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I don't enjoy having sex with my husband and I become attracted to girls. Is this ok? I don't know why I feel this way. Is there anyway to get over this or should I get in bed with a girl?
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by on Nov. 28, 2012 at 2:55 PM
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pampire
by on Nov. 28, 2012 at 8:08 PM

Bisexuality is normal.  Join one of the bi-curious or alt lifestyle groups and talk to people that feel the same.  Be open and honest with your spouse.

LadyOphelia
by New Member on Nov. 28, 2012 at 8:18 PM
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I was open with my husband before we started dating that I was bisexual. I wanted him to know from the get-go. He was the one who said "this is a part of you & I want you happy" & encouraged me to find a girlfriend....since my love for men is totally different of a love of women. 


Biggest thing: TALK to your hubby about it. Communication is key. Also, treat sex like the weather channel....constant updates. Give him pointers, hints, tips, tricks. It can be fun to talk about it (and help him which helps you in the long run). Maybe watch some fun girl on girl porn together (but the good kind, not lipstick lesbian style) & talk about your feelings/his feelings etc.

TattooedMomto4
by on Nov. 28, 2012 at 9:43 PM

 There is  nothing wrong with being bisexual. However, if you have a sexual relationship with someone other than your husband, unless he is okay with it, then it is cheating. Now, if your husband is okay with the idea of a threesome, that's something entirely different.

Texascandee
by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:23 AM

Anytime you do anything sexual with another man or woman that you do with your husband is cheating so yes, you would be cheating with a girl.........would you consider it cheating if your husband had sex with another man?

Quoting AnayaFatima:

Would I be cheating if I did it with a girl ?


KidWhisperer
by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:46 AM
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I don't think that whether or not you are attracted to women is really the issue. I think you first need to address the things that are not working in your current relationship before you can "get in bed" with anyone else be it a man or a woman.  How you treat your current partner and how you allow them to treat you says alot more about you than it does about them.  It's probably best for him and you if you try to figure out whether or not your relationship is salvageable and if not then maybe you should both move on before you cause resentment by bringing another person into the equation. If you don't respect yourself or your partner enough to have open, honest communication about how you feel then you are just going to carry your "baggage" onto the next relationship anyway.  Good luck to you, I hope things work out well.

Legaltype
by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 9:50 AM

Yeah, bring it up with your husband. I'm sure he'd love that (lol).

witchybabymomma
by Member on Nov. 29, 2012 at 10:23 AM

 I DON'T THINK ANYTHING IS WRONG WITH IT. DON'T HAVE SEX WITH KIDS AND OTHER THEN THAT I SAY YOUR GOOD :-)

twweaty
by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 1:17 PM

Being bisexual is fine! many woman are.. even alot that wont admit it. just remember to always talk to your hubby.. tell him how you feel.. see how he feels.. maybe a girl could help you enjoy things with hubby? 

Redwall
by Member on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:19 PM
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I think if you're married, it's completely wrong...Have sex with a girl will ruin your marriage vows and should your husband find out...and I'd expect you'd tell him, you'll be divorced in a heartbeat.

hopealways4019
by Bronze Member on Nov. 29, 2012 at 8:12 PM
You have to be ok with it yourself! And at least be honest with your husband.
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