Both my husband and I work. I work part time. I take care of the majority of the household task, the majority of the childcare, and help pay what bills I can from my part-time paycheck. My husband frequently tells me out of the blue that something is going to be fixed, upgraded, changed, etc. Most of the time it doesn't bother me. For example, if the wiring needs fixed well by all means do it. But he never consults me he just says this is what's going to happen.
Well the latest project he told me they were putting a ceiling fan in the kitchen because he really wanted a fan in the kitchen. I told him I'd like to go with him to help him pick it out because the last one he picked out in the living room does not shed much light and makes the living room look like a cave. He said "oh yea yea". Well the next thing I know him and his dad decided they're also retiling the kitchen ceiling, putting in track lighting, upgrading the wiring, and changing light switches and outlets. All these decisions were made between them and I wasn't even consulted. But I said it was fine but I wanted to help pick out the ceiling tile and asked him how a ceiling fan turned into a laundry list without me knowing. He just said it will be nice and i'll be glad when it's done.
Then I found out him and his dad went and decided on the ceiling fan, track lighting, and everything else without me again. They bought the ceiling tile and brought it home. The ceiling tile is the exact ceiling tile that was in the house I grew up in that I had to stare at for about 20 years at my parents house. I told him I didn't care for it but he brushed it off. They started putting it up and the more they put up the more I didn't care for it. My husband made sure to tell his dad that I didn't like it as his dad was putting it up. They started making fun of me and whispering around the corner and saying stuff. They said "If you would have told me before we put it up I could have taken it back" I told him I did tell him but he didn't even consult me before he bought it all and brought it home.
This isn't the first time this has happened. Furniture comes into the house that I don't want and I was never even asked, painting has been done without asking what I thought about the colors, etc. I don't feel like it's my house. I don't think I'm alone in saying half the fun of remodeling is picking out colors, and deciding on designs together. I say my piece and he says he'll consult me and I we can go shopping together but the next project comes along and it's the same story.
I need opinions. To be fair, I am pregnant. Is it possible that maybe I'm just too emotional? What would you do? How would you feel?