The first is for spelling. We started Apples and Pears which I really like for her. She gets frustrated sometimes, she likes to say its too easy but she is definitely moving at the right pace because she gets things wrong now and then but not too much, so I know it's not too hard. And it is kind of easy sometimes, but she can use the review when it is. She got really frustrated yesterday and says she doesn't need a spelling program (she definitely needs something, she is not a natural speller at all). So my new idea..we are doing it up until Christmas break and then I will decide how to proceed from there...every time she spells any word wrong in any writing (notes, writing assignments, lists, whatever it is) she has to write that word 5x. Could this actually work? She hasn't complained really about having to write the words, today I went easy on her, her misspelled words were ancient, choose, and adventure. (This was in a list, she really didn't have a writing assignment today).
The next idea...on Monday she had a HORRIBLE time starting school work...she had had four days off because of thanksgiving, and then I also let them hang out Monday morning and we got a late start. She spent literally the first hour crying and having a tantrum because she had to redo ONE word problem from the week before. So once she was calm and we solved the word problem together, we decided to try to find an answer to this tantrums getting in the way of school issue. I offered a week off at Christmas (originally I had wanted to take more time off, but if they aren't learning something they are playing video games and watching tv, so I don't want too much unstructured time...but I do think the week before and after will be very light and fun)...BUT for each day they have a tantrum (it goes for DS as well, even though he almost never complains about schoolwork) or refuse to work, they owe me a day of work during their vacation week. I wrote a contract and we all signed it, I posted it next to a calendar and will circle any day they have a problem...days they don't have a problem get a smiley face. So far, it's working.
Opinions? Reassurance? I do talk to DH..he likes the idea of the vacation contract thing..but he has no opinion on spelling. He is not a writer and already thinks I make them write too much, lol (trust me, they certainly do not write too much).