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At what age is it too old to be spanking your kids?

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I remember when I was 5 years old, my step dad would spank his 16 or 17 year old son.

Would you spank your older children if you thought it was working?

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by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:44 PM
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EarlGrayHot
by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:07 AM
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No age is appropriate for spanking.  IT is never ok to hit an adult, say, your spouse so how can anyone justify hitting a defenseless child?  I do not understand that.  There are far better ways to disciplining children.  Don't do it at all.

MJP76
by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 1:52 PM

Yes, if I felt it nessisary. I'd say once they are 18 then Butt whoopings needs to stop.


fullxbusymom
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 3:08 PM

I do not spank after 3 - 3 1/2yrs old.

jasminedawson1
by New Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 7:22 AM
I'm African! We spank, crank the whip, whtever works till whatever age. They all work too!"Spare the rod, spoil the child!"
mdawn028
by Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 7:39 AM

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Yes my mom always said u are never to old to get a spanking if u are being disrespectful and not listening and doing what u are told.
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JenniferLeighLu
by Member on Apr. 13, 2013 at 7:56 AM


Exactly...Why do younger children get hit while older children get their phone taken away?  Because older children can hit you back!

Quoting Kim042269:

As a mom who used to spank, my advice is, don't. Not at any age. It's humiliating, it doesn't teach anything but that hitting is the answer when you have a problem, and studies show that it causes a whole range of problems. I wish I had understood that when my older kids were little. I really do.



Kris_PBG
by Representative on Apr. 13, 2013 at 8:55 AM
FYI - in biblical times, the shepherding rod was used to guide and protect the sheep. Not strike or hit the sheep.

Spare the guidance spoil the child - it has nothing to do with corporal punishment


Quoting jasminedawson1:

I'm African! We spank, crank the whip, whtever works till whatever age. They all work too!"Spare the rod, spoil the child!"

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Kris_PBG
by Representative on Apr. 13, 2013 at 8:57 AM
So bc his parents did not do it effectively there is no way to discipline without striking children?

I was raised in a no- spank household and there was no lack of discipline.

Same for my children.


Quoting lifeforchrist:

I do not hit my children. Nor do i believe spanking is a voiolent act. I am showing that when negative behaviours are used they get nagative results. I believe there is a huge difference between the role of the parents and the children. I don't spank my husband because he doesnt need it. Its a season of life. i believe with spaanking as with anything else it needs to be consistent. Most parents arent and say they 'didn't see a difference' my husband wasnt spanked his mom was all pro equality and no violence, well him and his brother abuse and hate thier parents, they can never say a respectful thing. I was spanked as a child until around 5 and I am appaled by the way my husband disrecpects his parents. Not to mention his brother deals with anger managment and other abuses. Tell me timeouts worked for them.

Quoting Kim042269:

Right. Well, I've seen your argument plenty of times, and I disagree with it. I think hitting your children enourages them to hit, is humiliating, and takes from your relationship with them. I was hit, and I don't think it was a good thing. I have years of experience as a parent - so I am speaking from experience - and from my experience with raising my children - the older who I did hit, and the younger ones who I did not, I can whole heartedly assure you that it is not better to hit. I also think hitting is a violent act, and no household should have violence within it. I am not hit by my husband when I do something he doesn't - why should it be ok that my children are hit when I don't like what they are doing?


Quoting lifeforchrist:


IQuoting Kim042269:


As a mom who used to spank, my advice is, don't. Not at any age. It's humiliating, it doesn't teach anything but that hitting is the answer when you have a problem, and studies show that it causes a whole range of problems. I wish I had understood that when my older kids were little. I really do.


I've read those studies and believe it's all a bunch of junk. I think real life is a better indicator of how things work. People have spanked children for centuries and people have turned out fine. We now have a generation of 'timeouts' and we see children have become montsers, disrespectful and they don't listen. Don't even get me started on teenagers. When spanking is done correctly it works wonders. I believe in spanking my kids, I also believe never spanking in anger, and that my children aren't criminals so spanking isn't a punishment it's a correction.





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