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My inlaws popped by today, unplanned lol, but that was ok. My husband stepped out on the phone and dh left his monster drink so my oldest, Damien was going to bring it to him..where my fil and I told him to stop and put it back. My fil said "I know what you really were going to do, you were going to drink.some". He said no. I believed him but my fil didnt and they kepy going back and forth and I could see Damien getting frustrated so decided to change the subject. I told Damien to tell fil how many chapters he read (he was so proud of himself). so they started to talk about that. Fil asked Damien to tell him about the book, so he got out the book and started to look for the names and ages of the characters (he forgot which character was which age). My fil asked him to.just tell him what he remembered and he didnt want to (btw Damien is 7). So, he looked at me and said "teacher, I guess you know now to work on reading comprehension". I told him that he told me the entire story today, so I knee that wasnt an issue. So they started talking about movies and he wanted to put on the movie to show him, but fil said he wanted to talk. He wanted to "interact" not watch a movie, which btw is ironic because when we go.to their house the tv is always on. Damien didnt know what interaction meant. My fil made another comment (cant remember exactly what) that put down the fact that he's homeschooled. Sigh. It frustrated me so much that, first off, they question mt ability to teach my kids (which btw I got a BA so that I could teach kids) and second that they automatically assume that my kids dont have contact with other people, they get more interaction than most school kids!

Also, kind of funny. We went the park last week together. There was this boy and girl Damien's age that they were playing with. My dh assumed that they were homeschooled because ofnhow they were playing. One kids insisted that ghosts were real (I dont see how that is a school or homeschool thing). Well, before they left dh asked what school they went to. One names this private school near us, and the other names a charter (we have several.charters, some are homeschool charters and some are not). Anyways he was surprised.
by on Mar. 15, 2014 at 11:33 PM
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mem82
by Platinum Member on Mar. 16, 2014 at 1:13 PM
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Well, that sounds really annoying!

chotovec82
by Bronze Member on Mar. 16, 2014 at 1:30 PM
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I'm lucky because while my inlaws don't support homeschooling; they also don't undermind me infront of my kids. They'll say snide remarks when the kids are not present tho.





 



 


 

ablackdolphin
by Bronze Member on Mar. 16, 2014 at 2:28 PM
Exactly this. So disrespectful in your own home. I would make DH lay the law or they would no liger be welcome in my home. But I am like that!!

Quoting AutymsMommy:

You need to set some boundaries. Nobody (family included) is allowed discipline my children (including telling them what to or not to do) in my presence - your FIL would have had an earful from me on that one.

You also may need to set some ground rules about asking your children about their schoolwork, lol.

I'm sorry that happened.

KrissyKC
by Silver Member on Mar. 16, 2014 at 2:31 PM
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If you really feel the need to say something to fil, maybe something on the lines of this:

Fil, Damien really just needs and wants to appreciate you as grandpa. He already has dh and I as his evaluators. Stop making him feel like he has to study prep just to visit with you.
Precious333
by Silver Member on Mar. 16, 2014 at 5:03 PM
My fil just wanted to visit, the problem was I brought up reading to switch a conversation.

Quoting KrissyKC: If you really feel the need to say something to fil, maybe something on the lines of this:

Fil, Damien really just needs and wants to appreciate you as grandpa. He already has dh and I as his evaluators. Stop making him feel like he has to study prep just to visit with you.
kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 17, 2014 at 6:42 PM
All I can say is, as your kids get older, they will show how intelligent they are and everyone will stop quuzzing them because the people quizzing your kuds will hate to look stupid by comparison. And I'm talking from experience here. Just wait, you' ll see.
Precious333
by Silver Member on Mar. 17, 2014 at 7:04 PM
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I hope we homeschool long enough for that to happen. So far I have another year!

Quoting kirbymom: All I can say is, as your kids get older, they will show how intelligent they are and everyone will stop quuzzing them because the people quizzing your kuds will hate to look stupid by comparison. And I'm talking from experience here. Just wait, you' ll see.
kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 17, 2014 at 7:25 PM
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Lol...
Even a year will make a differebce. You'll see. :)


Quoting Precious333: I hope we homeschool long enough for that to happen. So far I have another year!

Quoting kirbymom: All I can say is, as your kids get older, they will show how intelligent they are and everyone will stop quuzzing them because the people quizzing your kuds will hate to look stupid by comparison. And I'm talking from experience here. Just wait, you' ll see.
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