How??

[bigmama423]

How do you get a divorce when you have 4 kids, and have been a stay at home mom for 8 years?? Seems close to impossible to me... :/

[eoewan]

It is not impossible. However, have you exhausted all help to save your marriage? Have you tried couple's counselling? If you have and the marriage is over, you will find the way. Sorry I can't be of more help.

Good luck, donna

[Bmama1]

If I were to ever get divorced, I would be on the same boat.

[Aishamusty]

Quoting eoewan:

It is not impossible. However, have you exhausted all help to save your marriage? Have you tried couple's counselling? If you have and the marriage is over, you will find the way. Sorry I can't be of more help.

Good luck, donna

[saltlifemama]

You reinvent yourself, get a good support system, and make sure your SO still does his share. It might not be easy but its not impossible.

[sabrtooth1]

Getting the DIVORCE is EASY.  Supporting yourself and the children afterward--THAT"S close to impossible.  And BTW, wouldn't you have noticed that the man was a rotter BEFORE 4!!! children???

[lapcounter]

WOW

Quoting sabrtooth1:

Getting the DIVORCE is EASY.  Supporting yourself and the children afterward--THAT"S close to impossible.  And BTW, wouldn't you have noticed that the man was a rotter BEFORE 4!!! children???

[bigmama423]

I doubt he would agree to counselling.
We've been married for almost 8 years, next month's our anniversary. Stuff just seems to be falling apart rapidly..

Quoting eoewan:

It is not impossible. However, have you exhausted all help to save your marriage? Have you tried couple's counselling? If you have and the marriage is over, you will find the way. Sorry I can't be of more help.

Good luck, donna

[bigmama423]

Nope, the 4th one really brought it out of him!;)
We'd just rather kill each other now, than love one another.

Quoting sabrtooth1:

Getting the DIVORCE is EASY.  Supporting yourself and the children afterward--THAT"S close to impossible.  And BTW, wouldn't you have noticed that the man was a rotter BEFORE 4!!! children???

[GAMmom12]

 Find out how much a legal seperation cost and go from there. Look like a lawyer could let u pay payments some how.

[sabrtooth1]

 

Quoting bigmama423:

Nope, the 4th one really brought it out of him!;)
We'd just rather kill each other now, than love one another.

Is he ACTUALLY beating you, or bringing home dread diseases?  If yes, you need to get out now, for the safety of yourself and your children, and let the chips fall where they may. 

If he's NOT, then suck it up, and go back to school, and back to work.  When you are prepared to support yourself and your kids, THEN go for the divorce.  Of course, you MAY find in the meantime, that the root of his sudden 180 is despair over the prospect of supporting a wife and 4 kids ALL BY HIMSELF.  Good luck.