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I have been with my man for 13 years and we both suffered from abusive marriages. We both got divorced 11 years ago and he is still carrying a very heavy burden from the effects of his ex wife's alcholism and abuse on his 3 children. This has had an impact on our relationship over the years but we have learned to separate it from "us."
I have lately been wanting to be with him more, we do not live together, and he works 55+ hours a week to help his daughter with her children, his emotionally unstable son, and his grandson who has a brain tumor. It's an unbelieveable burden. My man is also very sick from diabetes, heart condition, and other issues. I believe he is on the brink of depression because of all of this. He holds a very good job and is able to function there like a 40 year old. We will both be 60 this year.
I get frustrated and feel lonely with the little time he has to spend with me. I don't know how to let it go and feel that when he does have free time he should spend it with me, when all he wants to do is go home to his own house and hide and sleep. Last night he got frustrated with me and told me he's never going to give me a commitment and that this is all he can offer me. I felt so ashamed.
I have no family unit to rely on, and I do not want to burden my only son with my issues as he is attempting to make a family life of his own. Is it too late for me? Should I just continue on this way, never expecting anything more? I also work 50 hours a week and do not have time or energy for outside socializing. But what can I do to be content this way? I have no one else to talk with.