How do you deal with it when your child lies to you? I guess I'm talking older kid, not under 7 or anything (mine biggest lying child is my 11 yr old eldest)...
She lied three distinct times today, and was adamently INSISTING she was telling the truth even though in all three occasions her Dad and I knew 100% otherwise. We believe, that at her age, it's important to know and say the truth when you've done wrong. Not like she has to give an oral report or anything extreme like that, but you have to at least admit to the error and the lie. Otherwise, it's easier to keep lying.
So, after getting into trouble the second time and REALLY dealing with the lying. We grounded her from going to church clubs tonight and she was supposed to move laundry along instead. She immediately goes to her room to fold and put away laundry and instead starts reading.
About 30 minutes later, I catch her not having done any laundry and I ask her about that and get lied to. I have to go dig out the book and deal with the lying all over again.
So... now she's missing the field trip tomorrow and will be left at home with a few assignments to complete before she can do anything else (luckily Dad will be here working from home.)
I really feel like crap because I HATE keeping her from stuff like this. She hasn't met the other kids in the group yet, and they missed the last activity because we all were sick.
I used to be a lot tougher than I am. I feel terrible she's not going.
If lying isn't the issue at your home, what areas of life do you really get tired of disciplining all the time? What techniques work, and what has backfired?