I have to give a little background information before I can actually ask my question, so please, bear with me.
Our two year old was sick last week. He vomited twice during the night...no fever, and the vomiting occurred with about an hour between the bouts. Our four year old got sick in the middle of the night and dealt with tummy issues the next three days.
Now, I'm not new to this....When I take them to the doctor with occurances like this one we are told...the vomiting is not continuous and, therefore, not a threat for dehydration and there is no fever...so due to his age there is no meds to give him at this point. Push water and tylenol if a fever develops but isn't over 100 degrees. The virus has to run its course.
So I keep my husband updated thru the week and, of course, he tells his mom and dad. The third day of our four year old being sick his father asks him about us taking Noah (4 yr old) and Zane (2 yr old) to the doctor. My hubby explains that the doctor is only going to charge us $50 and send us home because there is no fever or threat of dehydration. His father agrees and the subject is dropped.
They were feeling better, neither one had vomited in 2 days and the belly problems were gone so we allowed them to spend the night at hubby's mom and dad's house. That next morning we get a phone call at 7 am telling us that Zane is sick and that his mom is going to take them both to the doctor. My husband asks her about picking them up and bringing them home...she tells him there is no need to do that and that she is planning on taking them to a health clinic and get them checked out. Then explains that the boys being sick isn't anything we've done wrong. (WHAT?)
So two hours later we call and they have just gotten to the clinic...we explain that since the boys are sick we are going to go pick up their things and that they can just bring the boys home after the appointment.
We get a call after the appointment has ended. His mom gets upset and starts crying. She says that she wants to take the boys home because Noah is wanting to play there and that their great aunt is planning on coming over and she wanted them to visit. Hubby told her if the boys are sick they should be home where we have pedilite and yogurt for them to enjoy and can lay down and be comfortable. He tells her he loves her but that the boys are sick and need to be at home. She hangs up with a pause before telling him she loves him.
She then calls us back and asks if it's okay for her to take them by McDonalds on the way home. He tells her the food is too greasy and will only upset their bellies more and that we have chicken noodle soup here that they can have for lunch. She, then, says that she is just going to take them back to her house so they can play. My hubby says No, that doesn't make sense...they were sick enough that you thought they should go to the doctor...so they need to come home and rest. He tells her she can have them over next weekend to make up for this weekend not going well.
They bring them home. She sits on our couch complaining about how she had shortened her weekend with them and my hubby reassures her that she can watch them the upcoming weekend and that we wished they hadn't gotten sick on her weekend. She responds with," I don't know if I can watch them next weekend I might have plans."
The boys did not have an issue all day that day in our care...they played like normal and ate like normal ( a little better than normal for one)
I,now, firmly believe that what has happened is she decided since we "wouldn't" take them to the doctor thru the week that she would take them during her weekend to try to show us what a bad job we are doing as parents. ( Why else would she have said,"We didn't do anything wrong." ? ) This was ruined,though,because the doctors told them the EXACT thing that my hubby told her they would. She presented us with a bill and my hubby is considering re-imbursing her for it. Not to mention that when we went to pick their things up...their sleeping bags were folded and put away. (She claimed that she washed them when hubby said I was going to) Just today she told him that Zane never actually threw up...so is this a power play or what is going on?
Now, she is barely talking to my husband at all. How were we wrong to have them bring the boys home? We didn't want to leave the boys with their grandparents if they were sick...that is our responsibility not theirs ( not to mention that if your child is sick...don't you want them home where you can care for them? ) and the offer still stands to let them come over this weekend to make up for last weekend's interrupted visit...I don't see it happening though, because she won't commit to it and I think she is trying to make my hubby feel bad for having the boys brought home.
What do you think? What is going on with this? How were we wrong or is it her?