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I'm actually a fan of dress codes in schools. I grew up in urban areas where lots of bullying because of what people were wearing happened daily. When homeschool is not an option, then I think schools should be a place of focused learning, not their idea of 'social judgement.'

But, recently I think things have gone too far. One post today (in our group) was about leggings being banned for distracting boys.....eh...I don't get it...but this? I think this is INSANE (and sick). A girl was suspended because she shaved her head because her best friend went bald due to her chemo treatment for cancer. I think that is such a beautiful thing. But apparently having lovely locks is a requirement for her school! What about the cancer patient, would they suspend her too? 

What do you think?

Girl Suspended Temporarily For Shaving Head

 

GRAND JUNCTION, Colo. - A Colorado girl who shaved her head to support a friend who went bald because of cancer treatment was told she violated her school's dress code but will now be allowed to stay in class.

Kamryn Renfro, 9, of Grand Junction shaved her head to help friend Delaney Clements get through chemotherapy. Kamryn at first wasn't allowed to return to classes at Caprock Academy, the charter school she attends.

The academy later said she could return, and the school's board of directors met Tuesday evening and voted 3-1 to let her come back.

The (Grand Junction) Daily Sentinel reported that the school board's chairwoman had said that the school's the dress code is designed to promote uniformity and a non-distracting environment. She said exceptions can be made under extraordinary circumstances. The board voted Tuesday night to make Kamryn an exception.

Kamryn's friend Delaney, 12, has been battling cancer for years, and said sometimes her bald head made her stand out, reported CBS affiliate KREX in Grand Junction.

"People would sometimes call me a boy even though I was all dressed in pink," said Delaney.

Kamryn said shaving her head for her friend wasn't hard.

"I did it so she didn't have to feel left out," Kamryn said.

On Monday, Kamryn spent the day on the playground instead of her classroom, all because she violated school policy. Her mother says she emailed school officials explaining why the 9-year-old shaved her head, but received a call saying Kamryn could not come back to school.

"I was really excited that I would have somebody to support me and I wouldn't be alone with people always laughing at me," Delaney said. "I just want to say thank you for being a really good friend and actually being brave enough to do it, and not only caring about your hair."

by on Mar. 26, 2014 at 5:37 PM
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kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 26, 2014 at 10:45 PM
Kids need to be able to feel like they have some intelligence and capability for making right decisions as well as good decisions.
KickButtMama
by Shannon on Mar. 27, 2014 at 6:55 AM
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Exactly! Isn't this the exact opposite of the purpose of these dress codes?

Quoting kirbymom: I am so glad that we homeschool! To have to put a focus on stuff like this instead of learning is just plain wrong.


TJandKarasMom
by Debbie on Mar. 27, 2014 at 8:12 AM
I totally agree with this. My DS hated clipping his toenails, I used to bribe him with painting his nails if he let me clip them! I bought blue and green nail polish just for him so he wouldn't have to have the pink I had every time. He just liked what Mama had. But if I had encouraged it or made a huge deal out of it? I don't know, he definitely had some girly behaviors, lol.

I know this woman whose granddaughter has decided she is male and changed her name and dresses like a boy, etc. I don't think it's a big deal at all to wear clothes that are comfortable for you (my cousin also went through this as a young adult and I flat out said there is no rule that says you have to have long hair and wear makeup and dresses to be a girl, girls can have short hair and wear jeans and tshirts every day..you should be comfortable)....but I wouldn't let me 13 yo decide to change their name and gender. I would support them, and allow them to wear clothes/haircut that was comfortable for them, but I don't think that's old enough to *really* know. My young adult cousin went through this for about 18 months, now she's totally a girl (which she was born as), she has grown her hair back out but still in a no fuss kind of way and I don't think she wears many (if any) skirts or dresses...and there is nothing wrong with that. But if a 20 yo isn't sure, how can a 13 yo be?

Quoting KickButtMama:

I can't believe it! She's "sexually immoral" for being a tomboy? Man, I was forced to keep my hair short as a child because my dad was in charge of my 3 brothers and I and made me get my hair cut at the same barbershop! I was in no way homosexual but we didn't have a lot of money and I was the only girl so I was also forced to wear my brothers hand-me-down clothes most of the time. 

i have several friends who have kids with gender identification conditions, diagnosed by the public school counselors! One has even allowed her 6 y/o to 'change' to follow their gender identification ('he' changed his name from Bastien to Isabella even). Since they now homeschool they have no problems with it, but I have been amazed that schools have policies on how to 'handle' kids that come in seeming to identify as different genders. I don't get it...when did elementary aged things (clothes, toys, etc) get such a gender divide? I mean, unless the kid is wearing a dress every day why push the issue...doesn't anyone think that by making such a huge deal out of it it might push the child's development one way or another....like tell a kid he's homosexual enough even he might believe it? Idk. I have zero problem with homosexuality, and I do completely understand those adults who identify w/ a different gender and seek re-assignment....but Pre-schoolers? Elementary Schoolers??? My eldest is going on 13. He liked the. Princess crowns and such when he was a preschooler because they were flashier than 'prince' stuff. If I painted my nails he asked for some too....now that he is older i in no way think he identifies as a girl...but if I had made a big deal of it? Who knows.

Quoting usmom3:

 Looks like all kinds of children are getting removed from all kinds of schools over appearances. READ THIS 

kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 27, 2014 at 9:24 AM
Yes!
Aren't we supposed to "encourage" our kids to "be themselves " ? !
And now these educational institutions are banning kids' individuality!?
C' mon! Pick a side and stick to it for goodness sake. Sheesh.


Quoting KickButtMama:

Exactly! Isn't this the exact opposite of the purpose of these dress codes?

Quoting kirbymom: I am so glad that we homeschool! To have to put a focus on stuff like this instead of learning is just plain wrong.

mem82
by Platinum Member on Mar. 27, 2014 at 9:41 AM
They took it too far!
kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 27, 2014 at 10:17 AM
That is definitely true. These type of decisions are happening all too often now. I am so very thankful we homeschool.


Quoting mem82: They took it too far!
KickButtMama
by Shannon on Mar. 27, 2014 at 10:31 AM
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I agree. I think that by depriving them of Learning How to make good decisions we are opening the way for a ton of stupid decisions later 

Quoting kirbymom: Kids need to be able to feel like they have some intelligence and capability for making right decisions as well as good decisions.


KickButtMama
by Shannon on Mar. 27, 2014 at 10:34 AM


Quoting mem82: They took it too far!

Agreed! There is a big difference between this situation an a kid showing up with a purple mow hawk (which I don't have a problem with either..)

Dawn07
by Bronze Member on Mar. 27, 2014 at 10:44 AM


Quoting KickButtMama:

I can't believe it! She's "sexually immoral" for being a tomboy? Man, I was forced to keep my hair short as a child because my dad was in charge of my 3 brothers and I and made me get my hair cut at the same barbershop! I was in no way homosexual but we didn't have a lot of money and I was the only girl so I was also forced to wear my brothers hand-me-down clothes most of the time. 

i have several friends who have kids with gender identification conditions, diagnosed by the public school counselors! One has even allowed her 6 y/o to 'change' to follow their gender identification ('he' changed his name from Bastien to Isabella even). Since they now homeschool they have no problems with it, but I have been amazed that schools have policies on how to 'handle' kids that come in seeming to identify as different genders. I don't get it...when did elementary aged things (clothes, toys, etc) get such a gender divide? I mean, unless the kid is wearing a dress every day why push the issue...doesn't anyone think that by making such a huge deal out of it it might push the child's development one way or another....like tell a kid he's homosexual enough even he might believe it? Idk. I have zero problem with homosexuality, and I do completely understand those adults who identify w/ a different gender and seek re-assignment....but Pre-schoolers? Elementary Schoolers??? My eldest is going on 13. He liked the. Princess crowns and such when he was a preschooler because they were flashier than 'prince' stuff. If I painted my nails he asked for some too....now that he is older i in no way think he identifies as a girl...but if I had made a big deal of it? Who knows.

Quoting usmom3:

 Looks like all kinds of children are getting removed from all kinds of schools over appearances. READ THIS 

I agree with your thought here. 

kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 27, 2014 at 11:02 AM
That's exactly what is happening! We have already started taking away the ability to think and learn and make core decisions. It looks to me like the "authorities" are trying to make a cookie-cutter thought process with the youth of today. The biggest problem with that is that there are No 2 people that think alike! Oh this just rattles my cage.

Quoting KickButtMama:

I agree. I think that by depriving them of Learning How to make good decisions we are opening the way for a ton of stupid decisions later 

Quoting kirbymom: Kids need to be able to feel like they have some intelligence and capability for making right decisions as well as good decisions.

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