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How to wean 3 and 5 year old from co-sleeping, have a new baby. - PIOG

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I have an almost 5 (dd) year old, 3 (ds) year old and an almost 4 (dd) month old and I need to "train" hte older kids to sleep on their own (they share a king). At the moment I lay with them till they fall asleep then creep out of the bed and into the other room with the baby (my poor husband sleeps in "our" bed on his own). They both will at one point in the night wake and come crawl in bed with me, but its not safe for the baby, good for my sleep, etc. and I hate then having to get up with the baby and get in the other bed, sometimes back and forth several times in the night. I don't like the idea of them chasing me, like mommy's trying to get away from them, and I really need the sleep. Has anyone had experience with this?

by on Dec. 8, 2012 at 8:49 AM
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othermom
by Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:51 PM
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Maybe just start taking them back to their bed each time and telling them bed time and not laying down with them. Sit next to the bed till they go to sleep, then move farther away after a few nights

little.worthen
by Tessie on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:55 PM
I coslept with my son until he was 4. When I finally weaned him off of it I put a twin bed in the same room as me, across the room, and eventually into his own room. It helped that I have him a special blanket that was mine when I was little. He was sleeping on his own after 3 weeks
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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Dec. 11, 2012 at 3:53 PM

So what's wrong with that? As long as everyone's getting the sleep they need, I don't see the issue.

Quoting katiew2012:

I have to say this does not necessarily work. My cousin slept in his mom's room, on her floor, until he was 13. She kicked him out of her bed when he was 4, but let him sleep on the floor. She then made him sleep in his own bed when he was 6, but he'd get up in the middle of the night and sleep on her floor.

Quoting themomof3boys:

Put a mattress on the floor by the bed where you are sleeping and tell them that is where they have to sleep. It works, it takes some time but it does work and eventually move the mattress further from the bed till it is in their room.



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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Dec. 11, 2012 at 3:57 PM

Good luck mama. I don't know. I co-slept with my kids too.They were close in age so I let both of them sleep with me until they out grew it.


micheledo
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 3:59 PM
When we move our kids out of the bed we put a sleeping bag under our bed. Then, at bedtime, we put them in their own room and remind them if they wake up at night and want us just grab your pillow, come t oour room, and lay down beside our bed. They are always welcome to sleep in our room if they need us. Some mornings we end up with all five in the room, but we don't mind. I know one day we will miss it!
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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Dec. 11, 2012 at 4:01 PM

I completely disagree. My babies slept warm and safe next to mama from day one. Reason number one, we both got more sleep that way and number two, all the babies I've know irl to die of SIDS, slept in cribs.

Sleeping with me always felt safer. The few times they were too still, I instantly woke up and got them breathing again.

Quoting AleaKat:

Completely agree.
My kids slept on their own from day one.


Quoting zeesmuse:

You should have never started co-sleeping in the first place. Sorry. I'm not an advocate of it. At all.


that said, explain to them they are ready for their own beds. You're going to have some sleepless nights, but every time they get in YOUR bed, pick them up and take them back. Eventually, they'll stay.


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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Dec. 11, 2012 at 4:01 PM

Great idea!

Quoting micheledo:

When we move our kids out of the bed we put a sleeping bag under our bed. Then, at bedtime, we put them in their own room and remind them if they wake up at night and want us just grab your pillow, come t oour room, and lay down beside our bed. They are always welcome to sleep in our room if they need us. Some mornings we end up with all five in the room, but we don't mind. I know one day we will miss it!


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AleaKat
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 5:37 PM
You have just as much of a chance of rolling over and smothering your child plus all the pillows and blanket and the fact that adult mattresses are too soft for babies.
It might make you feel better but that doesn't make it safer.


Quoting paganbaby:

I completely disagree. My babies slept warm and safe next to mama from day one. Reason number one, we both got more sleep that way and number two, all the babies I've know irl to die of SIDS, slept in cribs.

Sleeping with me always felt safer. The few times they were too still, I instantly woke up and got them breathing again.

Quoting AleaKat:

Completely agree.

My kids slept on their own from day one.




Quoting zeesmuse:

You should have never started co-sleeping in the first place. Sorry. I'm not an advocate of it. At all.


that said, explain to them they are ready for their own beds. You're going to have some sleepless nights, but every time they get in YOUR bed, pick them up and take them back. Eventually, they'll stay.


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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Dec. 11, 2012 at 6:01 PM

No, no chance of me rolling over on them. I was always stone sober whenever I co-slept. And for pillows, I had one and the kids slept pillowed on my arm, facing me. No fluffy blankets and a firm mattress completed our bed.

And again, if they stopped breathing in their crib, like the 4 other babies I knew, how would I be able to protect them?

Quoting AleaKat:

You have just as much of a chance of rolling over and smothering your child plus all the pillows and blanket and the fact that adult mattresses are too soft for babies.
It might make you feel better but that doesn't make it safer.


Quoting paganbaby:

I completely disagree. My babies slept warm and safe next to mama from day one. Reason number one, we both got more sleep that way and number two, all the babies I've know irl to die of SIDS, slept in cribs.

Sleeping with me always felt safer. The few times they were too still, I instantly woke up and got them breathing again.

Quoting AleaKat:

Completely agree.

My kids slept on their own from day one.




Quoting zeesmuse:

You should have never started co-sleeping in the first place. Sorry. I'm not an advocate of it. At all.


that said, explain to them they are ready for their own beds. You're going to have some sleepless nights, but every time they get in YOUR bed, pick them up and take them back. Eventually, they'll stay.



Lilypie - Personal pictureLilypie Breastfeeding tickers

AleaKat
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 6:07 PM
You must be an awfully light sleeper then. Glad nothing ever happened.
Also I have no idea what being sober has to do with tossing in your sleep. I toss and turn several times in the night.... Stone cold sober.... As you say.
Quoting paganbaby:

No, no chance of me rolling over on them. I was always stone sober whenever I co-slept. And for pillows, I had one and the kids slept pillowed on my arm, facing me. No fluffy blankets and a firm mattress completed our bed.

And again, if they stopped breathing in their crib, like the 4 other babies I knew, how would I be able to protect them?

Quoting AleaKat:

You have just as much of a chance of rolling over and smothering your child plus all the pillows and blanket and the fact that adult mattresses are too soft for babies.

It might make you feel better but that doesn't make it safer.




Quoting paganbaby:

I completely disagree. My babies slept warm and safe next to mama from day one. Reason number one, we both got more sleep that way and number two, all the babies I've know irl to die of SIDS, slept in cribs.

Sleeping with me always felt safer. The few times they were too still, I instantly woke up and got them breathing again.

Quoting AleaKat:

Completely agree.


My kids slept on their own from day one.








Quoting zeesmuse:

You should have never started co-sleeping in the first place. Sorry. I'm not an advocate of it. At all.


that said, explain to them they are ready for their own beds. You're going to have some sleepless nights, but every time they get in YOUR bed, pick them up and take them back. Eventually, they'll stay.



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