This is a vent about my s/o, but not a bash! He is a fantastic guy. Caring, patient, a good provider, a good father & stepfather.
With that being said, sometimes he is a little too "caring".
He is laid off work right now (electrician in the oilfields, he's laid off almost every winter) and since he's not working, he's helping me out a lot....a LOT.
There's little things, like when he asks what I want to do today, and I say "Idk, I need to sweep floors and do laundry before I decide if there's anything fun I want/have time to do"
Then I step away for whatever and come back to my work already half done. I explain to him that housework is how I clear my head, its MY job. If he wants to help keep the house up, please stick to the chore list posted on the refridgerator.
This stuff happens very often, but I know he's bored, so, I just stay patient and give him something else to do that is ACTUALLY helpful.
Well, he crossed a line today.
I thought of a DIY project that I wanted to make for my DDs upcoming birthday. He asked if he could help about a week ago. I made it VERY FUCKING CLEAR that, yes, he could help. But only when I asked for it. This was to be my project, and I was using materials that were given specifically to me as a gift by his parents, who know how much I love DIY.
Every day since I told him about the project, he has said "we need to get started on this" to which I always reply "Its fine, I'll get to it when I've got it fully mapped out in my head"
So about 20 minutes ago, I was cleaning our room, and he comes in from the garage to tell me that *insert whatever piece of wood here* was too wobbly, so he fixed it. I had no clue what he was talking about, so I follow him back out, and he has half the desk *what I'm using in the project* ripped apart, and he's trying to prep it for me, without even knowing how I wanted it. He ruined half of it, and I'm going to have to repair it before I start using it. And not only that, it was MY damned project, MY ideas, and something I've told him more than once not to worry about.
I'm hurt that every single thing I do, he has to have a hand in, I'm hurt that he made more work for me, and I'm hurt that he took away my chance to "make the first cut" on the project. It was special to me. I feel like he ruined my art canvas. Yes, thats how I feel about all my DIY projects. They were the only thing that was just mine, and he's taken it from me.