How has homeschooling changed your relationship with your children?
When I first opened the post about changing relationships, I thought it would be about the relationship changes that occur with our children. Many of my friends and acquaintances say the same thing when they hear/heard that I was homeschooling. They would say that they couldn't spend that much time with their children. I tried to explain how my relationship changed with my children during those first few months of homeschooling. How they learned not to say the things that they said with their friends at public school. It didn't make me laugh. How I learned to know when they needed a change of space, change of subject, change of schedule, or just a nap. How we began to talk. No I mean really talk.
We had exhausted all of the "what did you do in school today?" conversations, because I was there for school. So we began to talk. I wasn't getting them dressed, fed and packed for an early morning bus ride, so there was time for questions. I wasn't getting them in the door and seated (once again) to do an hour or more of homework while trying to fix supper. So there was time for questions. I found out that while I wasn't looking, these kids had developed interests and senses of humor. I found that they had gotten a bit Geeky, just like hubby and I are. I've grown so much closer to them, but I've also learned that I can trust them much more. When we go out somewhere, we have already had many conversations about why their behavior in the past was unacceptable, so they not only know not to do it but why they shouldn't do it. I just have the time to explain those things to them. And only someone who has their children around them all day long every single day can know WHY we CAN spend so much time with our kids. But Non-homeschoolers simply do not get it. They feel they can't spend so much time with their children because the time they DO spend with their children is rushing, pushing, cajoling, begging, threatening, pleading, and other unpleasant experiences. I know it was for me!!
Obvisly there are manynon-hmecholers out the hat DO get it,they r he onthat do not say " could never spend that much time with my kids!" But there are many that do have these experiences as I did.