This is what my dad asked me on Sunday after he watched my kids for the night. I told him yes, I was. That BOTH my 4 year old and almost 6 year old are doing Kindergarten level work. We unschool, he doesn't quite get the concept of it, he thinks that since I don't have a formal curriculum right now, that my children will fall behind, even though they were both advanced to begin with. I don't push my kids, we do about one or two subjects a day right now, the rest of the day is "free play learning". He went on to say that my daughter had asked him a math question, so he helped her figure it out (8 + 8, so far they know everything that adds up to 10) and he went on to say she kept asking him math questions and they would figure it out together by counting on fingers and I told him at home, for numbers above 10, we use counting rocks and I assured him we DO do math at home (as if he couldnt tell by the fact that she was asking him math questions in the first place FOR FUN).
I do feel my oldest is slipping a bit, but its not because I am not working on her schooling, she is loosing interest in some things. My youngest on the other hand has a HUGE interest right now for all things learning and is actually advancing on his older sister in most subjects. I have her working on spelling, but she is behind on reading, she just doesnt want to. I ask her to sound out words and she will flat out tell me "I dont want to" and walk away, if I try to force her to try to say the word, she gets a bit upset and feels forced, so I try not to push her too hard, I just have a hard time watching her younger brother read to HER because she doesn't even want to try. We read one book before bed every night and they are welcome to ask us to read them a book any time of the day, but I noticed my son, who asked me to underline each word as I read it, will literally figure out the word I am reading by looking at the word I am pointing to, listening to me say it, and in his own mind, put all the letter sounds together to re-create the word I just said, its very cool to watch him do it, I just wish I could get my daughter more interested in schooling/learning again so she doesnt fall behind her public schooled peers. :/
I don't know, everytime I start to feel a bit of confidence in my choices, someone tries to bring me down. I don't think he meant to hurt my feelings by questioning our schooling, but he brings it up often enough for me to feel like he doesn't support me at all. My kids father, my SO, supports us 100%, the rest of our family really just doesn't care, they support us for the most part, but it never really gets brought up.
on Oct. 7, 2013 at 9:26 AM