I have a daughter from a previous relationship. Her father never had a desire to meet her and she has only known my apouse as her father. She is very loving towards him, yet he isn't her.
Recentley, me and my spouse had a baby boy together. He is very affectionate towards him.
I am not sure if the affection comes from the baby boy being his own or if he just plain doesn't like my daughter. It disturbs me.
Either way, I am tired of being in the middle of my spouse and daughter. I am constantly sticking up for her (he uses a nasty tone, nags at her for senseless things). He seems to pick at her. Yet, if baby cries.. his whole tone is different, he is sweet and caring. I am not sure as to why he is that way with the baby and not my daughter. He says there is no difference, but I notice it and it bothers me. I am always in the middle.
I don't want my children to not have a father at all, but I don't think it is healthy for my daughter to have to take a back seat to her brother with him. She is just as important and I think I give her more attention because of the situation.
I need advice. Do I leave the father so that they have a more equal relationshipwith my kids, try to raise them with equal love? Or do I stay and end up with 2 spoiled brats because I am trying to make up for shortcomings?