An update on my little "explosion" ( 5 yr old Abby ) -- starting to really heart-hurt over her.
Some of you know what I've been talking about with Abby. She is the wild child that is like a huge explosion every time she is around. I love this little girl soooo much, but even as her mother, I hit exhaustion with her explosive, in-your-face behavior several times a day.
I feel like this baby (and I say that because I know she's still little and has a tender heart) is in trouble CONSTANTLY. No amount of redirection works with her. Nothing has helped. Her siblings are growing seriously short tempered with her and part of me doesn't blame them. However, now they have taken to kicking her out before she can even join them, and it just breaks my heart.
Examples, she walks over and sweetly asks to sit on your lap to read a book. You start reading and she leans her face right into yours and starts picking her nose. You have her go wash and return and start reading again, and within moments she is back to being in your face (like two inches from your nose) and sucking her thumb and picking her nose again. You FINALLY get that behavior stopped and you are in the middle of reading to her again and she starts ticking her head from side to side so hard, she knocks you in the forehead... you get THAT behavior stopped and she starts licking her hand all over... from the wrist, up the palm, down the between the fingers and along the back of the hand... again... two inches from your face...
This type of weird behavior continues, with you calmly trying to address it.. or tell her if she cannot keep her fingers out of her mouth and a reasonable distance from your face (she is so close, you can't read the book).. you tell her this seriously and she snorts and laughs and starts "rattlilng" her head like a clock again... this time making loud clicking noises.
So, you send her to her room and let her find something else to do on her own since she's being just GROSS and disrespectful on your lap and she looks at you like you have just crushed her entire spirit. When she gets in her room, she starts throwing things and yelling. You try to ignore it, but the throwing gets more violent until you finally go in there and escalate the dicipline.
And in the end, you still have a little girl that just really needs to be loved on, but her behavior just makes that so dang impossible.
So... I go in there and help her make her bed and tell her how much I love her. (this is about 20 or so minutes later so it's not right away).. we discuss her behavior and how it's just not appreciated to be licking her hand that close to some one's face, picking her nose, sucking her thumb and accidentally banging foreheads because she is TOO close to some one's face and she's being goofy and not paying attention to the story she just asked some one to read to her.
I just don't know what to do. I can't reach her. She snorts at you when you try to talk to her. She just plain "act a fool" to an extreme. We get very short bouts of homeschooling in... and I'm no dummy... I try EVERYTHING to make this a hands-on and multi-faceted approach. I put a TON of enthusiasm in it and it's just burning me out.
I'm ready to have her evaluated... and I feel miserable because it feels more like defeat than a solution. The teachers in school were pushing me toward evaluating the other two and talking possible meds and such... but I thought they were silly.. I don't have too many issues teaching the other two.
Abby? She's another story, and she is ALWAYS getting pushed away and told no because she is so extreme in everyone's faces all the time. I'm ALWAYS on her about leaving the baby alone. He is laid back and calm except around her. She just has to look at him and he gears up for a fight and starts screaming "ow" at her...
Lord God, my heart really hurts over her.