I need your advice, please

[NatalieNW]

I just find out that it's 19th week... i had one sonogram & i don't want to go to ob/gyn in the nest 50days. is it ok? I was shocked to see how huge this fetus is & couldn't stop crying.  When i get home i see that b/f's hoarding is out of control. it's bad. i'm scared of sharp objects everywhere. i cry again. he doesnt want to clean up. he says i'm never nice. I planned to see a dentist to fix my smile but any experience with any dentist was horrible. i must get my teeth redone. but when? on the 21st week? i'm afraid of shots and such.  Since b'f/s hoarding bothers me i picked up one trash bin but turns out it's very heavy so i pushed it from the room like for 4min. & it's when strong cramping & pain started in my belly (like baby's kicks & punches r not enough). I don't know what to do. i learned my lesson to walk slowly around his clutter & not to touch it but i feel sooooo bad. help?!?!

 

[amonkeymom]

Welcome!

If your home isn't a safe place to be and the baby's father isn't willing to change and clean things up, maybe it's time for you to think of moving to a place that will be safe to raise a baby even if it means the father doesn't go with you.  You have to do what's best for the little one.

[Layce8504]

 If he care anything about you or the child he'll do the right thing if not then oyou should leave.

 

 

[Kodysmommy928]

Welcome!  If your child's father isn't willing to help, you have to do the right thing for it and leave.

[blondieof3kids]

THIS!!!

Quoting Kodysmommy928:

Welcome!  If your child's father isn't willing to help, you have to do the right thing for it and leave.

[mrsparker0]

Contact a local church and take him to a surprise counseling session, if you want to save the relationship. Babies can surprise us when we least expect it but your SO's behavior shouldnt. Please think long and hard about staying with this man. Try making a pros and cons list. If there is more hhhhpositives to being w/ him then please seek counseling for your relationship, his hoarding, and for you to cope with the hoarding. Also praying /meditating about it does wonders! Or even go visit your family for awhile to clear your head. GL and prayers mama :)

[Kmakksmom]

Yep.

Quoting Kodysmommy928:

Welcome!  If your child's father isn't willing to help, you have to do the right thing for it and leave.