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Hey mommies I was hoping you ladies could give me some good advice

Posted by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:24 AM
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So before I start I just had a daughter on oct and the father and I been having a little bit of problems weve been togetger for 2 and 1/2 yrs and he broke up with me because hes not happy anymore he said he's feelings towards me are not the same since last week I asked why all of a sudden how can someone lose feelings for another person when theyve been though a lot. he said we don't talk like before or at all, our relationship isint like it was before I got pregnant. The thing is that he still wants me and the baby to live with him because he wants to take care of us and still wants to be friends what Do I do i want to be a family again do you think it's possible to make things work again and how?

So i kept asking questions and got upset and said why do you need closure for everything and i said i do to move on and be happy and hes lile ok but when i started to ask again he for upset and he said i cant force someones feelinga and i lnow that and that wasent my intention and said all i was doig that say was just push him away even more because hefelr attacked i was just in so much pain i couldnt understand why he was doing this now after so long and now that we have a daughter? He said he just wants to be alone like with nobody and I asked so that's it for us and he said no I didn't say that and then I asked well should I try an move on then and he said no and just rubbed my head and went to work and gabe a hug what should I do I want him back in my life and be happy again but it looks like we're gonna have to start from beginning which means just being friends and showing him how much fun we had and that we still love each other well at least I feel that way

Well how long should I give him space first before we become friends again remember we live together and he wants me to stay because he still wants to take care of us and do you think it's possible for us to get back together ?
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mandi0913
by New Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:41 AM
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Just go on about your everyday life and just build up your relationship from there. Talk about your days the baby and leave it at that. Slowly start to build toward more dont push it just let it come naturally.
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peacemom28
by Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:46 AM

 First of all- I would NOT live there. No way. He doesnt get his cake and eat it to. Living together when your broke up NEVER works. I would leave. Maybe when that happens he will realize what hes losing.

amonkeymom
by Amy on Dec. 7, 2012 at 2:28 PM

Congratulations on your new daughter!

It sounds like your daughter's dad wants to have his cake and eat it too.  I'd suggest either couples counseling or that you no longer live together since you're being led on to an extent.

(((hug)))

Quoting Analizettesalas:

So before I start I just had a daughter on oct and the father and I been having a little bit of problems weve been togetger for 2 and 1/2 yrs and he broke up with me because hes not happy anymore he said he's feelings towards me are not the same since last week I asked why all of a sudden how can someone lose feelings for another person when theyve been though a lot. he said we don't talk like before or at all, our relationship isint like it was before I got pregnant. The thing is that he still wants me and the baby to live with him because he wants to take care of us and still wants to be friends what Do I do i want to be a family again do you think it's possible to make things work again and how?

So i kept asking questions and got upset and said why do you need closure for everything and i said i do to move on and be happy and hes lile ok but when i started to ask again he for upset and he said i cant force someones feelinga and i lnow that and that wasent my intention and said all i was doig that say was just push him away even more because hefelr attacked i was just in so much pain i couldnt understand why he was doing this now after so long and now that we have a daughter? He said he just wants to be alone like with nobody and I asked so that's it for us and he said no I didn't say that and then I asked well should I try an move on then and he said no and just rubbed my head and went to work and gabe a hug what should I do I want him back in my life and be happy again but it looks like we're gonna have to start from beginning which means just being friends and showing him how much fun we had and that we still love each other well at least I feel that way

Well how long should I give him space first before we become friends again remember we live together and he wants me to stay because he still wants to take care of us and do you think it's possible for us to get back together ?


Analizettesalas
by New Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 2:54 PM
Thanks to all of you
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Kodysmommy928
by Jennifer on Dec. 7, 2012 at 3:43 PM

He can't have it both ways.  You and your daughter need to move out and he can take care of her by paying child support.  Does he honestly expect you to be ok with it if he brings home a date?  Seriously, for your mental wellness, you and your daughter need to move out.  He doesn't get to have a house keeper and get to dodge the relationship stuff.  Don't allow him to hurt you.

bigmama423
by Liz on Dec. 7, 2012 at 4:48 PM

I agree with the others.

Good luck with everything though, I hope you guys can maybe figure something out.

Congrats on your baby by the way. Do what you feel is best for you and your little.

Rocsi718
by Member on Dec. 8, 2012 at 4:34 PM

you can't break up with someone and still live with them like nothing happened at all. It would be emotional torture for you because you love him and still want a relationship with him. I say give what he wants and thats space move out and move on honey!!!!!! Maybe you could re-establish your friendship and one day have a relationship again, but dont get your hopes up because in the end thats how you get your feelings hurt. Focus on loving your daughter and yourself!!

Chyna34
by New Member on Dec. 8, 2012 at 6:31 PM

give him a while to get his head together. and if you need a job that would allow you to stay at home with ur little one. Here's what i did and i make at least $500-$1000 weekly. and i'll put u in my prayers. Stay focused.

www.tvcmatrix.com/mrsgreen34

stillkim
by Bronze Member on Dec. 9, 2012 at 1:00 AM

Move on.

Analizettesalas
by New Member on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:10 AM
There's just a problem I have a lot of problem with my dad so I wouldn't be able to go home I wanna stay here and work so I can get my own place but my baby is so small so I'm in a pickle
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