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Is this a selfish reason to homeschool?

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My 6yo has been home for a three day weekend and I LOVED it. It was so nice to have her home and that made me realize, I miss her. She was the only one who didn't go to pre school so I was used to having her home with me. She was my buddy :-)

Now during the week I really don't have much time to spend with her. After school I pick up her and Michelle (a little girl I baby sit). All of us go to the REC center, do homework, eat snack, play at the park, come home cook dinner, then it's bath, teeth and bed. On the weekends I catch up on house work and run errands. I just feel like her childhood is slipping away while I'm busy doing other things.

She's doing fine in school, but I'm really, really considering pulling her out next year. The thought of sharing her day and watching her learn and grow is very appealing.

Is that selfish of me?

by on Oct. 8, 2013 at 11:13 AM
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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2013 at 12:06 PM

I already have my older two (8yo ds and 14yo dd) at home. And I think it would be great. Ds is just a bit ahead of her academically so I know he could be a big help. I want to talk to her but I'm worried about her reaction. She knows I brought her brother and sister home for failing academically and that's not the case with her. I don't want her to feel like it's a punishment of some sort :-/

Quoting 5PointedHuman:

I don't think so. Do you have other children you're considering homeschooling? It's so neat to see older siblings be a part of their younger siblings' learning experience. Maybe talk to your daughter and ask how she feels about it?


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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2013 at 12:08 PM

Lord knows I have plenty of horror stories of my own from PS :-(

Quoting jorjiegirl:

My dd is 3 and I plan on homeschooling, I can't see me sending her out into a school with ppl I don't know etc...I'm i read the stir daily and if some of those horror stories are true no thanks I will gladly keep mine home where I know she's safe


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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2013 at 12:10 PM

That's my thoughts too. I'm so worried about missing out and she's growing and changeing so fast! 

Quoting oredeb:

 no i dont think so, shes your child, why wouldnt you wana spend more time with her, they are only young once! i dont regret any time i spent with my kids while they were young( or older!) and would homeschool all over again if i had to


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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2013 at 12:11 PM

Thank you very much. Now you have my crying,lol! 

I know those parents you're talking about. Terrible.

Quoting ambertreas76:

Not at all.  I think it is selfish when parents want their children to go to school for the sole purpose of the parents having more time to themselves.  

My husband and I decided to homeschool because of his profession, mainly.  He owns a trucking business.  He is gone 5 to 7 days with varying days off.  2 days before ps orientation, my 5 year old looked at me and said 'Mommy, I gave to spend lots of time with Daddy now because, when school starts, I won't have time to spend with him'.  You better believe, after I stopped crying on the phone with my husband, I handed in the homeschool paperwork within 24 hours of that comment.  We had thought about hs since the kids were born and even before we had kids.  We do not live in a bad neighborhood.  We have A-list schools and great teachers but my family is extremely important and time is short. Is that selfish of me?

You are not being selfish.  You are being honest with yourself that time with her means alot.  It's one of those things that are often overlooked.


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kmath
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2013 at 12:12 PM
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I don't think it is selfish, but if she is doing well in school then I don't know that I would pull her out, especially if she is going to feel she is being punished.  Any reason to homeschool is fine and if that is what is best for you guys then pull her. 

paganbaby
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2013 at 12:15 PM

Me too! They're only little once. One of my biggest fears is 20 years from now I'll look back and regret not spending enough time with them.

Quoting ablackdolphin:

Nope, one of the reasons we homeschool!  I think lots of family time is VERY important!


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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2013 at 12:17 PM

This is so true. By the end of the day, she's cranky and I'm tired. We spend the best parts of our day away from each other.

Quoting twyliatepeka:

Not selfish at all. I think wanting to be in your child's life more is a wonderful reason. Parents should want to spend time with their kids rather than being content watching while the school system does most of it for you. they spend so much time in school when they go to public that when their day is done you really don't get to see them a whole lot and when you do they are tired & fussy.


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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2013 at 12:20 PM
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Me too! surprisedLol

Quoting SMTCMMoore:

It's one of the reasons we chose this. I actually enjoy my children! Gasp!


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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2013 at 12:21 PM

This is it, right here.

Quoting tairakittie:

Thats why I homeschool, our time on this earth is short no matter how you look at it and I want to spend as much time with my kids as I can, watch them learn and grow!! Its a great reason to homeschool.


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candiedgala
by on Oct. 8, 2013 at 12:23 PM

That's one of the main reasons why I want to homeschool. The time together is so precious, why give up any of it if I don't have to.

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