Mission statement

Well, as you can see, I've made a bunch of "announcements." I want to use them as a kind of "prompt." Something to give members a place to start posting. The Ancmts. will basically be the core ideas of the group, basic topics. These I want to "refresh" every month, leaving up active discussions and good basic ideas, and weed out the other posts to make room for more ideas. I want people to post their "think that is great" "love the idea" "hate your idea, think it's bad" posts. But I  have noticed in other forums that that is what makes it hard to read through older topics. I want it to be a place of support among moms who aren't trying to be June Cleaver, but more down to earth type moms. The Roseanne's and other moms like that, who are just happy with good enough. Because why should good enough not be good enough? Why does our house have to be spotless and our children perfect for us to feel good as moms? And why should we be made to feel bad forever if we screw up along the way? It's bound to happen to even the best of us. Whether you are a SAHM or a go to work mom, sometimes you make choices and they go wrong. Parenting, wifing, and housekeeping are in essence trial and error jobs. What worked for your mother may not work in your family, because your kids are different, your partner is different, and how your day runs is different. In this group, I want us to feel alright with sharing our mistakes, as warning to others on what might not work as well as we thought, as a way to find answers on why it didn't work, and a way to unburden our souls of the self recrimination of having not done it "perfectly." I also want to encourage moms to just learn to love ourselves, and give practical ideas on how to make changes if we want. Some of us can go to the gym to get rid of that pregnancy weight, others may benefit from some at home tips they can do any time and not interrupt the flow of their day. Some need ways to look at themselves in the mirror and say, "you know, I need to stop wishing I looked like I did in high school, and learn to make what I look like now WORK." In high school, I thought I was fat. Now, with an extra 60+ lbs I realize I wasn't. But I have two choices. I can either waste my time wishing for something I can't have, or learn to love myself, streachmarks, rolls and all. Not to say I can't still try to lose weight, and try ridiculous miracle creams to get rid of those streachies, but since I have to live with what I look like till then, I might as well stop sabotaging myself, and be happy.

So, this is the basic idea. Hopefully things will evolve from there. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. If you find you really love this pet project of mine, and want to be a leader, let me know, and I'll give you a trial period as an admin. So have fun, and keep those comments rolling!