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Another relationship change spinoff...

Posted by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 7:58 AM
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 How has homeschooling changed your relationship with your children?

When I first opened the post about changing relationships, I thought it would be about the relationship changes that occur with our children.  Many of my friends and acquaintances say the same thing when they hear/heard that I was homeschooling.  They would say that they couldn't spend that much time with their children.  I tried to explain how my relationship changed with my children during those first few months of homeschooling.  How they learned not to say the things that they said with their friends at public school.  It didn't make me laugh.  How I learned to know when they needed a change of space, change of subject, change of schedule, or just a nap.  How we began to talk.  No I mean really talk. 

We had exhausted all of the "what did you do in school today?" conversations, because I was there for school.  So we began to talk.  I wasn't getting them dressed, fed and packed for an early morning bus ride, so there was time for questions.  I wasn't getting them in the door and seated (once again) to do an hour or more of homework while trying to fix supper.  So there was time for questions.  I found out that while I wasn't looking, these kids had developed interests and senses of humor.  I found that they had gotten a bit Geeky, just like hubby and I are.  I've grown so much closer to them, but I've also learned that I can trust them much more.  When we go out somewhere, we have already had many conversations about why their behavior in the past was unacceptable, so they not only know not to do it but why they shouldn't do it.  I just have the time to explain those things to them.  And only someone who has their children around them all day long every single day can know WHY we CAN spend so much time with our kids.  But Non-homeschoolers simply do not get it.  They feel they can't spend so much time with their children because the time they DO spend with their children is rushing, pushing, cajoling, begging, threatening, pleading, and other unpleasant experiences.  I know it was for me!!

Obvisly there are manynon-hmecholers out the hat DO get it,they r he onthat do not say " could never spend that much time with my kids!"  But there are many that do have these experiences as I did.

 

 
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mem82
by Platinum Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 9:21 AM
I love this! The part about why we can spend this much time with the kids is spot on!
mem82
by Platinum Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 9:22 AM
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I feel bad the parents that won't get the same chance to get to know their child, especially in the first part of the children's life when their personalities are forming.
bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 9:22 AM

 

Quoting mem82:

I love this! The part about why we can spend this much time with the kids is spot on!

 Thank you!

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 9:25 AM

 

Quoting mem82:

I feel bad the parents that won't get the same chance to get to know their child, especially in the first part of the children's life when their personalities are forming.

 There are a lot of things I feel bad about the psers' relationships.  But I probably do feel worse for the daycare/preschool kids. 

mem82
by Platinum Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 9:27 AM
Yeah, my mom does daycare as a job and some of those kids are there for 12hours. I feel blessed that I don't have to work that much just to feed the kids.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 


Quoting mem82:

I feel bad the parents that won't get the same chance to get to know their child, especially in the first part of the children's life when their personalities are forming.

 There are a lot of things I feel bad about the psers' relationships.  But I probably do feel worse for the daycare/preschool kids. 

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 9:47 AM

 I also feel truly blessed.  If I needed to, I would go to work, but it would have to be a true nessecity.  This morning I told my hubby we would be at soccer practice this evening and he told me he felt like he was missing the kids' lives.  I can't imagine feeling that way.

Quoting mem82:

Yeah, my mom does daycare as a job and some of those kids are there for 12hours. I feel blessed that I don't have to work that much just to feed the kids.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 


Quoting mem82:

I feel bad the parents that won't get the same chance to get to know their child, especially in the first part of the children's life when their personalities are forming.

 There are a lot of things I feel bad about the psers' relationships.  But I probably do feel worse for the daycare/preschool kids. 

 

oredeb
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 9:56 AM
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 good post blue!!

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 10:07 AM

 

Quoting oredeb:

 good post blue!!

 Thanks, Debbie!

Bleacheddecay
by Bronze Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 12:26 PM
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We all got closer and more loving toward one another and people in general.

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 12:28 PM
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Quoting Bleacheddecay:

We all got closer and more loving toward one another and people in general.

 That's how I feel about our family too!

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