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For those wondering if I am ever giving an update on my family...**another update added 2/1!!**

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Yes, this is long overdue.  Almost 11 months overdue.  I kept most of you in the dark this year because well...the news was never that good. I'm sorry for that, but I didn't want to rehash heartbreak.

Today, well, NOW I will talk about it.  No, I won't answer any questions about the past, the whys.  If you don't already know about it, I don't want to rehash everything I have already said.  Sorry.  No offense.

If this gets too heated, I will delete it.  I don't want to argue or answer any questions.  I just want to give an update on my family.  Thanks in advance for your politeness.

For those who know our situation and have been awaiting an update, we had court today.  We were extremely nervous going in.  Without going into too much detail, we were in the courtroom for 2 1/2 hours for just our case.  Today was going to make or break us as parents.  It could go either way.  We could either get them back or lose them forever. 

The caseworker assigned to our case back in March after the initial report has done absolutely NOTHING for us all of this time.  In fact, he has tried to sabotage us, has had grudges against us which we have never deserved through all of this.  We called him several times a week and left voicemail messages for him, and he has never called us back.  He has not gotten referrals in to places we needed to be at for months after he was supposed to, he never called us about any of our children, he never kept us updated on anything.  We found out from our girls everything that was happening in their lives.  He told our girls that their Daddy and I weren't doing anything to get them back *huge lie!* and when our girls asked for their lawyer to be there while they saw the caseworker, the caseworker told them that they could not have their lawyer there.  Big mistake.  Huge.

My husband Leigh has a new lawyer now.  His former lawyer is only doing private practice as of December and we both are very happy with this new lawyer of his after today.  My lawyer is still the same.  She just doesn't say much.

So, we get into the courtroom and each lawyer and Kaden's GAL *Guardian Ad Litem...like a lawyer* gets to talk.  Everytime that one of our lawyers said something that the caseworker or his lawyer didn't like they objected...but everyone realized that they have NO EVIDENCE of any wrongdoing on our part. 

So, after 2 hours and 15 minutes of going back and forth the Commissioner had her speal.  What she said took Leigh and I by surprise.  What she said was that she only wanted to take about 5 minutes to say in the beginning that she wanted our kids to be returned home by the middle of April.  What ended up happening because of all the talking was that our son, Kaden, will be returned to us fully in two weeks' time *by Feb 12th*, we will have in home visits/overnight visits with all of us, girls, Kaden, Leigh and I until Spring Break *March 29-Apr 7* when the girls will be returned fully to us.  We will also have a family counselor come in at that time after everyone is home to our home once a week to counsel us as a family until October which as long as everything is okay by her at that time then they will be out of our lives for good. :)

Of course, the Commissioner said in closing "We can always take the kids back out if anything off happens while they are in their care...but I'm sure you are a wonderful family all together so I'm positive that won't happen.  I just have to say that because you never know with other families."

Oh...our caseworker was STEAMED.  He didn't want to give the kids back at all, and he was pissed that our Commissioner told him to give them back.  He kept trying to say that Leigh is going to beat his children within an inch of their lives, will beat and sexually abuse me and the kids, he punches holes in the walls of our home and that he doesn't deserve to have any kids.  Our Commissioner point blank asked "Where is your evidence to back up this ludicrousy?  Where is it said that he has done any of that?"  Our caseworker kept stuttering saying "Well, I don't HAVE any evidence!"  Exactly.  There isn't any because none of that has ever happened in our home.  Idiot :/ 

The only reason why they are out of the house is because Madison went to school back last February and said that Leigh spanked her 15 times, and then retracted her statement and apologized.   That is it, that's the ONLY reason they were taken.  All other thoughts we had were just speculation.  Everything came out last month as to why they were taken and that was the only thing on there.  That Leigh had spanked her 15 times.  But she apologized and said it wasn't that many even before they were taken.  Crazy, right?

Our next courtdate isn't until July 2nd unless something happens like he doesn't want to give the kids back.  In that case we will be back much sooner than later. 

This got way long and I'm sorry for that.  I hope y'all don't mind :)

I talked with my lawyer today *2/1*.  She said that she read the actual court order signed by the judge, and it says that Kaden has to be returned to us no later than February 8th, and our girls have to be returned to us no later than April 1st.  The girls will start in home and overnight visits as soon as our caseworker tells the place where we go to now and who will be transporting them from their places they are staying at here to our home, which from experience he won't tell them soon...*sigh*  Hopefully he will, and this order will be a kick in the rear for him.   The court order also didn't say that they need to come through our house before they return the kids, and my lawyer says that's very unusual for them to not want to come in and do an inspection, but they more than likely don't have any issues with our house then, and if they do want to come in, that they will need a new court order to be able to do that now since this current one doesn't say anything about it.

So yay!  This time next week we should have Kaden, and be able to see our girls without supervision here in our own home :)

I just had to share our excitement with y'all.  Thank you for all the comments good thoughts and prayers, they are really appreciated!  I'll keep y'all updated.


by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:15 AM
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hayliedlr
by JoAnna on Feb. 1, 2013 at 11:34 PM

I bet you these next few weeks will be looonnnggg.  I am so happy they will be returned to you soon.  how exciting

calimom1123
by Bronze Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:12 AM
So happy for you guys! Such great news!
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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:52 PM

Soooo happy your babies are coming back home14/

md_1015
by Bronze Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 7:38 AM
It is about time they give you your family back! You have all been through so much. Best of luck to you!
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