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Question: So what do you think? Is she using breastfeeding as a weapon?
Total Votes: 1016
Okay the mom is living with her parents. She doesn't work and had no intention of going back to work in the near future. The dad is complaining that because of the short visitation hours he was given, he'll have to pay more child support than what is fair.
My dh was telling me about a custody case. This guy he works with just separated from his wife. They have a 2 month old together and she has a 6 year old from another relationship. The guy is complaining because the mom won't let him have the baby for more than 4 hours at a time and overnights are a big no no because she's nursing the baby. (She nursed her oldest until he was 2) He says she should just pump. She refuses to.So now they're talking about going to court :-/
So what do you think? Is she using breastfeeding as a weapon?
Oh really?
I'm sorry he was a douche :-(
How old was your baby and how long were you able to use that as an excuse?
Quoting Cheepingmom:I did! My ex-husband was a douche!
He left when she was 3 months old...didn't want her til he got a girl friend(about a month later). I used it until she was about 1 when he knocked his girl friend up and they moved. Didn't have contact with him until I met my new husband and he adopted my children...the scuzball signed the papers and returned them faster than any person my attny had ever seen! I breastfed my daughter until she was two...and it wasn't to keep him away, it was because I wanted to!
Most breast fed babies refuse a bottle...I didnt think she should suffer because he a shitty father. Think about it, if they were together, the baby wouldn't have to suck a gross old bottle! Daddy would hand her over to momma and she would eat. If dad wants her longer then they should come up with a plan to let the baby have her breast...and suck it too!
Yes, unless there is a medical reason why she can she should either pump or get used to her DD drinking formula while she is with dad. She is selfish.
EDIT: If mom insist on Bfingshe needs to offer up more time with the baby. Instead of one full day, he can just get 5 or 6 four hour days. Her choice, should not interfere with his time.
BTW, if you are going to quote me, do so respectfully. Ive been quoted like 100 times, so please, come with something interesting and not the same old bullsh*t.
Yeah he sounds like a dick.
I'm glad to hear that they have real dad now!
Quoting Cheepingmom:He left when she was 3 months old...didn't want her til he got a girl friend(about a month later). I used it until she was about 1 when he knocked his girl friend up and they moved. Didn't have contact with him until I met my new husband and he adopted my children...the scuzball signed the papers and returned them faster than any person my attny had ever seen! I breastfed my daughter until she was two...and it wasn't to keep him away, it was because I wanted to!
Most breast fed babies refuse a bottle...I didnt think she should suffer because he a shitty father. Think about it, if they were together, the baby wouldn't have to suck a gross old bottle! Daddy would hand her over to momma and she would eat. If dad wants her longer then they should come up with a plan to let the baby have her breast...and suck it too!
Why should her baby be forced to drink formula?? And pumping can lead to supply issues.
Quoting cassnadrajones:Yes, unless there is a medical reason why she can she should either pump or get used to her DD drinking formula while she is with dad. She is selfish.
Quoting cassnadrajones:Yes, unless there is a medical reason why she can she should either pump or get used to her DD drinking formula while she is with dad. She is selfish.
Why should the child be fed a lesser food for dad's convenience?
Without knowing the details I have no idea if mom is using it as a weapon or not.
From what I understand, the arrangement listed above is common in many state courts.
My younger son would NEVER take a bottle, so anything by what is listed above wiukd really not have worked.
It isn't always about the dad or mom-sometimes it is the kid that needs to come first.
As much as I want to understand that, I cant. Her choice should not interfere with his rights. There are three real options. She either pumps, baby drinks donor milk for the time being if she can not, or baby drinks formula. He should be able to keep his child over night. I just dont see taking away his rights as an option. She really should try to be more understanding.
Quoting paganbaby:
Why should her baby be forced to drink formula?? And pumping can lead to supply issues.
Quoting cassnadrajones:
Yes, unless there is a medical reason why she can she should either pump or get used to her DD drinking formula while she is with dad. She is selfish.
I think the dad should put his baby first. What's best for her? Number 1 donor milk is hard to come by and shouldn't be used if mom is perfectly capable of nursing. Formula is inferior to BM and the baby could be like ds and not take a bottle ever. I went back to work when ds was 3 months old. In that entire time he would not drink a bottle. My mom had to use a dropper so he wouldn't dehydrate.
Quoting cassnadrajones:As much as I want to understand that, I cant. Her choice should not interfere with his rights. There are three real options. She either pumps, baby drinks donor milk for the time being if she can not, or baby drinks formula. He should be able to keep his child over night. I just dont see taking away his rights as an option. She really should try to be more understanding.
Quoting paganbaby:
Why should her baby be forced to drink formula?? And pumping can lead to supply issues.
Quoting cassnadrajones:
Yes, unless there is a medical reason why she can she should either pump or get used to her DD drinking formula while she is with dad. She is selfish.
Just THROW it AWAY!!!
- paganbaby
on Jan. 13, 2012 at 9:19 PM