How do you deal with an "expectation gap" with your child?
This is something that I have struggled for years and something I thought of asking other mothers, but didn't know how to word it, didn't know if anybody could understand me or didn't know if it was worth asking even. I need someone who struggle with this also. If you don't understand my frustration, please move onto a different post.
My question is "is there anyone who excelled in something as a child but your child does/did not?" It can be anything, but preferably something that you have to deal with on a daily basis. For example, you were an excellent writer, but your child is not. You were a child basketball star, but your child is so clumsy. You always kept your room very tidy as a child, but your child is messy or gross. You get the idea.
My child's struggles are phonics, spelling, and math. I know the cause; it's probably genetic from my husband's side. But I sometimes want to scream until I die when I help her with academics, but I don't, because it won't help me calm down or solve the problem. But I have this churning lava feeling in my heart and wonder if I would collapse from bottling it up.
How do you actually change and adjust your expectation? To me, this is so easily said than done. I'm a protective mother, so I don't share this on FB to protect my child's reputation. But by doing this, I feel very frustrated, miserable and alone. I'm tired of hearing "poor child" for not getting it from my mother-in-law too.