Today I threatened DD with "if you won't learn from me, you will learn from someone....you will do work online and you'll use your allowance to pay for it!" (She doesn't have to know that there are free curricula online)!
She seriously argues with me every time I correct her. How is she supposed to learn if I don't tell her things are wrong? I have tried in so many ways to give her corrected papers...but I really want my kids to be able to find their mistakes and fix them, so typically I circle the number that is wrong or underline a misspelled word (I try not to do spelling corrections in language arts writing...but in history and science I do correct spelling, if it is a word they shouldn't know how to spell, I write it, if they should know how to spell it I underline it and they figure it out)...she will just say "this isn't wrong" or "how is this wrong?!" (Which wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't accompanied by slamming pencils and stomping feet and rolling eyes).
She refuses to ask for help. She will sit and stare at it, not focusing and not even trying. She will argue until she is blue in the face about FACTS. Seriously, 36 divided by 4 is not 8...no matter how much you yell at me and tell me it is.
She finally admitted today that in my extra 20 years of life, I probably have gained a little more knowledge than her (except when it comes to dogs and owls according to her). I didn't know how else to get her to understand that I do know more than she does and that if she wants to learn, she has to be willing to see her mistake and listen to my explanation....(this after she asked a question and when I began to answer she cut me off with a bunch of examples that had nothing to do with anything!)
I know a lot of it is her age, and we are still trying to find our way with hsing. But it doesn't make it easier some days!