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Does it make me an awful mom?

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My DD2 is 4 years old and is my challenging child. She doesn't have any learning problems but her attention and comprehension are seriously lacking. I homeschooled my dd1 who is 7. Is it awful of me to want to send my 4yo to kindergarten at a b&m and not homeschooled her? I'm wonderingnif any other moms have one in and one out and how that works for you? Thanks for any advice!
by on Feb. 1, 2014 at 6:04 AM
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Pukalani79
by Kristin on Feb. 1, 2014 at 10:52 AM

 I firmly believe this

Quoting AutymsMommy:

No *one* learning environment works for every kid (or every mom!).

debramommyof4
by Silver Member on Feb. 1, 2014 at 10:59 AM
My 4 (5 In 12 days) year old wants to go to k in a public school next year and my preschooler wants to go to preschool. So now my 7 year old has started saying she wants to go to public school as well.

I informed her that since we do not like common core her brother and sister would go no higher than k so I am not letting her go. She is not happy with me but she is going to love to take drum lessons and dance which her brother and baby sister will not be able to do.

My 8 year old never wants to go back.she hated k.


Quoting Honey_Comb: All this make perfect sense. I suppose I would be sending her for me to get a break and hopefully it would only be kindergarten or jus until she seems to comprehend better. But I am worried that my 7yo would want to go and she's so far ahead I'm afraid PS would dumb her down. I've not made any decisions and would love to omeschool all my kids. Thanks for the input!
Leissaintexas
by Bronze Member on Feb. 1, 2014 at 1:33 PM
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She's only 4, how good could her attention span and comprehension be? I'd give it a year or so, then see if maturity is the issue. 4 seems young to decide that. I don't know many 4 yr olds who are ready for seat work and the demands of school.
Honey_Comb
by Member on Feb. 1, 2014 at 1:39 PM
Like I said I haven't decided anything. Just playing with the idea. And by comprehension I mean she does not understand anything you say. Rules go in one ear and out the other. Her attention doesn't stay longer than a minute. She turns 5 in March and should be able to do more than one task at a time and just can't. I was just seeing what other peoples experiences are.

Quoting Leissaintexas: She's only 4, how good could her attention span and comprehension be? I'd give it a year or so, then see if maturity is the issue. 4 seems young to decide that. I don't know many 4 yr olds who are ready for seat work and the demands of school.
redhead-bedhead
by Bronze Member on Feb. 1, 2014 at 3:48 PM

Kids all develop at a different pace. I would give her more time to mature.


Quoting Honey_Comb: Like I said I haven't decided anything. Just playing with the idea. And by comprehension I mean she does not understand anything you say. Rules go in one ear and out the other. Her attention doesn't stay longer than a minute. She turns 5 in March and should be able to do more than one task at a time and just can't. I was just seeing what other peoples experiences are.

Quoting Leissaintexas: She's only 4, how good could her attention span and comprehension be? I'd give it a year or so, then see if maturity is the issue. 4 seems young to decide that. I don't know many 4 yr olds who are ready for seat work and the demands of school.


AutymsMommy
by Silver Member on Feb. 1, 2014 at 5:07 PM

I'm curious why you would think she should be able to do more than one task at a time.

My son is the same age - he'll be 5 in May; his focus is fleeting, he's energetic, and he cannot typically do more than one task at a time. He is completely age typical in those regards.

Quoting Honey_Comb: Like I said I haven't decided anything. Just playing with the idea. And by comprehension I mean she does not understand anything you say. Rules go in one ear and out the other. Her attention doesn't stay longer than a minute. She turns 5 in March and should be able to do more than one task at a time and just can't. I was just seeing what other peoples experiences are.

Quoting Leissaintexas: She's only 4, how good could her attention span and comprehension be? I'd give it a year or so, then see if maturity is the issue. 4 seems young to decide that. I don't know many 4 yr olds who are ready for seat work and the demands of school.


I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff:  we're Catholic, we're conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol).             Aimee















Honey_Comb
by Member on Feb. 1, 2014 at 5:41 PM
Well based on she appropriate milestones she should be. I usually don't go by those but I just worry about her. We had her evaluated for ADD/ADHD but since she's so young we are waiting longer to see if this things go away, which most of them have.

Quoting AutymsMommy:

I'm curious why you would think she should be able to do more than one task at a time.

My son is the same age - he'll be 5 in May; his focus is fleeting, he's energetic, and he cannot typically do more than one task at a time. He is completely age typical in those regards.

Quoting Honey_Comb: Like I said I haven't decided anything. Just playing with the idea. And by comprehension I mean she does not understand anything you say. Rules go in one ear and out the other. Her attention doesn't stay longer than a minute. She turns 5 in March and should be able to do more than one task at a time and just can't. I was just seeing what other peoples experiences are.



Quoting Leissaintexas: She's only 4, how good could her attention span and comprehension be? I'd give it a year or so, then see if maturity is the issue. 4 seems young to decide that. I don't know many 4 yr olds who are ready for seat work and the demands of school.


paganbaby
by Silver Member on Feb. 1, 2014 at 5:42 PM

I sent my youngest to kinder because I wanted to give each of my kids a chance at public school. She excelled and is now happy in first grade. My ds had the complete opposite experience and my oldest did okay until junior high. So now my older two are home while my youngest is in school. 

Do what you gotta do. I personally see nothing wrong with letting her try out kindergarten. You'll get a break and you'll never know, she may do really well.

AutymsMommy
by Silver Member on Feb. 1, 2014 at 6:40 PM

Which milestones? I'm sincerely curious. Our son's pediatrician isn't the least bit worried about him - neither am I.

Quoting Honey_Comb: Well based on she appropriate milestones she should be. I usually don't go by those but I just worry about her. We had her evaluated for ADD/ADHD but since she's so young we are waiting longer to see if this things go away, which most of them have.

Quoting AutymsMommy:

I'm curious why you would think she should be able to do more than one task at a time.

My son is the same age - he'll be 5 in May; his focus is fleeting, he's energetic, and he cannot typically do more than one task at a time. He is completely age typical in those regards.

Quoting Honey_Comb: Like I said I haven't decided anything. Just playing with the idea. And by comprehension I mean she does not understand anything you say. Rules go in one ear and out the other. Her attention doesn't stay longer than a minute. She turns 5 in March and should be able to do more than one task at a time and just can't. I was just seeing what other peoples experiences are.



Quoting Leissaintexas: She's only 4, how good could her attention span and comprehension be? I'd give it a year or so, then see if maturity is the issue. 4 seems young to decide that. I don't know many 4 yr olds who are ready for seat work and the demands of school.



I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff:  we're Catholic, we're conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol).             Aimee















kirbymom
by Sonja on Feb. 1, 2014 at 9:23 PM
Sweety , I wouldn't send my kids to public school for love nor money BUT, I would not impose that on anyone else. My advice to you is to do what is best for you and your family. You can take her out if you find ps not working and home school her. That is the beauty of homeschooling. Decide this - change that, to best fit the needs of the family. If you are in need of some support, this group is an awesome place for support. Whichever way you decide to go, we are here fir you.
Hugs! :)
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