My husband told our six and half year old there is no tooth fairy no Santa No Easter Bunny-
My husband is older than I and Jewish. I converted, yet we still celebrate Xmas at my sister's and I have a holiday winter tree. Last night, my 6 year old tells me that dad told him there is no tooth fairy, that I am actually the one who puts the money under the pillow, and it comes from the bank. I really feel like children should have fantasy in today's world, and not be so cynical. What upsets me more is that my husband did not have a conversation with me about it. We have younger kids, twin babies. I explained that yes money does come from the bank, but somehow it magically goes under the pilow. I really did not know what to say to my six year old, and I feel sad his dad would tell him that. I think it is awful and wrong that my husband did that.
Last night I attempted a conversation with my husband, and he said, well our son asked me so I was honest and that this was months ago, what was the big deal? I explained that there might be other first graders who still believe in all of this. I told my husband also, that our little twins will want to believe in the tooth fairy etc. too. He said fine, whatever. I explained that it upset me that he did not talk about it with me first. He then goes how there are things "I do" without talking about it first. He tells me I am "picking on him." He proceded to go in the other room and not want to talk about it. We slept in separate bedrooms.
I tried to talk to him and he just leave me alone.
Earlier, yesterday when my husband got home from work, he made a comment (my father is old and had surgery) since my parents cannot come out for THanksgiving, that maybe I could take the kids and visit them back east for Xmas, and he said MAYBE he would come too. I was a bit floored--taking one year old twins and a six year old on a 5 hour flight does not sound like something I could do alone. I just feel like I am married to a selfish person who does not appreciate me nor our kids. When I ask our son to stop doing something (like jumping on the living room furniture) my husband turns to me tells me I am raising my voice. I am just so sick of him. He is not a nice person.