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So my eldest started getting text messages on the kids phone (my kids share and it's also our house phone) from her public schooled friend that is home from school sick.  Well my eldest is sick too so while eating breakfast they gabbed about how sick they were and her friend basically insinuated that they could talk all day via texting.

I took the phone away after breakfast and after what seemed like the hundredth text from this kid I finally responded with, "This is Cathryns mom and just because she is home sick doesn't mean she can't do school, the joys of homeschooling.  She will get the phone back when her school work is done."  This friend of my daughters is a great kid but has made comments in the past about how easy my kids have it when it comes to schooling.  I kind of get the feeling from the way this kid talks that she thinks it's the glamorous life of school where you don't have very much work.  Hopefully this gave her some insight in to the fact that even homeschoolers have moments where they don't get a break.

Have you had to send such a message to your children's public schooled friends/family?

by on Sep. 24, 2013 at 1:51 PM
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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Sep. 25, 2013 at 11:52 AM

Oh yes, the pros for me outweigh the cons. We'll be working through breaks, holidays and vacations but we'll also have fun trips and get to do things her friends can't :-)

Quoting Knightquester:

How's she doing?  Does she like homeschooling so far?

There are so many pro's and con's, as my children have stated to homeschooling.  The having to work when you're not severely sick or during holidays and breaks their public school friends get off is I think some of the few con's to a homeschool child.  Getting to do things, go places and take breaks when their friends are in school is a huge positive trade off to those same cons.

Quoting paganbaby:

Not yet, but give it time,lol. So far dd's only been home a week.




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Knightquester
by Bronze Member on Sep. 25, 2013 at 11:53 AM

Lol, I've had to snap at the local neighborhood kids before too.  Finally I started hanging a sign on my door during public school holidays and breaks when the neighborhood kids want to play with mine that basically states we're doing school and to not disturb.  So far they've been respectful when that signs hanging out there to not mess with our door/doorbell.

Quoting No_Difference:

 O yes.... The neighbor's daughter seems to think we do nothing but art projects all day... It may be because when we watched her last year after she was done w/ school, we finished our day with art projects (so that she wasn't disrupting a core subject). This year now, theres been a few times we've done a core subject while she's been around and she'll quick try to do some of it, or rush my daughter while I'm doing dishes or not staring at the two of them even tho they KNOW she's not allowed in the "school nook" while Jamie is doing school work :/.  She keeps begging her mom to homeschool, but I honestly think its because she firmly believes we do nothing all day...
There are two other neighborhood kids as well that when they have off of school come and ring the door bell every five minutes to ask if the kids can play, even though I tell them, "No, we're doing school work right now." One day it got to the point where I had to tell them after ignoring the door bell as best we could (which was hard with the dog barking himself into a frenzy...) "If you ring the door bell one more time, the kids will not be playing because they've been so distracted from your constant disruptions, and they'll have to do more school work tomorrow (which was a weekend). I don't think they'll like you very much after that, do you?" ...my cranky side showed that day...

SusanTheWriter
by Bronze Member on Sep. 25, 2013 at 11:58 AM

I wouldn't even start to make that decision now with her. Just tell her that you'll decide when the time comes, that she can have some input, but it's really your decision in the end.

Quoting paganbaby:

Her day was very easy. A little too easy,lol. So far Monday was her only day. We have doc appts yesterday and today so she'll be working on the weekends to make that up.

She says she likes staying home but we'll see if she changes her mind once I beef up her studies a bit ;-) Oh and we're arguing already about her going to high school. I absolutely do not want her attending but I told her before it was up to her. Would it make me a bad mom to change my mind?

Quoting Knightquester:

How's she doing?  Does she like homeschooling so far?

There are so many pro's and con's, as my children have stated to homeschooling.  The having to work when you're not severely sick or during holidays and breaks their public school friends get off is I think some of the few con's to a homeschool child.  Getting to do things, go places and take breaks when their friends are in school is a huge positive trade off to those same cons.

Quoting paganbaby:

Not yet, but give it time,lol. So far dd's only been home a week.





paganbaby
by Silver Member on Sep. 25, 2013 at 12:01 PM

Can do! That takes a lot of pressure off of me. I'm stressing enough as it is trying to catch her up to basics, organise my records and keep her brother going at the same time...

Quoting SusanTheWriter:

I wouldn't even start to make that decision now with her. Just tell her that you'll decide when the time comes, that she can have some input, but it's really your decision in the end.

Quoting paganbaby:

Her day was very easy. A little too easy,lol. So far Monday was her only day. We have doc appts yesterday and today so she'll be working on the weekends to make that up.

She says she likes staying home but we'll see if she changes her mind once I beef up her studies a bit ;-) Oh and we're arguing already about her going to high school. I absolutely do not want her attending but I told her before it was up to her. Would it make me a bad mom to change my mind?

Quoting Knightquester:

How's she doing?  Does she like homeschooling so far?

There are so many pro's and con's, as my children have stated to homeschooling.  The having to work when you're not severely sick or during holidays and breaks their public school friends get off is I think some of the few con's to a homeschool child.  Getting to do things, go places and take breaks when their friends are in school is a huge positive trade off to those same cons.

Quoting paganbaby:

Not yet, but give it time,lol. So far dd's only been home a week.






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Knightquester
by Bronze Member on Sep. 25, 2013 at 12:01 PM

Everybody is different and if there were a lot of negative crime associated with the school then you'd have a valid reason for her safety to break that promise to her.

I would maybe place stipulations on her in order for her to go to high school she'd have to achieve.  Maybe make them very academic oriented to where she'll fly through high school, or get bored and want to go back to homeschooling.  If she doesn't meet her goal by high school then she agrees to stay home with you and continue homeschooling.  So a modified promise to her and let her know your reason is purely academic concern.

Quoting paganbaby:

Her day was very easy. A little too easy,lol. So far Monday was her only day. We have doc appts yesterday and today so she'll be working on the weekends to make that up.

She says she likes staying home but we'll see if she changes her mind once I beef up her studies a bit ;-) Oh and we're arguing already about her going to high school. I absolutely do not want her attending but I told her before it was up to her. Would it make me a bad mom to change my mind?

Quoting Knightquester:

How's she doing?  Does she like homeschooling so far?

There are so many pro's and con's, as my children have stated to homeschooling.  The having to work when you're not severely sick or during holidays and breaks their public school friends get off is I think some of the few con's to a homeschool child.  Getting to do things, go places and take breaks when their friends are in school is a huge positive trade off to those same cons.

Quoting paganbaby:

Not yet, but give it time,lol. So far dd's only been home a week.

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Sep. 25, 2013 at 12:23 PM

 So many of them do not realize the work that other psers put into their grades either.  It's very difficult for them to get out of their own personal perspective sometimes.

It's like the parents that don't think their child could homeschool because they would want to watch tv all the time.  I've found that my kids get very bored watching tv and ask for extra schoolwork.  That is unfathomable to someone who hasn't been there.

Quoting Knightquester:

Lol, yea' I have a sign I've had to put up on my door to keep us from getting disturbed during holidays and public school breaks that we don't take off.  I know a lot of the public school kids romanticize about homeschooling but I don't think they fully realize it means they still have to school.  This isn't to say they don't realize that my children are up to par (or in a few cases ahead) of them educationally, just that they don't grasp that my kids had to do work to get there.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 Yes.  We have a different schedule than the public school, but the kids from the ps see us out and about all December while they are in school and ignore that we have school during some of their holidays.  We must have a MUCH shorter school year than they do.  Eventhough we don't take spring break, Columbus Day, MLK Day, any of the parent/teacher conference days.  They definately romanticize our set up.

 

Knightquester
by Bronze Member on Sep. 25, 2013 at 12:30 PM

I really think a positive learning environment breeds a child that loves to learn.  I know last year I was told by another parent that forced their child to attend the Japanese school my children were also attending, that my children were weird because they loved being there and learning.

My children will do school work often without being asked to, and they enjoy learning.  It's sad that many of their public schooled peers seem to have lost the love of learning, and even worse is that the parents can't fathom a child that has that to the point of labeling those that love to learn, weird.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 So many of them do not realize the work that other psers put into their grades either.  It's very difficult for them to get out of their own personal perspective sometimes.

It's like the parents that don't think their child could homeschool because they would want to watch tv all the time.  I've found that my kids get very bored watching tv and ask for extra schoolwork.  That is unfathomable to someone who hasn't been there.

Quoting Knightquester:

Lol, yea' I have a sign I've had to put up on my door to keep us from getting disturbed during holidays and public school breaks that we don't take off.  I know a lot of the public school kids romanticize about homeschooling but I don't think they fully realize it means they still have to school.  This isn't to say they don't realize that my children are up to par (or in a few cases ahead) of them educationally, just that they don't grasp that my kids had to do work to get there.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 Yes.  We have a different schedule than the public school, but the kids from the ps see us out and about all December while they are in school and ignore that we have school during some of their holidays.  We must have a MUCH shorter school year than they do.  Eventhough we don't take spring break, Columbus Day, MLK Day, any of the parent/teacher conference days.  They definately romanticize our set up.

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Sep. 25, 2013 at 12:36 PM

 It is sad.  Many of the other parents I know around here do not read.  They think I am odd because I read.  It is a point of pride that they haven't read anything since they got out of high school and stopped having assignments.  In our house books and reading time are treasured.  That is why they cannot fathom the love of learning, they lost it long ago.

Quoting Knightquester:

I really think a positive learning environment breeds a child that loves to learn.  I know last year I was told by another parent that forced their child to attend the Japanese school my children were also attending, that my children were weird because they loved being there and learning.

My children will do school work often without being asked to, and they enjoy learning.  It's sad that many of their public schooled peers seem to have lost the love of learning, and even worse is that the parents can't fathom a child that has that to the point of labeling those that love to learn, weird.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 So many of them do not realize the work that other psers put into their grades either.  It's very difficult for them to get out of their own personal perspective sometimes.

It's like the parents that don't think their child could homeschool because they would want to watch tv all the time.  I've found that my kids get very bored watching tv and ask for extra schoolwork.  That is unfathomable to someone who hasn't been there.

Quoting Knightquester:

Lol, yea' I have a sign I've had to put up on my door to keep us from getting disturbed during holidays and public school breaks that we don't take off.  I know a lot of the public school kids romanticize about homeschooling but I don't think they fully realize it means they still have to school.  This isn't to say they don't realize that my children are up to par (or in a few cases ahead) of them educationally, just that they don't grasp that my kids had to do work to get there.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 Yes.  We have a different schedule than the public school, but the kids from the ps see us out and about all December while they are in school and ignore that we have school during some of their holidays.  We must have a MUCH shorter school year than they do.  Eventhough we don't take spring break, Columbus Day, MLK Day, any of the parent/teacher conference days.  They definately romanticize our set up.

 

Knightquester
by Bronze Member on Sep. 25, 2013 at 12:53 PM

Are you in California?  I think it's a trend here for people to "not read".

I fell in love with my husband in college because he enjoyed books as much as I do.  We're both avid readers, and our children love to read too.  We have rooms with lots of bookcases that are packed to the brim, and still we don't have space for our entire library.  I miss living in Oregon where there were more people that love to read, and they have Powells bookstores.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 It is sad.  Many of the other parents I know around here do not read.  They think I am odd because I read.  It is a point of pride that they haven't read anything since they got out of high school and stopped having assignments.  In our house books and reading time are treasured.  That is why they cannot fathom the love of learning, they lost it long ago.

Quoting Knightquester:

I really think a positive learning environment breeds a child that loves to learn.  I know last year I was told by another parent that forced their child to attend the Japanese school my children were also attending, that my children were weird because they loved being there and learning.

My children will do school work often without being asked to, and they enjoy learning.  It's sad that many of their public schooled peers seem to have lost the love of learning, and even worse is that the parents can't fathom a child that has that to the point of labeling those that love to learn, weird.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 So many of them do not realize the work that other psers put into their grades either.  It's very difficult for them to get out of their own personal perspective sometimes.

It's like the parents that don't think their child could homeschool because they would want to watch tv all the time.  I've found that my kids get very bored watching tv and ask for extra schoolwork.  That is unfathomable to someone who hasn't been there.

Quoting Knightquester:

Lol, yea' I have a sign I've had to put up on my door to keep us from getting disturbed during holidays and public school breaks that we don't take off.  I know a lot of the public school kids romanticize about homeschooling but I don't think they fully realize it means they still have to school.  This isn't to say they don't realize that my children are up to par (or in a few cases ahead) of them educationally, just that they don't grasp that my kids had to do work to get there.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 Yes.  We have a different schedule than the public school, but the kids from the ps see us out and about all December while they are in school and ignore that we have school during some of their holidays.  We must have a MUCH shorter school year than they do.  Eventhough we don't take spring break, Columbus Day, MLK Day, any of the parent/teacher conference days.  They definately romanticize our set up.

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Sep. 25, 2013 at 1:15 PM

 I'm in very rural Pennsylvania.  We have many bookshelves that are overflowing with books, too.  We have a better selection than our local library even.  My mother loves to read and she passed it on to me.  Now i get to pass that love on to my kids.  They love reading and they love learning!  It's very sad that so few people around us share the same love.

Quoting Knightquester:

Are you in California?  I think it's a trend here for people to "not read".

I fell in love with my husband in college because he enjoyed books as much as I do.  We're both avid readers, and our children love to read too.  We have rooms with lots of bookcases that are packed to the brim, and still we don't have space for our entire library.  I miss living in Oregon where there were more people that love to read, and they have Powells bookstores.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 It is sad.  Many of the other parents I know around here do not read.  They think I am odd because I read.  It is a point of pride that they haven't read anything since they got out of high school and stopped having assignments.  In our house books and reading time are treasured.  That is why they cannot fathom the love of learning, they lost it long ago.

Quoting Knightquester:

I really think a positive learning environment breeds a child that loves to learn.  I know last year I was told by another parent that forced their child to attend the Japanese school my children were also attending, that my children were weird because they loved being there and learning.

My children will do school work often without being asked to, and they enjoy learning.  It's sad that many of their public schooled peers seem to have lost the love of learning, and even worse is that the parents can't fathom a child that has that to the point of labeling those that love to learn, weird.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 So many of them do not realize the work that other psers put into their grades either.  It's very difficult for them to get out of their own personal perspective sometimes.

It's like the parents that don't think their child could homeschool because they would want to watch tv all the time.  I've found that my kids get very bored watching tv and ask for extra schoolwork.  That is unfathomable to someone who hasn't been there.

Quoting Knightquester:

Lol, yea' I have a sign I've had to put up on my door to keep us from getting disturbed during holidays and public school breaks that we don't take off.  I know a lot of the public school kids romanticize about homeschooling but I don't think they fully realize it means they still have to school.  This isn't to say they don't realize that my children are up to par (or in a few cases ahead) of them educationally, just that they don't grasp that my kids had to do work to get there.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 Yes.  We have a different schedule than the public school, but the kids from the ps see us out and about all December while they are in school and ignore that we have school during some of their holidays.  We must have a MUCH shorter school year than they do.  Eventhough we don't take spring break, Columbus Day, MLK Day, any of the parent/teacher conference days.  They definately romanticize our set up.

 

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