On Monday I signed our newest agreement. He has partially supervised visits due to his anger issues. I changed my number earlier this year because of the harassing texts. He doesn't know my number, only his parents do. He doesn't drive, his parent pick our son up for him.
Anyway they called me to tell me the papers are good except max needs to be unsupervised. They have told me he no longer has a bed for our son. He took it down.
What am I suppose to do? Have him court ordered to do parenting classes. And tell my lawyer just take it to court. I've been told to if my lawyer takes it to court he won't be there. Well fine with me you'll get a failure to appear in court and put in jail. That's your call but as far as it is I'm so tired of it.
Am I wrong with this? What would you ladies do?
GO TO COURT!!!!! If he doesn't show up, the judge is more likely to rule in your favor. Most judges don't appreciate it when on party does not bother to show up. Your ex DOES need court ordered parenting classes and supervised visits. If he doesn't take the ordered classes, he could lose even the supervised visits.
Hey Meg I agree with Terri 100% I was in a similar situation years ago. Afew things were different about my situation though. My oldest sons father would torment me and say he was picking him up and then never show. He saw he a max number of 20 times in a year. I am not going to say "oh go to court and that will fix the problem" Unfortunately its a pain in the you know what! I don't know how the court system works now but 10 years a go you could only file a motion with the family court every 30 days. So on the 30th day I went down and filed a motion and just kept doing it they told me to record every time he called, how long the conversation was and what it was about, they also told me to keep records of the child support wheather he was paying or not paying and dates on when I recieved it. I had a whole binder of stuff. He even claimed my son on his taxes! So I called the IRS and reported it that I had full custody and he hasn't seen him in months. At the end of it I was lucky that the court mediator saw who he really was and flat out told him what was going to happen. Now after everything got ironed out he called me less (mainly because I wouldn't allow him to ruin my life anymore) and saw my son less. When my son was a year and a half I met a great man! We got married when my son was about 5 and my husband wanted to adopt him. Since his father was a no show for years we had to hire a private investigator to find him and serve him papers to go to court. He wind up no even showing up after he called and harrassed every one involved. But the moral of the story after all my blabbering is..... You need to make it right for YOU, if you are ok your child is ok. If this mans main concern is not your child then oh well. If you feel that court ordered parenting classes will help then girl you have it ordered. You are incharge of your life and your childs. I don't care if his father is the president of the U.S. he has a responsability to take care of his child! And if he won't then oh well! I know its hard and you sound like me when my son was small and all I wanted was for my son to be "normal" and have a mom a dad and a home. But ya know what I realized I hated living with my parents, I hated working 3 jobs and never having nice things or having time to myself. But none of that matters as long as my son is happy and healthy thats all that should matter. And a very wise woman told me that. She also told me " It never gets better it only gets worse, and unless you want to wait around every time for the worse to get worse you need to move out and move on" "your son is happy and healthy" I am sorry for the long long message but your not alone and good luck I hope it all works out for you and your child:) hope my rant was helpful lol
Do you really want a father like him in that child's life? I would take him to court. You are doing what is best for him. Of course its good for your son to have a father figure but a crappy father figure isn't good for him either.
Quoting rosestevens85:Do you really want a father like him in that child's life? I would take him to court. You are doing what is best for him. Of course its good for your son to have a father figure but a crappy father figure isn't good for him either.
If he doesn't show up, you will automatically win. Let your lawyer handle it. Do not *to the best of your power* let your son be left alone with an abuser, or you are only enabling the abuse of your son when it WILL inevitably happen.
I would definitely go to court! Your main priority is to protect your son. If he gets unsupervised visits when you know he is still not able to control himself, it would be an invitation to abuse your son. He may tell him things he shouldn't to get to you (especially since he harasses you) and that would put a terrible stress on your son. Also, as your son gets older and annoys his dad, his abusive ways and lack of self control could end up with physical abuse as well. You are not wrong! Stick to your guns mama!
Quoting sarah427:I would definitely go to court! Your main priority is to protect your son. If he gets unsupervised visits when you know he is still not able to control himself, it would be an invitation to abuse your son. He may tell him things he shouldn't to get to you (especially since he harasses you) and that would put a terrible stress on your son. Also, as your son gets older and annoys his dad, his abusive ways and lack of self control could end up with physical abuse as well. You are not wrong! Stick to your guns mama!
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- Meg2011425
on Aug. 11, 2012 at 1:37 PM