math & other "failures?" for lack of better word... ((super long)) **ETA: in green**
My eldest is seriously smart.... at least she used to be. I think she still is. However, as a muscle atrophes when you don't use it, I think the brain does, too.
We did k-12 when she was 5. Wasn't serious about HSing then, but we lived in a bad school district.
Moved six months later (at 5 1/2) and put her in public school. The school felt she needed to go to first grade (not kindy) because of how advanced she was. Totally not my suggestion... all led by the school.
She liked it at first, but quickly turned sour. She ended up with very little friends, picked on, etc... major social issues that had her talking about dying and going to heaven all the time. As those early years moved on, she got worse and worse and started shutting down into books and ignoring pretty much everyone. Refusing to do work, refusing to do anything.
FFWD... we pulled her out after third grade started over with the same issues. ((She was a grade ahead, remember... so should have been a second grader.))
We popped her on time4learning.com, which she liked for about a month and then it was like pulling teeth. She kept scoring really low on everything that didn't involve stories and make believe.... (just skipping and not doing the work.)
Ok, so following year, we tried Saxon. This would have been her third grade year (by age cut off of the school districts). She tested successfully into Saxon 6/5. So we, thinking maybe her probs is partly due to boredom and being held back... let her do 6/5.
She did swimmingly well... for about a month.... then it became gruelling... She'd do great in front of me, but if I left her to do a couple problems (not even a bunch, but just a couple)... she would pick at her lips or draw circles in the air. Complete refusal to do the work.
So, the following year, we decided to do 6th grade Rod and Staff. Even though the Saxon was actually more advanced, I thought Rod & Staff would lay a better foundation of setting up the problems and writing them out more consistantly. Yeah... lasted about a month. She got bored.
During that year, I lose a baby, relocate once, get pregnant and relocate again the next year.
So that next year, with new baby, I decided to go back to time 4 learning and supplement english and library books. I put her on their 6th grade math and tell her that if it's too easy, we'll change it to 7th grade. This is technically her third year in the 6th grade math, just different curriculums.
Yeah... they did the work this year... but my daughter kept hitting the arrows to skip without listening to stuff. She didn't pay attention to it, and therefore retained pretty much nothing.
FINALLY, we come to this year. I threw my hands up and decided to pay for a curriculum that might work.
We pick Math U See. Terrific curriculum. I love it and it's working for my second oldest. Seems to be working for her during the easy first several lessons. She is doing Zeta, which is about sixth grade level. Ok, fine... so we've done something in the sixth grade level for four years. However, she is now the age of a sixth grader, so I'm ok with that. She's still not behind.
Ok, MUS lessons are getting where they are still very easy (comprehension wise)... but she actually has to write out some problems and do the work... woe is me... we are back to pulling teeth again.
Here's my issue. I don't want her in the habit of taking 3-5 hours every day to get about 1 hours worth of work out of her. BUT... that being said, she has a 97% average in the class so far. And I don't let her fix it for a better grade. She gets the grade she gets. Out of all the errors she HAS made... none of them have been over not understanding... but of not paying attention. She will not put in the decimal, not write the "word" part of the answer for a story problem, she will just up and forget to borrow from the other number, transpose numbers in her head, etc... She just really doesn't care about her work.
So... what is your opinion ladies? she obviously KNOWS the work. However, I'm concerned about moving into algebra and higher maths if she cannot work it out on paper.
I guess what I'm asking is, would you start having deadlines or giving her zeros? Or is that too much? Because she will honestly get a zero every day. Or, let her just keep being slow and miss a lot of other things in her life?
***EDITED TO ADD***
Thank you ladies!!! I am feeling a LOT better about this and have a plan of action. I think I'm going to let her do the following with MUS Zeta:
1. Watch video.
2. Complete the Final application and enrichment page (neat page that usually has extra concepts and ways to apply math).
3. THE NEXT DAY: (to show retention of stuff learned) take test. If showing confusion on any portion of the test, or if score under a 90% on the test, then the child will go back and do the work they skipped.
I think the kids will be elated, and with not sitting at the table pouring over math (needlessly?) for those extra hours, we will have more time to LIVE and learn other stuff.