doesn't suit his learning style. Just a hunch, I could be wrong. 

I really wouldn't jump on the punishing bandwagon just yet because it will make things worse. Try checking into different methods of teaching and different learning styles first.







JerrysMom2011
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 12:41 PM
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I will talk to his social worker about that. He seems like a generally happy kid though, especially here at home everyone has said what a difference I have already made in his life by taking him from his mothers, and how much happier he is. I just thought taking him out of that enviorment, and nurturing him and showing love and etc would do more then any medication would. 


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Ok...LOTS of people will disagree with me and I understand why...so not starting a debate.

He has issues. Have you thought of trying medication for depression?  Has he seen a psychiatrist (not psychologist)? 

Lack of ambition + anger issues + bad childhood equal a recipe for a disaster. There are meds that can help with those issues.

Quoting JerrysMom2011:


He has, and no one can find anything really wrong with him, he has been through and "graduated" therapy. He has to read things outloud for him to understand what he is reading, and he has gotten by his other grades in school by going to summer school..his mother would always "reward" him with who cares if you dont do well in school..you can go to summer school and pass....so he has always slacked off in school from day one. He in in anger management, but other then that everyone says he is a healthy teenager.

Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Has he been tested for educational delays, medical issues that would impact learning, or is he seeing a therapist?

Quoting JerrysMom2011:

I have tried the non structure thing with him and that makes him more lazy. I am trying to find ways to make this stuff fun we only school for about 2 hours a day, he does and can do well when he wants to he just recently got a 100% on a english grammar test that had 60 questions (GED offical pretest) just some days he just...idk not movitvated. If I dont have some type of structure this boy would never do anything. He has had a real hard life (abuse, neglect etc) He is choosing ways he wants to do things. I have gotten him excited in reading FINALLY he loves the series that Dave Pelzer wrote called "a child called it"  He is on the next book now, and we do reading assignments from it etc. 


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Just my opinion...

It sounds like you are doing public school at home. Too structured and rigid.

Have you tried being more relaxed? Unschooling? What about verbal discussions as opposed to written essays? Let him choose the subjects he wants to do? Plan for a day not a week or month? What about doing less subjects a day? Instead of 45 minutes per subject (6 subjects a day) why not do an hour and a half per subject (4 subjects per day)

Homeschool moves at a much faster pace than ps. Literally if he only wanted to do a subject twice a week he would still finish by the end of the year.

I'm willing to bet that you are teaching him the way in which you learn best. And that doesn't suit his learning style. Just a hunch, I could be wrong. 

I really wouldn't jump on the punishing bandwagon just yet because it will make things worse. Try checking into different methods of teaching and different learning styles first.









PurpleCupcake
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 12:52 PM

Oh definitely it helps! Taking him out of that environment definitely unapproved his situation! And hats off to you for doing it!

bow down

But it really sounds like he could use something more. It's good to talk to the social worker, but I'd rather you talk to a doctor because of the stigma against issues like these.

That doesn't mean he has some serious disorder. It just means he needs a little help for now. 

He really sounds like a good candidate for something like Zoloft. 

Just consider it. 

Quoting JerrysMom2011:

I will talk to his social worker about that. He seems like a generally happy kid though, especially here at home everyone has said what a difference I have already made in his life by taking him from his mothers, and how much happier he is. I just thought taking him out of that enviorment, and nurturing him and showing love and etc would do more then any medication would. 


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Ok...LOTS of people will disagree with me and I understand why...so not starting a debate.

He has issues. Have you thought of trying medication for depression?  Has he seen a psychiatrist (not psychologist)? 

Lack of ambition + anger issues + bad childhood equal a recipe for a disaster. There are meds that can help with those issues.

Quoting JerrysMom2011:


He has, and no one can find anything really wrong with him, he has been through and "graduated" therapy. He has to read things outloud for him to understand what he is reading, and he has gotten by his other grades in school by going to summer school..his mother would always "reward" him with who cares if you dont do well in school..you can go to summer school and pass....so he has always slacked off in school from day one. He in in anger management, but other then that everyone says he is a healthy teenager.

Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Has he been tested for educational delays, medical issues that would impact learning, or is he seeing a therapist?

Quoting JerrysMom2011:

I have tried the non structure thing with him and that makes him more lazy. I am trying to find ways to make this stuff fun we only school for about 2 hours a day, he does and can do well when he wants to he just recently got a 100% on a english grammar test that had 60 questions (GED offical pretest) just some days he just...idk not movitvated. If I dont have some type of structure this boy would never do anything. He has had a real hard life (abuse, neglect etc) He is choosing ways he wants to do things. I have gotten him excited in reading FINALLY he loves the series that Dave Pelzer wrote called "a child called it"  He is on the next book now, and we do reading assignments from it etc. 


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Just my opinion...

It sounds like you are doing public school at home. Too structured and rigid.

Have you tried being more relaxed? Unschooling? What about verbal discussions as opposed to written essays? Let him choose the subjects he wants to do? Plan for a day not a week or month? What about doing less subjects a day? Instead of 45 minutes per subject (6 subjects a day) why not do an hour and a half per subject (4 subjects per day)

Homeschool moves at a much faster pace than ps. Literally if he only wanted to do a subject twice a week he would still finish by the end of the year.

I'm willing to bet that you are teaching him the way in which you learn best. And that doesn't suit his learning style. Just a hunch, I could be wrong. 

I really wouldn't jump on the punishing bandwagon just yet because it will make things worse. Try checking into different methods of teaching and different learning styles first.










JerrysMom2011
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 1:20 PM

I meant our social worker, we have our own social worker assigned to us, to help with free referrals to services like this. 


Quoting JerrysMom2011:

How do you go about "punishing" for not doing school work right??? Im talking about a teen responsible enough to this stuff..but he just isnt applying himself. I have told him countless times that just because he is "homeschooled" doesnt mean he can slack off and get away with things. 

I have tried many methods with him, he is learning...somewhat but just not applying 100%. I set up the entire week. Tell him there will be a quiz today on certain stuff...he has 7 days to study for it, I tell him what pags it will be on....i give him everything I can think of help him...and come quiz day today he just goofs off because he "doesnt feel like doing anything today". One of the questions was for his history and it was What was the rosetta stone...his answer "a website that helps you learn languages" I ask him how that pertains to history and he says..oh i didnt know u meant the history rosetta stone.........im like REALLY this entire quiz has history vocab words matching things etc..and that is your answer...

How do you go about dealing with laziness? He also has an essay topic due next week.that HE ASKED me if he could do.....every thursday is "research day" where he works on his essay etc. And I remind him next week its due....He isnt going to have it done because he doesnt even have a draft written up yet and its 4 pages long on 2 greek gods of his choosing. (I orginally said 1, but he wanted to choose 2 so he got 2 gods, and 4 pages instead of 1 god 2 pages) I am so tired of explaining things. If i be mean about things he is going to goof right through it....

HELP im at my wits end. I need suggestions. Please.


EDITED *** he has had 4 weeks to complete this 4 page essay. He is just pure lazy..was lazy in public school and hateful and always got into trouble, so thats why i pulled him out he wasnt going anywhere period, he had done failed so many times. He is suppose to be in the 10th, but he is in the 8th according to the school district. Everything I tell him goes in one ear and out the other. Im trying to teach him responsiblity but he is being a teenager......URG 



Bleacheddecay
by Bronze Member on Sep. 19, 2013 at 1:34 PM

I know this is frustrating. *HUGS* I've been there.

But, I don't like the word and judgment of lazy.My mom called me that until I understood that was who and what I was.  I worked HARD at not using that word with my son but when he was in public school, they did.

I would say get him evaluated for learning disabilities, there may be more going on than you think. There was with my son, a lot more. My son has depression, two kinds of anxiety, dyscalculia and dysgraphia as well as significant memory issues.

In spite of not knowing any of that I did a lot of things right with him just instinctually while homeschooling. I got him tested in preparation for college. I had researched and nothing that is normally talked about quite fit him. I wish I'd gotten the testing done sooner because there might have been work arounds and help for him that would have made a bigger difference if I had.

I say, take away any privileges he cares about until he does a good job. It could be his phone or internet except for school or video games or his dirt bike riding, whatever it is, he can't have it or do it until he makes an effort you are okay with.

If he turns in sloppy work or poor work when he is capable or more that's what I'd do but note, he can earn it back as soon as he does satisfactory work.

If you ever take him to a counselor who tells you he is just lazy, find another counselor. That's not helpful to you or him.

kirbymom
by Sonja on Sep. 19, 2013 at 1:41 PM
Hi. I hope you don't mind if I jump in here. I have been reading all the posts and from what I can gather, you have been making a bigger impact than you can see. The reason you can't see that impact is because this is close to your heart and therefore just see the picture in front of you. Nothing wrong with that. Nothing. But I would like to help broaden that picture for you if I may.
First off, you have taken him from a negative environment and surrounded him with a more positive environment. Then, you took him out of a negative social environment and gave back to him a more productive social environment. He is learning to love reading. He is even beginning to ask for more work. Yes, he is not doing it all at 100% involvement BUT, he IS doing more than ever before. Right? He has improved by leaps and bounds judging from these posts. You have been told by outside influences what a remarkable change he is showing. So, you must be accomplishing a lot more than you see as you are seeing with a mother's view.
You are making the same thought processes of thinking that I did with my son. But, if you take a step back and think about this from a broader, more relaxed perspective, you might find a different approach to this situation. I think that you are also right though that you just can not let him slack in attitude and or "work". If you find he isn't getting the work done, tell him he will have to work his Saturday then to get it done. And his Sunday if need be as well. When he does complete something, tell him what an awesome job and that you just knew he could do it. Slowly but surely, he will improve. He didn't get into this place of his in a matter of minutes. It took years to build to this point. So, it is logical to think that it is going to take some time to reverse the damages as well. Patience and a never ending supply of redo's, and do overs, and repeats. I can sure tell you from experience that it took me some time to get my son to the other side of this problem. But I did it! And so can and will you too! Look at what you have already accomplished with him! You can do this! Big Hugs to you.


Quoting JerrysMom2011:

I will talk to his social worker about that. He seems like a generally happy kid though, especially here at home everyone has said what a difference I have already made in his life by taking him from his mothers, and how much happier he is. I just thought taking him out of that enviorment, and nurturing him and showing love and etc would do more then any medication would. 


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Ok...LOTS of people will disagree with me and I understand why...so not starting a debate.

He has issues. Have you thought of trying medication for depression?  Has he seen a psychiatrist (not psychologist)? 

Lack of ambition + anger issues + bad childhood equal a recipe for a disaster. There are meds that can help with those issues.

Quoting JerrysMom2011:

He has, and no one can find anything really wrong with him, he has been through and "graduated" therapy. He has to read things outloud for him to understand what he is reading, and he has gotten by his other grades in school by going to summer school..his mother would always "reward" him with who cares if you dont do well in school..you can go to summer school and pass....so he has always slacked off in school from day one. He in in anger management, but other then that everyone says he is a healthy teenager.


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Has he been tested for educational delays, medical issues that would impact learning, or is he seeing a therapist?

Quoting JerrysMom2011:

I have tried the non structure thing with him and that makes him more lazy. I am trying to find ways to make this stuff fun we only school for about 2 hours a day, he does and can do well when he wants to he just recently got a 100% on a english grammar test that had 60 questions (GED offical pretest) just some days he just...idk not movitvated. If I dont have some type of structure this boy would never do anything. He has had a real hard life (abuse, neglect etc) He is choosing ways he wants to do things. I have gotten him excited in reading FINALLY he loves the series that Dave Pelzer wrote called "a child called it"  He is on the next book now, and we do reading assignments from it etc. 


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Just my opinion...

It sounds like you are doing public school at home. Too structured and rigid.

Have you tried being more relaxed? Unschooling? What about verbal discussions as opposed to written essays? Let him choose the subjects he wants to do? Plan for a day not a week or month? What about doing less subjects a day? Instead of 45 minutes per subject (6 subjects a day) why not do an hour and a half per subject (4 subjects per day)

Homeschool moves at a much faster pace than ps. Literally if he only wanted to do a subject twice a week he would still finish by the end of the year.

I'm willing to bet that you are teaching him the way in which you learn best. And that doesn't suit his learning style. Just a hunch, I could be wrong. 

I really wouldn't jump on the punishing bandwagon just yet because it will make things worse. Try checking into different methods of teaching and different learning styles first.










JerrysMom2011
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 1:54 PM
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You are completely right!!!

I just keep reaching for higher standards because he is responding well with the homeschool and that makes me real excited since this is my first year doing it. I also have the daunting task for taking care an infant, a toddler, working as well. So I feel I am trying to find my groove. 

Thank you for taking the time to help me see the bigger picture it is hard to see it from the inside. I do love him with all my heart just like I do my own biological kids. I have tried for 5 years to get into his life and make a difference but his mom would never let me because she was so jealous of our connection. Now this year I finally have the chance!

Its just frustrating when he doesnt do his full potential on a daily basis, but yes i agree with the saturday sunday thing and taking away his beloved phone and video games (we are a huge video game family so this will be tough for him)

Thank you again



Quoting kirbymom:

Hi. I hope you don't mind if I jump in here. I have been reading all the posts and from what I can gather, you have been making a bigger impact than you can see. The reason you can't see that impact is because this is close to your heart and therefore just see the picture in front of you. Nothing wrong with that. Nothing. But I would like to help broaden that picture for you if I may.
First off, you have taken him from a negative environment and surrounded him with a more positive environment. Then, you took him out of a negative social environment and gave back to him a more productive social environment. He is learning to love reading. He is even beginning to ask for more work. Yes, he is not doing it all at 100% involvement BUT, he IS doing more than ever before. Right? He has improved by leaps and bounds judging from these posts. You have been told by outside influences what a remarkable change he is showing. So, you must be accomplishing a lot more than you see as you are seeing with a mother's view.
You are making the same thought processes of thinking that I did with my son. But, if you take a step back and think about this from a broader, more relaxed perspective, you might find a different approach to this situation. I think that you are also right though that you just can not let him slack in attitude and or "work". If you find he isn't getting the work done, tell him he will have to work his Saturday then to get it done. And his Sunday if need be as well. When he does complete something, tell him what an awesome job and that you just knew he could do it. Slowly but surely, he will improve. He didn't get into this place of his in a matter of minutes. It took years to build to this point. So, it is logical to think that it is going to take some time to reverse the damages as well. Patience and a never ending supply of redo's, and do overs, and repeats. I can sure tell you from experience that it took me some time to get my son to the other side of this problem. But I did it! And so can and will you too! Look at what you have already accomplished with him! You can do this! Big Hugs to you.


Quoting JerrysMom2011:

I will talk to his social worker about that. He seems like a generally happy kid though, especially here at home everyone has said what a difference I have already made in his life by taking him from his mothers, and how much happier he is. I just thought taking him out of that enviorment, and nurturing him and showing love and etc would do more then any medication would. 



Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Ok...LOTS of people will disagree with me and I understand why...so not starting a debate.

He has issues. Have you thought of trying medication for depression?  Has he seen a psychiatrist (not psychologist)? 

Lack of ambition + anger issues + bad childhood equal a recipe for a disaster. There are meds that can help with those issues.

Quoting JerrysMom2011:


He has, and no one can find anything really wrong with him, he has been through and "graduated" therapy. He has to read things outloud for him to understand what he is reading, and he has gotten by his other grades in school by going to summer school..his mother would always "reward" him with who cares if you dont do well in school..you can go to summer school and pass....so he has always slacked off in school from day one. He in in anger management, but other then that everyone says he is a healthy teenager.


Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Has he been tested for educational delays, medical issues that would impact learning, or is he seeing a therapist?

Quoting JerrysMom2011:

I have tried the non structure thing with him and that makes him more lazy. I am trying to find ways to make this stuff fun we only school for about 2 hours a day, he does and can do well when he wants to he just recently got a 100% on a english grammar test that had 60 questions (GED offical pretest) just some days he just...idk not movitvated. If I dont have some type of structure this boy would never do anything. He has had a real hard life (abuse, neglect etc) He is choosing ways he wants to do things. I have gotten him excited in reading FINALLY he loves the series that Dave Pelzer wrote called "a child called it"  He is on the next book now, and we do reading assignments from it etc. 



Quoting PurpleCupcake:

Just my opinion...

It sounds like you are doing public school at home. Too structured and rigid.

Have you tried being more relaxed? Unschooling? What about verbal discussions as opposed to written essays? Let him choose the subjects he wants to do? Plan for a day not a week or month? What about doing less subjects a day? Instead of 45 minutes per subject (6 subjects a day) why not do an hour and a half per subject (4 subjects per day)

Homeschool moves at a much faster pace than ps. Literally if he only wanted to do a subject twice a week he would still finish by the end of the year.

I'm willing to bet that you are teaching him the way in which you learn best. And that doesn't suit his learning style. Just a hunch, I could be wrong. 

I really wouldn't jump on the punishing bandwagon just yet because it will make things worse. Try checking into different methods of teaching and different learning styles first.


















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