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Speech IEP, WWYD?............. UPDATE

Posted by on Apr. 10, 2014 at 3:11 PM
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My 3, almost 4 , year old receives private speech for a severe articulation delay caused by hearing loss before he got tubes. His language and academics are on target. I had him evaluated by Child Search and his IEP is tomorrow. The speech therapist told me she plans to put him in a 75 minute preschool type session which has kids with all sorts of needs and all the different therapists work with them too. The other option is a 30 minute speech only private session. She had a real attitude and talked down to me on the phone, ugh. I don't do snotty school professionals well.

Anyway, I don't want him in a preschool setting since I plan to always hs him, he doesn't need other therapy, I don't want him in a group of kids " socializing" with them, and I don't want him exposed to any sick kids because he has a compromised immune system. I didn't know about these preschool therapy groups when I started.

Any ideas of how I can convince her to put him in the private session? I don't think she'd appreciate most of my reasons. :) And if she won't put him in the individual session do I just not sign the IEP?

Whew, the IEP actually went very well. The SLT has a MUCH better personality IRL than on the phone. I had both kids with me and she invited them to play and then chatted with my LO about the toys to do an informal assessment. She offered the preschool therapy which was twice a week for 75 minutes each. I told her the program sounds really good, which it did, but said I'd prefer the twice a week, 30 minute sessions which will be with one other child. I was honest and told her I didn't want to introduce him to a preschool setting when I didn't intend to send him to school and she said she absolutely understood. Whoa. I also told her about him getting sick easily and she said she sees another child who has a severe issue with her immune system.

She was really quick to agree to the semiprivate sessions. Part of it though is she realized he wouldn't fit in with the other kids in the group. She said she wouldn't classify his speech delay as severe like the dx, but as moderate and said it is much better than most of the other kids in the group. She also said he is very bright. He'll be eligible to get speech until he's 6 though she thinks it won't take that long to correct his speech.

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hwblyf
by Silver Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 3:23 PM

I would think the compromised immune system would be the reason she would accept most readily.  But otherwise, don't sign it.  If they're not willing to work with you on your terms, don't work with them.

chotovec82
by Bronze Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 4:10 PM
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My son also has a speech issue. He is dyspraxic. We went through the school district and got the IEP. They also suggested a preschool setting. I firmly said no and asked for private speech with the school tutor. My son is also in a private speech program as well with a local therapy group. Just be firm with them. Don't back down and ignore them talking down to you. You're the mom and you get to choose.
Bluecalm
by Bronze Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 4:59 PM
Did you give a reason or just said no?

Quoting chotovec82: My son also has a speech issue. He is dyspraxic. We went through the school district and got the IEP. They also suggested a preschool setting. I firmly said no and asked for private speech with the school tutor. My son is also in a private speech program as well with a local therapy group. Just be firm with them. Don't back down and ignore them talking down to you. You're the mom and you get to choose.
chotovec82
by Bronze Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 5:16 PM
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Quoting Bluecalm: Did you give a reason or just said no?

Quoting chotovec82: My son also has a speech issue. He is dyspraxic. We went through the school district and got the IEP. They also suggested a preschool setting. I firmly said no and asked for private speech with the school tutor. My son is also in a private speech program as well with a local therapy group. Just be firm with them. Don't back down and ignore them talking down to you. You're the mom and you get to choose.


I just said no and stuck with it.
bcogoli
by Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 6:30 PM

Maybe if you cant get private therapy then maybe you can get him in a small group where he will only be exposed to a few kids. It will be easier to communicate about his compromised immune system when dealing with just a few parents instead of a whole bunch.

TJandKarasMom
by Debbie on Apr. 10, 2014 at 8:40 PM
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With my experience working in a school and my experience in special Ed/with ieps...my advice is always: do not sign an iep you don't 100% agree with. Push for what you want, you are your child's advocate.

If you are uncomfortable with him being in a prek setting, then say no. You don't have to give reasons, just say you want individual therapy as you feel that is what is best for him. They are required to give you an iep and provide services, your only responsibility is your child's best interest, so don't sign it until you agree with it. Make sure it is specific as well, not "he will receive 30 minutes of speech 3x/week" make sure it is clear that it is 1:1 only and he will not be placed in the classroom.

They will talk down to you and act like they know better than you possibly could. Go with your gut and stick to it.
Knightquester
by Bronze Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 10:19 PM

I'm glad I scrolled down before writing my thoughts on this, because this is what I was about to say.

Quoting TJandKarasMom: With my experience working in a school and my experience in special Ed/with ieps...my advice is always: do not sign an iep you don't 100% agree with. Push for what you want, you are your child's advocate. If you are uncomfortable with him being in a prek setting, then say no. You don't have to give reasons, just say you want individual therapy as you feel that is what is best for him. They are required to give you an iep and provide services, your only responsibility is your child's best interest, so don't sign it until you agree with it. Make sure it is specific as well, not "he will receive 30 minutes of speech 3x/week" make sure it is clear that it is 1:1 only and he will not be placed in the classroom. They will talk down to you and act like they know better than you possibly could. Go with your gut and stick to it.
Bluecalm
by Bronze Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 10:29 PM
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Quoting TJandKarasMom: With my experience working in a school and my experience in special Ed/with ieps...my advice is always: do not sign an iep you don't 100% agree with. Push for what you want, you are your child's advocate. If you are uncomfortable with him being in a prek setting, then say no. You don't have to give reasons, just say you want individual therapy as you feel that is what is best for him. They are required to give you an iep and provide services, your only responsibility is your child's best interest, so don't sign it until you agree with it. Make sure it is specific as well, not "he will receive 30 minutes of speech 3x/week" make sure it is clear that it is 1:1 only and he will not be placed in the classroom. They will talk down to you and act like they know better than you possibly could. Go with your gut and stick to it.

I get kind of arrogant when I'm talked down to. I told my dh tonight that I didn't like the SLT and he said don't worry, after tomorrow she won't like you either lol.

sweetserenit292
by Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:52 PM

You know what is best......I was  where you are about 4 years ago.    I did put my child in the preschool setting and it lasted a month.   I should have never done that, but I felt pressured and wanted to do the right thing for my son.  It was not.   I did, however, have support from my outside speech therapist who did agree with me pulling him out of the program.   I have not re-established an IEP since then.   If you do decide on an IEP   it doesn't mean you have to do it their way......you can have it written the way you want it and still receive certain services thru the school..   When I pulled my son.....he could still recieve the speech through the school but I had to bring him for his 30 min session.  We tried this too.....but speech therapists, in school, are a hit and miss.  The one we had was geared more for older children and should not have been in the Elementary school.

Bluecalm
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 1:29 PM
He will still get services from his private speech therapist.

Quoting sweetserenit292:

You know what is best......I was  where you are about 4 years ago.    I did put my child in the preschool setting and it lasted a month.   I should have never done that, but I felt pressured and wanted to do the right thing for my son.  It was not.   I did, however, have support from my outside speech therapist who did agree with me pulling him out of the program.   I have not re-established an IEP since then.   If you do decide on an IEP   it doesn't mean you have to do it their way......you can have it written the way you want it and still receive certain services thru the school..   When I pulled my son.....he could still recieve the speech through the school but I had to bring him for his 30 min session.  We tried this too.....but speech therapists, in school, are a hit and miss.  The one we had was geared more for older children and should not have been in the Elementary school.

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