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Help/advice with dd

Posted by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 6:37 AM
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My dd has always been a good student. She is in the third grade and struggling some. Met with her teacher yesterday. She is having trouble staying on task, focus, attention span and organization.  Her teacher says she does NOT think she needs medication yet.  She and I are trying to put some behavioral idea in play to help. If that doesn't work we will investigate further.  My dh and I are also going to take her in for a vision check as eyes can masquerade as the same thing.  

If you have any idea, please add them here. Here are my plans as of right now.


I am going to make a chart to put stickers when she stays on task with homework.

I am breaking her home work up into segments with a wiggle break in between that will refocus her brain.


I am going to make one of these:



Quote:

Homework Central

Homework Central
by Debra Immergut

 

The challenge: getting kids to settle down to homework in the midst of the evening hubbub

An ingenious solution: turn display boards (available at office supply stores) into study carrels that can be set up in a flash, with all the necessary supplies close at hand. Easily stowed in a corner or a closet, these customizable stations keep kids focused on learning by providing a fun home base for tackling their assignments. And a single display board makes two carrels, so each sibling can have his own.

 

What you'll need

  • Tri-fold display board (48 by 36 inches; makes two stations)
  • Yardstick and pencil
  • Craft knife
  • Con-Tact paper or paint (optional)

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karrihull
by Member on Jan. 17, 2013 at 8:22 AM

No idea what the problem is. What does your daughter have to say about it herself?

Thelmama
by Thelma on Jan. 17, 2013 at 8:25 AM

She is trying. She is frustrated.  She says her minds just "gets so busy".  Working with her to filter stuff out. Her teacher says she is very bright and capable.  We will figure it out.  She did good last night with some new strategies in place.  She is a very creative, social child. I am sure that figures in as well. I don't know that she totally understands it herself.

ETA: I am mainly looking for ideas from parents that have worked with their kids who need to stay on task or if they had problems with this as a child, what helped them.  

Quoting karrihull:

No idea what the problem is. What does your daughter have to say about it herself?


PurpleHazey
by Angie on Jan. 17, 2013 at 10:04 AM

Why would you want to put her on meds, school is hard today and to me I would pay more attention to whether she is learning or not and take it from there.

jazzgirl205
by Member on Jan. 17, 2013 at 10:09 AM

Are you able to try piano lessons?  They really reconfigure the brain if she practices regularly.

mommadana
by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 10:20 AM
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m,y kiddo was one that he was a wiggle worm and he spoke with his hands and played with his pencil and his jeans and.... whatever else he can get his hands on.  We told him that when he wants to move or whatever, to hold his hands in his lap and squeeze each time he wanted to move.  It helped himi focus.  Also, she may need a walk around the room break or a spot on the carpet to take notes or something.  Also something I was recommended was L-Thianine (I think spelling migh be off) from GNC.  It's an herb and it helps with focusing.  I've used it before to relieve stress and it's not addicting but it helps calm you down to focus on the task

Thelmama
by Thelma on Jan. 17, 2013 at 11:08 AM
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We aren't putting her on meds.  It doesn't warrant, just telling you what the teacher said. She doesn't encourage or promote meds.  She said we may have to address it down the road........a long way down the road if the changes we made do NOT work.   I expect them to work. We would not put her on meds UNLESS it was what was best for her, we would try diet changes and stuff first.  I must have miscommunicated that, sorry.. 

Quoting PurpleHazey:

Why would you want to put her on meds, school is hard today and to me I would pay more attention to whether she is learning or not and take it from there.


Thelmama
by Thelma on Jan. 17, 2013 at 11:09 AM

The budget will not allow right now but it is something I would try if I could find some affordable in our area.

Quoting jazzgirl205:

Are you able to try piano lessons?  They really reconfigure the brain if she practices regularly.


mamaslove11
by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 11:29 AM
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I have not had this problem. You say she says "her mind gets so busy". Have you had he IQ tested. I have heard of kids with high IQ and when they are in regular classes they either do one of two things. They either finish ALL there work then get in trouble because they are bored, OR they do what your daughter is doing... has always done well in school and starts to get fidgity and starts to have trouble focusing because the work is too easy and they get bored and then can't concentrate. GOOD LUCK!!!!

Thelmama
by Thelma on Jan. 17, 2013 at 11:30 AM

thank you

happyclammer
by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 12:32 PM
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Many universities where early childhood is taught offer free testing and surveys for children with attention disorders. If you and your daughter don't mind being part of an empirical study, do a quick Google local search to find out if any studies are available near you... As a parent with ADHD and daughter of an early childhood specialist, I've never taken medication for it but have partaken in many studies from age 4 and up to 16. They found I am more focused when I understand the material and am getting along with my peers. Ask what her mind gets busy about and try answering her questions, even if they seem ridiculous or obvious, but stay on track by following the line of questions to the end. It's very easy to get distracted by a particular question and run with it, dissecting answers with your child - but that only helps answer one question and leaves the rest. Try indirect questions about her social life too - kids with ADHD and ADD are hyper social by nature but often have trouble actually connecting with people because we can't concentrate or help interrupting. My mom taught me to count in my head until the other person was finished speaking and made me ask at least one question relating to the discussion. She explained how it seemed like I didn't care about my friends when I couldn't listen or hold a discussion, so we did listening exercises - aka the counting and related questioning.
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