I'm not sure what I want to get out of this post, maybe advice.I just need someone to talk to about this, no judgment. Warning: I'm going to be rambling...
I've been hsing my 8 year old daughter and my mom is hsing my 14 year old brother. We live next door to one another. They are like siblings. At first I was glad they had each other to interact with, but the problem is he's not the greatest influence. My parents don't live by the same "standards" we do. I'm not trying to sound all goodie goodie or anything by that. We are not perfect.
My daughter has always been home with me. My brother started out hsing, then went to PS for a few years. He was already an aggressive boy. My parents didn't make rules and were not consistent in their parenting. He learned things in PS that he shouldn't have at his age. My parents still do not have rules. It's pretty much anything goes at their house; although he does get his shool work done.
We plan to move sometime in the future, hopefully near. They always end up outside, playing games like Lego Marvel or something like that. It's not the games they play that bothers me necessarily; although I tell them not to play violent (ha). I don't like my daughter to see how he disrespects my parents and for him to possibly tell her something she doesn't need to know. Like I said, he hasn't been the best influence in her life.
I try to get them to play in my backyard so I can constantly check on them. I have a 1 year old also so I can't be right there with them at all times, but I do keep a constant check on them. She is not allowed to go into their house because of how they live with no rules. That's a whole other story.
It's a differnt dynamic having a 14 year old brother that is hs'd as well as my 8 year old daughter. It almost feels like they are just neighbors and not family.My daughter seems really obsessed with spending time with my brother, her uncle. We don't have any other kids around for her to play with so they play together.
I have seen my brother "playfully" hit my mom, choke her, call her names and intimidate my dad. You know how they say homeschooling is not for every family? Well, I would have to say it's not for them. My mom will laugh it off when he does those things. I guess I should save this for a whole different post. My husband and I have noticed our daughter having more of an attitude after they play together.
I have tried to break away from my family and how I was raised and raise my children a differnt way. I'm not saying it's the right way for everyone (to homeschool), but it's the way I felt led to raise my children.I also chose to raise them with more structure and less turmoil than I grew up with. My family home was full of turmoil and continues to be to this day as my little brother grows up in it. The only thing I know to do is move away. I think I could write a pretty interesting book about my life. Hopefully it would sell and help someone.