Okay, so here's the question that got stuck in my head earlier. I'll try to articulate it. I'm not trying to troll, I'd really like to see the discussion. I know some will want to be all dramatic and bent, but hopefully we can agree to disagree and actually just explain our own points of view? Maybe?
The question is:
WHY is premarital sex a bad thing?
The conditions of the question -- let's assume we're talking about people who are of whatever the legal consenting age in any given region. Let's also assume that we are NOT talking about sexual crimes or abuses, but consenting consentual sex. Let's assume the persons having the sex are tested and clean and using reasonable birth control/protection.
For my own point of view -- I am not religious, though I was born and raised Roman Catholic and was that until the late '90's. I was about 2 months away from being 17 when I lost my virginity. I'd been in a relationship a handful of months with the boy (he was 18) at the time. We used condoms. It was fun. I've never regretted it, I've never wished I hadn't done it or had waited, I've never felt as though I was used goods, or that my virginity was some special 'gift' that should have been saved for a more permanent relationship. I did not at that time believe that that boy and I would end up married. I was about in the middle of my friends, timewise...at that point about half of them had "lost it" and the other half weren't terriblyl far behind me...with only one or two holding out for college years/ages. I've never had an STD, I've never had an abortion, my one child was planned and had during my first marriage. I do not see anything at all wrong with premarital sex. In fact, I can't imagine committing to spending the rest of my life married to this one person and not even know if we're compatible in bed. I consider sex a fundimental part of my marriage. And while it's certainly not THE most important thing, it IS important. I've seen more than one or two marriages fail over the years in my various circles that could draw their problems directly to sexual problems (with the only worse cause being money).
So do you believe that premarital sex is a bad thing or not?
Why do you believe the way that you do?
And yes, I really am just curious.