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Why does my husband always ask me to pay him back?????

Posted by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 9:33 PM
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Me and my husband have been together for 7 years married for 2 every time I ask him to get me something for example...(cigerattes) it's like $5.00 idk y he does but when I get him something I don't ask him for money back.. It's like it's his money and my money is mine we've got into arguments plenty times before about this can someone help me out on this??? Please

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 9:33 PM
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hayliedlr
by JoAnna on Feb. 2, 2013 at 9:37 PM
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That was kind of like my sister and her husband.  He would make her pay him back but he would never pay her back.. She never expected it but he would ask for his money so she quit loaning him money until he saw what she meant.  He doesn't do it anymore.

Good luck

SugarPlum26
by New Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 9:38 PM

Thank you

Texascandee
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 9:59 PM
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I'm glad mine doesn't do that.  I'd have to remind him of the things I do for him free..........When we borrow from each other, if it's a large amount of course we pay back but if it's a few dollars or he stops on the way home to get me something, he doesn't ask me to pay him and I don't ask him to pay me.  What happened to a "partnership" or it's "ours"?

fullxbusymom
by Bronze Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:09 PM
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Can't as we have one joint acct. all money is both of ours equally.

hollydaze1974
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:12 PM
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Thank you !!! I was beginning we were the only ones who still believed that joining our lives meant joining money, too!

Quoting fullxbusymom:

Can't as we have one joint acct. all money is both of ours equally.

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SugarPlum26
by New Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:16 PM

I thought that too but idk

Kodysmommy928
by Jennifer on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:26 PM
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What an odd situation.  My husband and I share our finances, so I really don't get that.

wannabpregnant
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:27 PM
what are you roommates? not gonna happen.
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SugarPlum26
by New Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 12:29 AM

What should I do though I've been like hey.. I we r married everything is both of ours then we get into it 

MJP76
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 12:45 AM
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A long term relationship should be 50/50 especially a marriage.. Nothing should no longer be yours or his it should belong to both of you. He is in the wrong, your marriage will eventually fail, if you guys can't meet in the middle.

EDIT: you should seek marriage counseling.

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