My 6y/o DD makes a habit of asking for expensive material things. Always wanting new, better, cuter. I don't give in, and typically neither does her dad at his house. *we're divorced*
The difference is, her dad is passive about it, and just says "I'll think about it" or "maybe later."
I will tell DD that "That's a lot of money just for ____" or " I don't have that kind of money right now"
I want to teach her the value of money, and that mom & dad aren't you're personal credit line.
Also, I try to instill in her to be happy with what she's got. If she wants a new pair of pants for instance, I will show her all the pants she already has, and suggest if she's bored with them, maybe adding sparkles to her jeans, or putting colorful patches along the bottoms. It usually works, its just time consuming.
Well, here's where I want opinions. She's been refusing to use a backpack that I bought for her 6th birthday. It was $35 and she picked it out herself. I told her that "This was an expensive backpack, and if you're going to ask for something special like this, you need to appreciate it and use it, instead of asking me to waste my money on something you don't really want"
She started using it, and when her dad saw her new backpack, and asked where she got it *he forgot cuz she never used it* she told him what I said.
He got upset that I'm imposing money problems onto a 6y/o. He thinks money problems are for adults only, and kids shouldn't have to worry about how expensive things are, especially if I already bought it.
So, what do you think? Talking money, material posessions, and value of things with kids, good or bad?