Well the other night...she asked me if I think we will do this again next year, when I said yes, I could tell she didn't approve. So, me and my big mouth asked what it was, did she think they weren't learning enough? Not necessarily. Basically she is concerned for DD10.5 (who is biologically not mine, but I have been in her life since she was a baby and her mother no longer has anything to do with her whatsoever...she calls me mom, and for all intents and purposes, I am her mom). I also have a DS11.5. DS is advanced, DD is not. She is just on grade level, and she is getting really tough as a child. She is angry a lot and really just has a lot of mood swings. I can't deal with her sassiness (which I take as disrespectfulness) so I end up yelling. She is really pushing the limits and testing the boundaries. There are plenty of days where I vow not to yell and I give her about 800 calm warnings about her tone of voice, etc..and by the 800th warning I raise my voice.
Mil thinks DDs anger is only because of hsing and we should send her back to school. She didn't see the little girl coming home crying every day after school, having to be re taught everything to do her homework, and spending days being bullied and anxious and uncomfortable. DD says repeatedly she wants to stay home again. When I said all of this, mil basically said its too hard for DD to be the one kid that's not smart in our group of two...but how about not being the smartest kid in a group of 25? How is that better? Then she countered with private school...well, that's really not in our budget, I would work just to pay for private school....mil offered to help pay for private school....are you kidding me?!
Luckily when I told DH all of this, he rolled his eyes and suggested that counseling for DD (and the anger) would be a better option than any kind of school....which says a lot because he does not believe in counseling (which is ironic since I have a degree in behavioral science, lol...but he just thinks if you can keep your business at home, you should...but he also believes in what's best for our kids, so if counseling is needed, he will do it).
Sorry for my venting, I am just so frustrated. When I vented to my parents they just rubbed it in my face that they are so much better than mil because they let my brother and his gf do whatever they want and basically don't require them to be responsible for anything ever. I like that DH and I can say we are responsible for ourselves and our family, but it's really frustrating to see my brothers gf refuse to work, get to sah and see my parents basically pay all their bills and laugh when I can't pay mine. Sorry, different vent. Ugh I am just so frustrated.