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wth were they thinking? UPDATE

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I went to drop my boys at their school this morning. And apparently that's when stupid ideas come to mind!

My aunt brought over my little cousin (who I homeschool with my daughter, dd is 9yo and cousin is 11yo). Well I was gone doing my morning thing and my aunt had to leave before I got back to do her food handlers class so the girls were alone for maybe 5 to 7 min. I never thought anything of it even tho I have my 1 and 2 yo dds sleeping in my bed. It's just a few min and my gma lives next door.

Well I walk inside and I'm like crap! Wtf is that burning smell? So I'm running around, I go to the kitchen and I don't smell it. I'm frantic asking the girls when the smell start? They say "I don't smell anything"(first red flag) so I'm like ok its over here towards the kids rooms. I go to the laundry room cuz we've been having issues with a old leak somewhere in there and thought maybe it was electrical even though it didn't smell like that. But I go in there and the smell disappears. I go into the bathroom cuz the smell is getting stronger and it disappears again. I'm running into all 3 kids rooms. Nothing in my oldest sons room and I cam smell it in my youngest sons room but I can tell its not coming from his room either. Finally, my daughter's room is last and the smell is so strong I said oh, sh*t its in here! I tell dd to unplug everything. And I'm looking at all the plugs-nothing. I finally open the closet door just to be sure and the smell is coming from there!

I look down and what do I see a box of matches and burned sheet of paper. I was automatically pissed! I asked my daughter what was going on (btw my dd is following me around helping out and oh so sweet cousin is just sitting her a$$ on my couch not concerned) my daughter looked sooo guilty and just tells me that they were burning paper cuz cousin said so. I asked cousin and she's like Idk, it wasn't me.

I know for a fact that cousin is lying cuz my kids all know where the matches are joy (we only have then cuz we have a gas stove) and we have never had this problem. I told both the girls I was very upset and irritated that lied to me and just straight up livid cuz my babies are in the house!

Even now cousin is lying. These matches are joy out of reach of the smaller kids and my dd isnt tall enough to reach them with using a stool or chair. And guess who is tall enough.....cousin!

When my aunt gets back from class I'm going to talk to her and let both of them know (cousin and aunt) that fires IN MY HOUSE are unacceptable and I don't appreciate lying!

I will never again underestimate these girls and will never allow them to be alone...for as far as I can help it.


Update:
We talked to the girls later that day. While my daughter was upset and crying and listened to what we had to say cousin was staring off into space and had this look of "why do I care what you have to say". She apologized because my aunt made her but she didn't mean it. And even tho my daughter is being punished for going along with the idea cousin is going on WITHOUT punishment. Ir-i-tating.

Since this has happened I have done nothing but think about this and talked with my 3 older childeren. They say she bullies them and scares them and I'm afraid of what other plans she has cooking that my kids may feel like they have to participate in so I have decided to talk to my aunt this afternoon (I'm unwillingly at work) and tell her I can no longer homeschool cousin. (On top of this incident cousin shows no interest in learning and waits for my daughter to answer questions before answering herself or just says Idk without trying).
by on Oct. 30, 2013 at 10:25 AM
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AutymsMommy
by Silver Member on Oct. 30, 2013 at 12:47 PM
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I have neighbors home next door as well; it never crossed my mind that I could leave my 1 year old asleep in his bed while I take my eldest to school.

As you saw today, anything can happen. A 9 year old is never a capable babysitter and, imo, an 11 year old who isn't directly related (i.e. a sibling) isn't a capable sitter - and is only a capable sitter to a sibling if she shows abnormal maturity and comfort tending to the younger children.



Quoting abuckalew:

My gma lives right next door and my girls were asleep. That's why I just went and came back.

It wont be happening again


Quoting AutymsMommy:

I can't get past that you left your 1 and 2 year old alone, for however short amount of time, while you were off the property. Sorry. If they had set the house on fire... yeah.




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usmom3
by BJ on Oct. 30, 2013 at 1:06 PM

 That is scary you are very lucky that it did not turn out the way it could have!

abuckalew
by Member on Oct. 30, 2013 at 1:32 PM
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I'm not talking about some random neighbor. Im talking about my grandmother. If I did have random neighbors I wouldn't depend on them to keep an eye on my girls


Quoting AutymsMommy:

I have neighbors home next door as well; it never crossed my mind that I could leave my 1 year old asleep in his bed while I take my eldest to school.

As you saw today, anything can happen. A 9 year old is never a capable babysitter and, imo, an 11 year old who isn't directly related (i.e. a sibling) isn't a capable sitter - and is only a capable sitter to a sibling if she shows abnormal maturity and comfort tending to the younger children.




Quoting abuckalew:

My gma lives right next door and my girls were asleep. That's why I just went and came back.



It wont be happening again





Quoting AutymsMommy:

I can't get past that you left your 1 and 2 year old alone, for however short amount of time, while you were off the property. Sorry. If they had set the house on fire... yeah.







abuckalew
by Member on Oct. 30, 2013 at 1:32 PM
Yes I know. First and last time I do this.


Quoting usmom3:

 That is scary you are very lucky that it did not turn out the way it could have!


kirbymom
by Sonja on Oct. 30, 2013 at 5:01 PM
Yikes! That would be extremely scary.
I have issues leaving my 16 and 17 year olds in charge, if I feel like I have to go somewhere. So glad that something worse didn't happen.
paganbaby
by Silver Member on Oct. 30, 2013 at 8:43 PM
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I disagree. Most 9 year olds are more than capable of staying in a house for 15 mins with a couple sleeping toddlers. It's no different than running to the laundry room or checking the mail. And why would you assume that about an 11yo? Seems like a rather odd thing to say.

Grandma next door is not alone. No more than grandma in the shower means the kids are alone.

Quoting AutymsMommy:

I'm sorry, I do not think a 9 year old is a capable baby sitter, and the 11 year old isn't, imo, capable of watching children who aren't directly her siblings. Yes, I consider them "alone" - that someone was home next door doesn't really matter.


Quoting paganbaby:

But they weren't alone. The 9yo and 11yo were there. The OP would have no way of knowing the girls would lose their minds and set the house on fire.

Quoting AutymsMommy:

I can't get past that you left your 1 and 2 year old alone, for however short amount of time, while you were off the property. Sorry. If they had set the house on fire... yeah.





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paganbaby
by Silver Member on Oct. 30, 2013 at 8:45 PM
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Really? Are they very immature?

Quoting kirbymom:

Yikes! That would be extremely scary.
I have issues leaving my 16 and 17 year olds in charge, if I feel like I have to go somewhere. So glad that something worse didn't happen.


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KrissyKC
by Silver Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 9:38 AM

If I thought my 11 year old were responsible, I wouldn't see a problem with the brief moments running to the school and back with the 11 yr old at home.   Especially if I lived next door to family or at least a trusted neighbor that would be home.

However, now that they hid in the closet and played with fire, then you know they aren't responsible and can adjust your routine accordingly.

First thing I would do is tell aunt she doesn't have the option of leaving them and must stay until you return from the school to leave.   Otherwise, consider your agreement void and she can homeschool her grandchild on her own.


Quoting abuckalew:

My gma lives right next door and my girls were asleep. That's why I just went and came back.

It wont be happening again


Quoting AutymsMommy:

I can't get past that you left your 1 and 2 year old alone, for however short amount of time, while you were off the property. Sorry. If they had set the house on fire... yeah.




abuckalew
by Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 10:59 AM
Funny you say that out agreement is null and void cuz I was thinking the same thing this morning. My aunt hasnt kept up her part of the agreement to help financially or with food and meals and now I can't trust her grand daughter at all. Since I now feel that my children are bullied (their words, and a different story) by her and don't know what's shes capable of I will no longer be homeschooling this girl.


Quoting KrissyKC:If I thought my 11 year old were responsible, I wouldn't see a problem with the brief moments running to the school and back with the 11 yr old at home.   Especially if I lived next door to family or at least a trusted neighbor that would be home.However, now that they hid in the closet and played with fire, then you know they aren't responsible and can adjust your routine accordingly.First thing I would do is tell aunt she doesn't have the option of leaving them and must stay until you return from the school to leave.   Otherwise, consider your agreement void and she can homeschool her grandchild on her own.
Quoting abuckalew:My gma lives right next door and my girls were asleep. That's why I just went and came back.

It wont be happening again


Quoting AutymsMommy:I can't get past that you left your 1 and 2 year old alone, for however short amount of time, while you were off the property. Sorry. If they had set the house on fire... yeah.


snowangel1979
by Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 1:09 PM
How scary.

Honestly since they are so curious about fire, I would spend some time learning about fire.
How fire starts, how much damage it does, how people die, how pets die, ect,ect,ect. I also wouldn't exactly keep it PG, let them see what happens and what someone goes threw when a home catches on fire. Take a feild trip to the fire department and have them talk to them.
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