ok so first a little history. When I was 10 my dad was dating this awful woman who had an 18 year old son and a 20 something year old daughter. I walked in my bedroom one day and found her son with his hand down my sisters pants. She had tears streaming down her face. So I walked right into my parents room and told them what I saw. It only went downhill from there.
He would masterbate while watching me sleep. I could go on more, but needless to say he was a sicko.
I talked about it at school and so I was the bad one that told our family's little secret. Eventually, we got out of there and moved back in with my mom. But a few months ago I got a phone call from a District Attorney. He wanted off the sex offender list. It was a hard thing because it just brought all this stuff right back. My sister did NOT want to go to court. But I did. I am no longer scared of this man. I am a grown woman and there is nothing he can do to me. When I walked in that courtroom he was terrified and I was very happy about that. The whole time his sister was glaring at me like how dare you and I glared right back. And tonight I took my girls to the Rodeo we were having so much fun. Until I saw her. She walked right by me and kind of got in my face and walked off. Never taking her eyes off me. I hate the fact that I am hated for what HE did. If it wasnt for my kids being around, I think I would have caused a scene. And I am a very level headed person. I dont lose my cool, never been in a fight ever.
But I wonder...WHEN we meet again. And we will. Its a small town. What should I do? Because my first reaction is to punch her.
When someone wants to ruffle your feathers, nothing kills then more than completely failing to do so!!!
I would ignore her ..He should be on a sex offender list forever . If he did it once he will do it again.She might be into his sick game also that why she mad because if my brother was accused and found guilty I would be piss off at him
I hear that blowing a kiss really irks the hell out of people. ^.^
(and sorry you had to deal with that..)
Treat her a lot like you would treat a bully.
As much as you can, avoid her. You can't go into hiding, but if choosing a different route helps you avoid her, do it.
When you glared back, it sent a message that you're standing tall and being brave. That "don't mess with me" message is a good message to send.
It already seems like you feel good about yourself, so you're ahead of the game. I'm very proud of you for walking into that courtroom to protect me from unknowingly living in a neighborhood with a man that should continue to be listed as a sex offender. Thank you. It sounds like you're already proud of yourself, so I doubt that I even need to tell you to feel that way.
If you do know that you and she are going to attend the same event, try to bring a friend-- one that has a cool head, not one that will want to bust her skull with you. The sister will probably be less likely to start something when you have a friend with you, and you'll have a friend to help you keep calm in case the sister works you up.
She obviously wants a big reaction from you, so don't give it to her. Just ignore her and find your way to a place of safety, especially if your children are with you.
Keep sticking up for yourself, but remember to walk away.
Fighting back will just satisfy her and it's dangerous, too, because someone could get hurt. You're also likely to get in trouble. It's best to stay with others, stay safe, and get help if you need it.
Don't show your feelings. Keep your mind occupied until you are out of the situation and somewhere safe where you can show your feelings. Try to distract yourself by counting to 100, spelling words backwards, etc.
And again... thank you. :)
Quoting Lachrymose:I hear that blowing a kiss really irks the hell out of people. ^.^
(and sorry you had to deal with that..)
Honestly, I wish I knew. Some of his ex girlfriends have come to me to ask my side of the story. And 1 told me that the family says that it was a "sexual experiment gone wrong." Yuck. We were TEN for crying out loud! And his mother told her that me and my sister were "tempting" him by wearing little pajamas and crap. Whatever. Again, TEN. They need someone to blame and they would rather thinkme and my sister were a bunch of little sluts who were trying to seduce this poor young man. And Im sure it irks them that we are both married with children and had never been promiscuous in our adult lives. And in court he said that they were dating. Ugh...
And, I think he did it to her to. I dont KNOW that. But I got a hunch. His mom and sister sat down on the bed that night and said it was "natural for boys to experiment" So yeah. They are ALL sick.
Quoting LML1:
Why is she pissed at you for her brothers actions? I don't understand. Is she just as sick as he is? I totally understand where you are coming from with holding your emotions back. It would be very hard for me to do so... Good job keeping your cool while you had your kiddos.
Oh my gosh thats too funny!
Quoting Lachrymose:
I hear that blowing a kiss really irks the hell out of people. ^.^
(and sorry you had to deal with that..)
The Tampon Game!
- peacemom28
on Aug. 4, 2012 at 12:55 AM