On the verge of Divorce

[Frustrated69]

I have been married for almost 15 years. My husband can not keep an erection. I need to know if I am wrong for seeking a Divorce over this. I feel so selfish but we don't share any intimacy on any level. All we do is fight, at least that is what it fees Ike. If and when we do have sex it is over in 3 minutes - yes I have timed him :/ I came into this marriage with more experience than my husband and I have tried EVERYTHING I can think of to prolong his erections. He has been to the Dr. and all he can say is don't get so excited. Ty different techniques. I am beyond frustrated!! We have become room mates and I hate it!! Please any and all advise welcomed!

Thank you

[lipsis]

I'd recommend experimenting with foreplay and masterbation. Yes, he'll still ejaculate too quickly, but you can get your pleasure elsewhere. Other than that, work on your nonsexual problems, because bad sex amplifies issues.

[fullxbusymom]

If your relationship is based solely on sex then you never had a marriage in the first place.  My husband and I have only had sex twice in 6mo's since my 4th son was born.  He would have it everyday if he could, I have zero desire.  He respects me enough to be okay with that as our relationship is so much more than sex.  We love each other endlessly and would never split or even argue over something so petty as sex. 

[chattycassie]

 I would say this is a HUGE issue. My Ex and I had similar problems we also sought advise from a Dr and medication (still no help) we had way too many other problems and the Dr thought it was maybe physiological since it was a recent thing not something that happened since the beginning. I would recommend toys and play to satisfy you and him both. If you love him and want to stay with him the intimacy can be achieved with out sex. GOOD LUCK

[Kris_PBG]

I woukd try counseling before dissolving the marriage.

[mrsparker0]

Agreed. And yes they have sex therapists!

Quoting Kris_PBG:

I woukd try counseling before dissolving the marriage.

[Kodysmommy928]

I would too. 

Quoting Kris_PBG:

I woukd try counseling before dissolving the marriage.

[sjump25]

I would try counseling as well.  Good luck

[Bmama1]

I agree with this.

Quoting lipsis:

I'd recommend experimenting with foreplay and masterbation. Yes, he'll still ejaculate too quickly, but you can get your pleasure elsewhere. Other than that, work on your nonsexual problems, because bad sex amplifies issues.

[lapcounter]

Sorry I can't answer until I am placed in the position. Honestly I feel it is selfish because I think of marriage vows in sickness and in health, but that is just me. I am assuming you have consulted a doctor?

[peacemom28]

Viagra?