# Math Battles every.single.day..help me please

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My dyslexic dd had a terribly hard time with multiplication facts, despite being mathy. As a result, division was torture. I would recommend backing up. Have you seen Diane Craft's right brain multiplication cards?

Not a perfectionist at all. She really doesn't care if anything she does is perfect.

She could be dyslexic, I have tested her and am pretty sure she is. This could be why she gets frustrated. Sometimes her answers can be blamed on being dyslexic, other times it can be blamed on just rushing through because when I ask her she is able to fix it.

I think it mostly comes down to hating math and having a hard time accepting any kind of criticism. The problems really come when she has to fix mistakes.

Quoting Bleacheddecay:Could she have a math disability? My son did and we had battles like this. I started letting him do less and show me he understood. That helped some.

Is your child a perfectionist? That's something you need to work on. It can get really bad. My girl was like that.

I think she is dyslexic, I've tested her, but haven't had her professionally tested.

I will look for those cards, I hadn't heard of them before. I may just go ahead and back up. I'm wondering if I should invest in MUS at the multiplication level or stick with worksheets.

Thanks for the help, as usual :)

Quoting AutymsMommy: Is she dyslexic? I think you've been concerned about that before. My dyslexic dd had a terribly hard time with multiplication facts, despite being mathy. As a result, division was torture. I would recommend backing up. Have you seen Diane Craft's right brain multiplication cards?

At the end of the day, regardless if Jamie earns more than 2 hrs of tech time, she only gets the 2, and the remainder goes over to weekend tech time. So if Monday she earned 3 hrs, Tuesday she earned 4 hrs (its happened once!) Wed she earned 2 1/2 hrs etc... she'd have 3 1/2 hrs total weekend time at that point that she can spend during the weekend how ever she sees fit. However, once Monday rolls around, all "roll over time" is deleted, it doesn't get put towards the next weekend.

Once we started doing this, the first week was awful and she didn't have ANY time at all, and we had to add in another clause to the contract that if she gets into negative time, than she owes me x amount of hard labor time (extra chores from my list typically). She had to do two extra chores, and she has never gone negative again lol. Jamie is going through that testing her boundaries phase too and I couldn't handle it any more so I just threw the book towards her and told her if she didn't want my help she could do it herself out of frustration. It was a happy accident in the end.

Quoting TJandKarasMom:I am liking your ideas a lot. My kids get 2 hours of tech time if they get their schoolwork done. I like assigning a time limit and taking extra minutes used off of tech time. I also really like the idea of her correcting her own math. We have the teach manual with answers, so that is easy enough for her to do. I think I may try this tomorrow and see if it helps. Maybe if she marks her own stuff she won't be as offended and angry.

Thanks for the ideas!!

Quoting No_Difference:my daughter is 9 and we're doing that book this year too. The only difference is, Jamie loves math, BUT she still likes to drag her feet horribly at times. We made a "contract" which applies to all school work, but it has helped tremendously. She gets an hour of "tech time" - but it could be anything at all that she likes doing - at the start of every day. Each subject gets a certain amount of time. I allotted 1/2 hr for math, even though she gets it done in 15 minutes typically. If she goes over the 1/2 hr, she loses time from her hour - how ever much longer it took her. If she finishes faster, then she gets the remainder time added to her hour. That way, it is entirely on her. Also, I started letting Jamie check her answer with a different color pen, so I was no longer the bad guy. Then we'd go over on the board the ones she did wrong. She'd show me how she did the problem, and we'd discuss where she went astray. It has helped with the attitude immensely!

Could be dyscalculia.

Quoting TJandKarasMom:Not a perfectionist at all. She really doesn't care if anything she does is perfect.

She could be dyslexic, I have tested her and am pretty sure she is. This could be why she gets frustrated. Sometimes her answers can be blamed on being dyslexic, other times it can be blamed on just rushing through because when I ask her she is able to fix it.

I think it mostly comes down to hating math and having a hard time accepting any kind of criticism. The problems really come when she has to fix mistakes.

Quoting Bleacheddecay:Could she have a math disability? My son did and we had battles like this. I started letting him do less and show me he understood. That helped some.

Is your child a perfectionist? That's something you need to work on. It can get really bad. My girl was like that.

Is she getting therapy for the dyslexia? Frustration from that could bleed over into every thing she does.

Quoting TJandKarasMom:I think she is dyslexic, I've tested her, but haven't had her professionally tested.

I will look for those cards, I hadn't heard of them before. I may just go ahead and back up. I'm wondering if I should invest in MUS at the multiplication level or stick with worksheets.

Thanks for the help, as usual :)

Quoting AutymsMommy: Is she dyslexic? I think you've been concerned about that before. My dyslexic dd had a terribly hard time with multiplication facts, despite being mathy. As a result, division was torture. I would recommend backing up. Have you seen Diane Craft's right brain multiplication cards?

She doesn't get anything for dyslexia, just me adjusting her lessons based on it. I have lowered my expectations and taught her everything else in different ways.

I think she may also have ADD, so I am looking into some natural ways to try to help with that.

Quoting mem82:Is she getting therapy for the dyslexia? Frustration from that could bleed over into every thing she does.

Quoting TJandKarasMom:I think she is dyslexic, I've tested her, but haven't had her professionally tested.

I will look for those cards, I hadn't heard of them before. I may just go ahead and back up. I'm wondering if I should invest in MUS at the multiplication level or stick with worksheets.

Thanks for the help, as usual :)

Quoting AutymsMommy: Is she dyslexic? I think you've been concerned about that before. My dyslexic dd had a terribly hard time with multiplication facts, despite being mathy. As a result, division was torture. I would recommend backing up. Have you seen Diane Craft's right brain multiplication cards?

I strongly urge you to get professional help for the dyslexia. Her future employers aren't going to adjust anything for her and lowering your expectations may make her feel like you are dumbing things down to her. This could be a large part of the issues you've been having with her.

Quoting TJandKarasMom:She doesn't get anything for dyslexia, just me adjusting her lessons based on it. I have lowered my expectations and taught her everything else in different ways.

I think she may also have ADD, so I am looking into some natural ways to try to help with that.

Quoting mem82:Is she getting therapy for the dyslexia? Frustration from that could bleed over into every thing she does.

Quoting TJandKarasMom:I think she is dyslexic, I've tested her, but haven't had her professionally tested.

Thanks for the help, as usual :)

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- Bleacheddecay

on Apr. 8, 2014 at 10:46 PMCould she have a math disability? My son did and we had battles like this. I started letting him do less and show me he understood. That helped some.

Is your child a perfectionist? That's something you need to work on. It can get really bad. My girl was like that.