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15 Reasons I’m Glad I Don’t Do Santa

by Cynthia Dermody 

I love Christmas and all the Christmas traditions — I love practically everything about the season — except for one itsy-bitsy complication: I’m Jewish. As much fun as dreidels and a well-lit menorah may be, they just can’t compete with an entire culture that goes Christmas-crazy every year.

But there’s one big Christmas tradition that always makes me glad I’m Jewish: I don’t have to do the Santa thing. Here’s why I’m glad for that …

1. I get credit for shopping. It takes a significant amount of time and expertise, even if you do it all on Amazon.

2. I get credit for buying. Look, kids, those gifts cost money. Mommy’s not letting a bunch of elves get all the glory while she spends her hard-earned cash.

3. I get credit for wrapping. You think it’s easy to wrap a basketball? It’s not. But I did it, so RESPECT, bitches.

4. No lugging my kids to the mall to make them sit on the lap of a strange man. Weirdest tradition ever, Gentiles.

5. No expensive wish lists. Yes, technically Santa’s elves could make you a giant flatscreen TV just as easily as they could make you an iPod, but they won’t, and I don’t have to justify the reason why.

6. No letters to Santa. Mail carriers are busy enough this time of year to have to deal with a bunch of letters with fake North Pole addresses on them. We’re practically saying, “Here, U.S. Postal Service. Throw these away for us.”

7. No Santa stalking. You know what I don’t want to do on Christmas Eve? Spend it obsessively checking a website or a Santa-tracking app to see if the sleigh has made it to our area.

8. No Santa suit for my husband. Trust me: No one looks good in that much red fabric. And, no, I won’t sit in your lap either.

9. No fake reindeer crap. Any tradition that involves fooling kids with excrement is a tradition I’m glad isn’t mine.

10. No cookies on a plate to feed an already overweight man. Our kids’ biggest hero is expected to eat cookies at every stop and still shove his fat ass down a chimney. No wonder obesity is such a problem these days.

11. No carrots or glittery food for the reindeer. God forbid Comet and Prancer get left out at snacktime.

12. No messy ashes tracked around the fireplace as evidence. If Santa can deliver to eleventy-billion homes in a single night, he can clean up after himself.

13. No whining on Christmas Day. Because they got up and Santa couldn’t find forgot to bring one of the 15 items on their wish list.

14. No sadness when the truth comes out. Yes, kids, Mommy has been lying to you all these years about an imaginary fat man who bends the laws of space and time while wearing a fluffy red suit. Stop crying. All the other parents are doing it.

15. My kids behave out of love and respect … not because of a naughty and nice list. No, I’m serious. They DO. Quit rolling your eyes, dammit.

Do your kids believe in Santa?

Are you glad your kids don't believe in Santa?

by on Dec. 23, 2013 at 8:57 AM
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kirbymom
by Sonja on Dec. 23, 2013 at 4:44 PM
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And these are My thoughts too. We should have enough respect for others, to letlet {Everyone} have their beliefs. Whether they believe the same way or not.


Quoting bluerooffarm:

Oh for crying out loud! Seriously?

Look at what has gone on in this stupid thread!  Let this post die a slow death.  Do we really need these types of ludicrous mommywars?  Aren't there enough big issues to argue over that we have to square off over Santa Claus?  Silly.

RheaF
by Member on Dec. 23, 2013 at 4:51 PM
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 I am very sorry for that. If you choose not to do Santa, that is your choice. I pray, and do my best to make sure I teach my children that their faith should not hinge on any tradition or story. One day, they will stop believing. We do not say they have to believe or they won't get anything, we will tell them to respect others though. If a younger sibling or friend still believes, they should not ruin it for them.

The simple truth is that we are all different. Not one of us is better than the other because we do or do not do the Santa tradition. All I ask is that people show some respect and not ruin the fun for anyone else's child.

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, or whatever holiday you celebrate, and enjoy your children, family, and friends!! :) santa green

Quoting coala:

I personally know 2 people who have been "hurt" by the truth.  They began to question their faith as well because they had been lied to.  We choose not to do Santa in our house for a multitude of reasons...the main one being that we don't want to "lie" to our children.  I have a child that came to live with us just over a year and a half ago full time.  She had been lied to about so so many things.  We told her the truth when she was here 3 years ago because it was quickly approaching Christmas....She was taken from our care and back to her mother who then immediately told her that if she didn't "believe" there wouldn't be any gifts Christmas morning.  Can you imagine how conufused this poor child was. 

I had to hold onto EVERY gift I bought her that year until her birthday when I was finally allowed to see her again.  She opened every gift and asked if she would have gotten them if she was at our house whether she believed or not.  I answered her honestly....it was a yes.  I just can't bring myself to flat out lie to them for YEARS and expect them to believe anything I say after that.  BTW she came to live with us again 4 mos after she was taken out of our care.  I has been just over a year and a half and we have finally broken the "I believe in Santa, but they don't" phase.  She understands the true meaning behind Christmas and why we choose to do things the way that we do.  BTW she is nearly 8.

Quoting RheaF:

 I have never heard of a child in real life that was angry because their parents let them believe in Santa. I remember it being more fun once I learned the truth, because then I could really do it up for my little brother and sister.

I have had many people (who do not do Santa in their homes) tell me my kids will be angry, or that I will kill their faith in Jesus because "if you lied to me about Santa, that means you lied about Jesus too!" ( that is a direct quote I have gotten from a few people who claim they know what my child will say when they learn the truth).

IMHO, if a family chooses not to do Santa (for whatever reason) great. More power to ya, but don't try and bring the rest of us down because we do. (sorry, this debate has gotten out of hand amoung my circle of "friends" this year. It's insane,lol)

 

Quoting TJandKarasMom: I couldn't have said this better myself.

And most children don't cry and think their parents lied to them for years, at least no one I know has been scarred for life because their parents brought them a little magic when they were young.

My kids have never complained that they didn't get something they asked for, they actually think elves CAN'T make everything and that Santa has to buy some of the gifts. My children are fairly well behaved year round, even my oldest who no longer believes in Santa, because they are good kids who have been raised pretty well (if I say so myself)...not because of the list. My kids also get gifts from both us and Santa, so we still "get credit" for many of their gifts...not that that's the reason we give them anyway. And some day when they are parents themselves, they will fully appreciate what we went through to give them the best Christmases we could.

They're only young once, I don't see the harm in some families choosing to have traditions about Santa. I don't judge those who choose not to include Santa, so I expect not to be judged because we choose to include Santa in our traditions.

Quoting RheaF:

 Yes my kids believe, and yes I am glad they do :)


There is no whining, my kids behave out of love and respect, and I don't want credit for buying gifts or wrapping (IMHO, that is NOT why you should give gifts anyway). We love sprinkling reindeer food on the lawn, setting out cookies, and making the little mess to show a reindeer came in the house. It doesn't take that long to clean up and the look on my kids faces is worth it. I love that my children still believe and I will allow them to for as long as they choose. Sorry, this article is ridiculous. Not all kids who believe in Santa are whining, ungrateful brats.


Yes, we still keep the focus on Christ. We set an extra place at the head of our table, we sing happy birthday to Jesus, and we talk about all Jesus has done for us. Santa is just a fun tradition that we do as well.

 

 

 

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Dec. 23, 2013 at 4:55 PM
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These mommywars-type posts always get me frustrated.  We should truly tolerate each other's beliefs and traditions.  Especially to me it just seems like if we can't tolerate such an inconsequential topic, how will we ever tolerate the big differences?  Sigh.

Quoting kirbymom: And these are My thoughts too. We should have enough respect for others, to letlet {Everyone} have their beliefs. Whether they believe the same way or not.


Quoting bluerooffarm:

Oh for crying out loud! Seriously?

Look at what has gone on in this stupid thread!  Let this post die a slow death.  Do we really need these types of ludicrous mommywars?  Aren't there enough big issues to argue over that we have to square off over Santa Claus?  Silly.


kirbymom
by Sonja on Dec. 23, 2013 at 5:21 PM
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I know where you're coming from. It frustrates me to hear "tolerate, tolerate" and then not tolerate other beliefs or view points.
" talk the walk but walk the talk "


Quoting bluerooffarm:

These mommywars-type posts always get me frustrated.  We should truly tolerate each other's beliefs and traditions.  Especially to me it just seems like if we can't tolerate such an inconsequential topic, how will we ever tolerate the big differences?  Sigh.

Quoting kirbymom: And these are My thoughts too. We should have enough respect for others, to letlet {Everyone} have their beliefs. Whether they believe the same way or not.


Quoting bluerooffarm:

Oh for crying out loud! Seriously?

Look at what has gone on in this stupid thread!  Let this post die a slow death.  Do we really need these types of ludicrous mommywars?  Aren't there enough big issues to argue over that we have to square off over Santa Claus?  Silly.

shadowmoon
by Member on Dec. 23, 2013 at 5:25 PM

LOL at #10!  No Santa here.  

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Dec. 23, 2013 at 5:31 PM
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I totally agree!

Quoting kirbymom: I know where you're coming from. It frustrates me to hear "tolerate, tolerate" and then not tolerate other beliefs or view points.
" talk the walk but walk the talk "


Quoting bluerooffarm:

These mommywars-type posts always get me frustrated.  We should truly tolerate each other's beliefs and traditions.  Especially to me it just seems like if we can't tolerate such an inconsequential topic, how will we ever tolerate the big differences?  Sigh.

Quoting kirbymom: And these are My thoughts too. We should have enough respect for others, to letlet {Everyone} have their beliefs. Whether they believe the same way or not.


Quoting bluerooffarm:

Oh for crying out loud! Seriously?

Look at what has gone on in this stupid thread!  Let this post die a slow death.  Do we really need these types of ludicrous mommywars?  Aren't there enough big issues to argue over that we have to square off over Santa Claus?  Silly.


coala
by Silver Member on Dec. 23, 2013 at 6:37 PM
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I completely agree with you.  My girls are well aware that they are not to discuss Santa with friends....I don't want to ruin something for another family because of what we choose to believe and how we handle our traditions.  I wish you and your family the warmest holiday wishes.

Quoting RheaF:

 I am very sorry for that. If you choose not to do Santa, that is your choice. I pray, and do my best to make sure I teach my children that their faith should not hinge on any tradition or story. One day, they will stop believing. We do not say they have to believe or they won't get anything, we will tell them to respect others though. If a younger sibling or friend still believes, they should not ruin it for them.

The simple truth is that we are all different. Not one of us is better than the other because we do or do not do the Santa tradition. All I ask is that people show some respect and not ruin the fun for anyone else's child.

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, or whatever holiday you celebrate, and enjoy your children, family, and friends!! :) santa green

Quoting coala:

I personally know 2 people who have been "hurt" by the truth.  They began to question their faith as well because they had been lied to.  We choose not to do Santa in our house for a multitude of reasons...the main one being that we don't want to "lie" to our children.  I have a child that came to live with us just over a year and a half ago full time.  She had been lied to about so so many things.  We told her the truth when she was here 3 years ago because it was quickly approaching Christmas....She was taken from our care and back to her mother who then immediately told her that if she didn't "believe" there wouldn't be any gifts Christmas morning.  Can you imagine how conufused this poor child was. 

I had to hold onto EVERY gift I bought her that year until her birthday when I was finally allowed to see her again.  She opened every gift and asked if she would have gotten them if she was at our house whether she believed or not.  I answered her honestly....it was a yes.  I just can't bring myself to flat out lie to them for YEARS and expect them to believe anything I say after that.  BTW she came to live with us again 4 mos after she was taken out of our care.  I has been just over a year and a half and we have finally broken the "I believe in Santa, but they don't" phase.  She understands the true meaning behind Christmas and why we choose to do things the way that we do.  BTW she is nearly 8.

Quoting RheaF:

 I have never heard of a child in real life that was angry because their parents let them believe in Santa. I remember it being more fun once I learned the truth, because then I could really do it up for my little brother and sister.

I have had many people (who do not do Santa in their homes) tell me my kids will be angry, or that I will kill their faith in Jesus because "if you lied to me about Santa, that means you lied about Jesus too!" ( that is a direct quote I have gotten from a few people who claim they know what my child will say when they learn the truth).

IMHO, if a family chooses not to do Santa (for whatever reason) great. More power to ya, but don't try and bring the rest of us down because we do. (sorry, this debate has gotten out of hand amoung my circle of "friends" this year. It's insane,lol)

 

Quoting TJandKarasMom: I couldn't have said this better myself.

And most children don't cry and think their parents lied to them for years, at least no one I know has been scarred for life because their parents brought them a little magic when they were young.

My kids have never complained that they didn't get something they asked for, they actually think elves CAN'T make everything and that Santa has to buy some of the gifts. My children are fairly well behaved year round, even my oldest who no longer believes in Santa, because they are good kids who have been raised pretty well (if I say so myself)...not because of the list. My kids also get gifts from both us and Santa, so we still "get credit" for many of their gifts...not that that's the reason we give them anyway. And some day when they are parents themselves, they will fully appreciate what we went through to give them the best Christmases we could.

They're only young once, I don't see the harm in some families choosing to have traditions about Santa. I don't judge those who choose not to include Santa, so I expect not to be judged because we choose to include Santa in our traditions.

Quoting RheaF:

 Yes my kids believe, and yes I am glad they do :)


There is no whining, my kids behave out of love and respect, and I don't want credit for buying gifts or wrapping (IMHO, that is NOT why you should give gifts anyway). We love sprinkling reindeer food on the lawn, setting out cookies, and making the little mess to show a reindeer came in the house. It doesn't take that long to clean up and the look on my kids faces is worth it. I love that my children still believe and I will allow them to for as long as they choose. Sorry, this article is ridiculous. Not all kids who believe in Santa are whining, ungrateful brats.


Yes, we still keep the focus on Christ. We set an extra place at the head of our table, we sing happy birthday to Jesus, and we talk about all Jesus has done for us. Santa is just a fun tradition that we do as well.

 


 


Jenn8604
by Member on Dec. 23, 2013 at 6:37 PM
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Yes, he does. I never was disappointed when I found out Santa wasn't real because technically there was a St. Nick who gave to the poor to help them. So there WAS a Santa. Santa doesn't buy every gift there is. Eating carrots to make your kid think the reindeer ate it is good for your health. The author SHOULD SUPPORT THIS PART, because she's SO AGAINST eating cookies.
Santa doesn't buy every present or bring everything on the list. So i get credit for some. But getting credit for buying the presents kind of seems selfish to me. It's like oooo look at me I can afford that IPod and flat screen TV I'm so special and awesome. Having gifts from Santa doesn't make it bragging. (Did I mention St. nick was a real guy who gave? The whole point of Santa a nice guy who freely gives) You should give not expecting a thank you in return which is what a name tag with from "YOUR name" entails.
Santa being a giving guy brings us to God and how God gave us his son. Which is the true meaning of Christmas. That's the focus. Not Santa, but he's a nice guy. Jesus' birth is what is important. So when one day he knows there is no Santa. He will know it's still Jesus' birthday.
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kmath
by Silver Member on Dec. 23, 2013 at 10:28 PM

Did I miss something.  I don't see anyone in this thread bashing another mom for believing differently than they do.  Everyone has been respectful.  So I must have missed a post or two because I am not seeing anything bad in this post, except for the OP itself, which is offensive.

Quoting bluerooffarm:

Oh for crying out loud! Seriously?

Look at what has gone on in this stupid thread!  Let this post die a slow death.  Do we really need these types of ludicrous mommywars?  Aren't there enough big issues to argue over that we have to square off over Santa Claus?  Silly.


Bleacheddecay
by Bronze Member on Dec. 23, 2013 at 10:40 PM
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I allowed my kids to believe in Santa just as long as they wanted. When they didn't want to anymore that was fine too.

My parents told me, due to their religion that there was no Santa and I felt that was pretty cruel to me. So I allowed my kids to believe without pushing it.

And btw, I think Elf on a Shelve is messy and creepy. LOL

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