I am having some issues.
I have a 10.5 year old girl. She is a rollercoaster of emotions. She has not started periods yet, thank God, and at her yearly checkup a few months ago her pediatrician said she didn't think it would be this year as there are things that "aren't happening yet." But she is a mess emotionally. She can be perfectly sweet and even-tempered and ten minutes later either screaming at someone or bawling her eyes out.
This morning, she was fine. DH got up early and took her running (we try to exercise her every day because she gets so anxious, this seems to help). Then we had breakfast - she was fine. Then we were about to leave for her piano lesson and she went in the bathroom and was sobbing LOUDLY. I asked what was wrong and she said that she needed to go to the bathroom but couldn't go. This went on for awhile, so I had to cancel the piano lesson because we would be too late. That set her off crying even more.
She goes pee a lot, but not like with pain or urgency. It's just anxiety that if she doesn't go now, she'll have to go later and may not be able to find one right away (every time we are about to leave the house she goes). It's all nervousness. She has a great life - her parents are happily married, we take very good care of her, she has a few very close friends, all her physical needs are met, she's in various activities - yet she is riddled with anxiety and worry. Her dad is much better than I am about being patient and calm about it (I have a lot of anxiety so I think it upsets me to see I've passed on those genes), and stays up with her almost an hour every night just talking about things that worry or upset her.
Ugh. Any great books on parenting tween girls? Or suggestions? She's always been a nervous child, I think with the hormones starting now, it's just making it a lot worse.