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Do you let your kids see you naked?

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I saw this in The Stir - Do you think it's normal for kids to see their parents nude?

Heidi Klum Lets Her Kids See Her Naked. So What?!

Posted by Christie Haskell
on August 27, 2011
 
heidi klumAccording to some, parental nudity will break kid's brains. Heidi Klum didn't get the message. She was spotted topless on a beach along. with her also-topless daughter Leni.

I don't see what the big deal is. When I was a kid, I saw my parents naked. Especially my mom (who reads this... sorry Mom!). We also went to pools where we'd be in the locker room and see women walking around totally naked, or men if we had to go into the locker room with my dad. And guess what? I'm not scarred for life. In fact, if anything, I think seeing lots of naked people did me good.

Especially seeing as it's just my sister and I, my mom didn't mind if we saw her naked. Because she found it so normal, we found it normal too. It also helps that as a nurse, she taught us how to compartmentalize the different uses of different things. Nudity in the shower? Totally different than nudity in front of a wind machine with oiled boobs. In fact, saying "oiled boobs" in a paragraph talking about my mom being naked weirds me out a little. But that's kind of my point. INTENTION.

The only thing my sister, as a toddler, got out of seeing a naked guy when my dad had to take her into the men's locker room was the perfect time to loudly announce, "Daddy, his thing is bigger than your thing!" Teehee!

When talking about her nudity in front of her child, Heidi Klum says of herself and husband Seal:

[My kids] see their parents naked all the time. We are not ashamed.

The writer of an article on MomFinds says she doesn't understand how you teach kids to keep private parts private if you don't keep them private, but says she walks around naked in her home. See, you teach children that there is a proper time, place and etiquette to nudity. There are social reasons you CAN be naked HERE but CAN'T be naked THERE. You teach why a swimsuit isn't proper attire for a nice restaurant but is appropriate for the beach. People also wear swimsuits that are more revealing than any clothing they would ever dare to wear -- different situations, different reasons, result in different things.

Kids CAN learn the difference -- that it's fine to run around their yard in nothing but shorts, but when they go to the grocery store, they are required to put on a shirt and shoes. They can learn that their penis can't come out in the grocery store, but is okay in a public bathroom. They can learn that breasts brought out for breastfeeding are different than those brought out for shock or sex. They can also learn that bodies are so private that they become uncomfortable ever using a locker room, a changing room in P.E. class, having an OB exam, or other situations. It's just as important to teach that there are places it's OKAY to be naked as it is to teach that there are places it's not. That said, it's important to always respect when a kiddo does ask for their own privacy as well, and your own comfort level DOES matter too.

And besides, Heidi Klum ain't exactly hard on the eyes.

Do you teach your kids that nudity can be normal in certain places, or is it something you work very hard to avoid?

by on Aug. 27, 2011 at 2:05 PM
Replies (21-30):
zeesmuse
by Bronze Member on Aug. 29, 2011 at 9:19 AM

Mine hasn't seen me naked since he was 2? We believe in modesty in this household.

tazzeetwins
by on Aug. 29, 2011 at 9:32 AM

My daughters see me naked all the time, they're 5 and girls. Not sure how I would feel if they were boys. My husband is VERY private so they NEVER see him naked. The first time they saw a little boy (their age) naked, they were fascinated but just laughed about it. It was no big deal.

 

oDye3X
by Member on Aug. 29, 2011 at 12:34 PM

Sorry ladies, I don't agree at all concerning this nudity thing. I saw my mom naked until I was about 6. Never saw my sister naked and never wanted to.   My sons didn't see me naked either. What happened to morals and privicy these days?

china682
by New Member on Aug. 29, 2011 at 12:39 PM

no my children see me naked i think that is really wrong with society what happen to morals

paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Aug. 29, 2011 at 12:45 PM
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I agree with the article 100%

I'll contine beinh naked around the kids until they feel uncomfortable with it.

Even now me, my mom and sister still undress infront of each other. Hell my mom even undresses in front my kids (Changing bathing suits, going to the bathroom, ect) my 6yo son included

racheljessee
by Member on Aug. 29, 2011 at 12:49 PM
I let my kids run around the house in just their diapers. And I don't purposely walk aroubd the house naked (I wouldn't do that even if I didn't have kids) but they have spied me walking from the bathroom to my bedroom after a shower in the clothes God gave me.
LindaClement
by Bronze Member on Aug. 29, 2011 at 1:00 PM

We go to the local recreation centre... where there are open showers and 4 changerooms, for an average of 20 people getting dressed at any one time. It wasn't until they re-developed the centre that there were 'family' change rooms (which they close on teen nights, lest someone start a new family in there...)

Nudity in same-sex groups is ordinary in our culture. 

We also have a nude beach, frequented almost exclusively by curious teenage boys (who learn very quickly that they're not THAT curious) and elderly hippy nudists. Ha ha!

I don't think morals enter into it, unless there is some automatic evil involved in the way humans are born, which makes me wonder why more people don't put panties on dogs. Privacy, on the other hand, is a sliding scale: what friends are privileged to see is different from what the mailman has access to, and families are allowed even closer.

Will you be concerned about morals and privacy when you're being cared for in a senior's facility? Or do nurses and orderlies get a bye so they can wash your privates, but your kids can't? What if it's your kids who end up taking care of you? Are you likely to be in a position to afford full-time nursing care?

Quoting oDye3X:

Sorry ladies, I don't agree at all concerning this nudity thing. I saw my mom naked until I was about 6. Never saw my sister naked and never wanted to.   My sons didn't see me naked either. What happened to morals and privicy these days?


Kmakksmom
by Stefanie on Sep. 1, 2011 at 11:50 PM
My girls have seen me nude when they were younger. Not now tho or they'd run for the hills, lol. My son has seen me nude too, but then again he's only 3 and doesn't know not to. As far as the potty situation I trained all 4 of my girls, and my husband is training my son right now. I don't have Kaden in the bathroom while I am going, and my husband didn't have the girls in there while they were training either.
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sreichelt26
by on Sep. 2, 2011 at 2:20 AM
I have only sisters, so once we were old enough to notice a difference, we didn't see my dad naked - in underwear was ok.

But to this day, we still have talks while mom's in the bathtub, go to the bathroom in front of each other, etc.

I don't think it's too big of a deal...just maybe iffy on the opposite gender part
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midnight_storm
by on Sep. 2, 2011 at 2:59 AM
I don't avoid nudity at home. I don't want to give my dds the impression that it's shameful. Dh does not do nudity but we have all girls, lol.
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