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wth were they thinking? UPDATE

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I went to drop my boys at their school this morning. And apparently that's when stupid ideas come to mind!

My aunt brought over my little cousin (who I homeschool with my daughter, dd is 9yo and cousin is 11yo). Well I was gone doing my morning thing and my aunt had to leave before I got back to do her food handlers class so the girls were alone for maybe 5 to 7 min. I never thought anything of it even tho I have my 1 and 2 yo dds sleeping in my bed. It's just a few min and my gma lives next door.

Well I walk inside and I'm like crap! Wtf is that burning smell? So I'm running around, I go to the kitchen and I don't smell it. I'm frantic asking the girls when the smell start? They say "I don't smell anything"(first red flag) so I'm like ok its over here towards the kids rooms. I go to the laundry room cuz we've been having issues with a old leak somewhere in there and thought maybe it was electrical even though it didn't smell like that. But I go in there and the smell disappears. I go into the bathroom cuz the smell is getting stronger and it disappears again. I'm running into all 3 kids rooms. Nothing in my oldest sons room and I cam smell it in my youngest sons room but I can tell its not coming from his room either. Finally, my daughter's room is last and the smell is so strong I said oh, sh*t its in here! I tell dd to unplug everything. And I'm looking at all the plugs-nothing. I finally open the closet door just to be sure and the smell is coming from there!

I look down and what do I see a box of matches and burned sheet of paper. I was automatically pissed! I asked my daughter what was going on (btw my dd is following me around helping out and oh so sweet cousin is just sitting her a$$ on my couch not concerned) my daughter looked sooo guilty and just tells me that they were burning paper cuz cousin said so. I asked cousin and she's like Idk, it wasn't me.

I know for a fact that cousin is lying cuz my kids all know where the matches are joy (we only have then cuz we have a gas stove) and we have never had this problem. I told both the girls I was very upset and irritated that lied to me and just straight up livid cuz my babies are in the house!

Even now cousin is lying. These matches are joy out of reach of the smaller kids and my dd isnt tall enough to reach them with using a stool or chair. And guess who is tall enough.....cousin!

When my aunt gets back from class I'm going to talk to her and let both of them know (cousin and aunt) that fires IN MY HOUSE are unacceptable and I don't appreciate lying!

I will never again underestimate these girls and will never allow them to be alone...for as far as I can help it.


Update:
We talked to the girls later that day. While my daughter was upset and crying and listened to what we had to say cousin was staring off into space and had this look of "why do I care what you have to say". She apologized because my aunt made her but she didn't mean it. And even tho my daughter is being punished for going along with the idea cousin is going on WITHOUT punishment. Ir-i-tating.

Since this has happened I have done nothing but think about this and talked with my 3 older childeren. They say she bullies them and scares them and I'm afraid of what other plans she has cooking that my kids may feel like they have to participate in so I have decided to talk to my aunt this afternoon (I'm unwillingly at work) and tell her I can no longer homeschool cousin. (On top of this incident cousin shows no interest in learning and waits for my daughter to answer questions before answering herself or just says Idk without trying).
by on Oct. 30, 2013 at 10:25 AM
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malibucj
by on Nov. 3, 2013 at 7:01 AM

That is why younever leave children alone even for just a few minutes.

abuckalew
by Member on Nov. 3, 2013 at 8:14 AM
Yes, my aunt was there before I left. I left earlier than normal hoping to be back before she even left


Quoting TJandKarasMom:

When I read this:



"I went to drop my boys at their school this morning. And apparently that's when stupid ideas come to mind!

My aunt brought over my little cousin..."



I took it as she was gone to drop boys off, then aunt brought cousin over....which means that the babies were alone with a 9yo.



Is this wrong, OP? Was aunt there before you left?



I would be sure to drop boys before aunt has to leave, or call grandma over from next door. I wouldn't leave my babies home alone with a 9yo...or with an immature and irresponsible 11yo. Now you know what could happen. I think it's good to be optimistic, but when you have little ones, you also have to consider the possibility that something could go wrong.






Quoting paganbaby:

Oh whatever! Hon, you did nothing wrong. If you had left the babies alone, that would have been a different story. But the girls are old enough and grandma was next store. That's good enough for me. Forget everyone else.

Quoting abuckalew:

I know. Too bad in not this bad ass mom that can see everything can go wrong instead of believing everything will be ok, esp when its the only time I had to do it.








Quoting paganbaby:

Oh well, in that case forget everyone else. I wouldn't let other people's opinions dictate how I live my life.

Quoting kirbymom:

No. Not at all. Quite the opposite in fact. Its just that no matter which direction we chose to go with, it seems someone takes exception with it and tries to "show/tell" us better. Even if it would cause me and my family a bunch of trouble. So, I am cautious with our decisions.











Quoting paganbaby:

Really? Are they very immature?

Quoting kirbymom:Yikes! That would be extremely scary.



I have issues leaving my 16 and 17 year olds in charge, if I feel like I have to go somewhere. So glad that something worse didn't happen.









celticdragon77
by on Nov. 3, 2013 at 10:07 AM
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I didn't read past this:

Quote:

My aunt brought over my little cousin (who I homeschool with my daughter, dd is 9yo and cousin is 11yo). Well I was gone doing my morning thing and my aunt had to leave before I got back to do her food handlers class so the girls were alone for maybe 5 to 7 min. I never thought anything of it even tho I have my 1 and 2 yo dds sleeping in my bed. It's just a few min and my gma lives next door. 

Kids should never be left unsupervised. Whatever happened next was because you and the aunt left kids unsupervised. Simple as that.

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