Okay I really don't know where to start with this. I'll try not to make it long.
My mother and my grandmother have NEVER had a good relationship, ever. My grandma isn't loving, shes rude and mean. However we always lived with her because my parents could never afford to buy a house of their own. Growing up I didn't like her very much either, always kicking you when your down, etc. She's not nice.
well as shes gotten older she lost sight in one eye completely and slowly lost it in the other. My mother has become her caregiver. Well she still has a small amount of sight in one eye. So she can see.. very little but she can. Over the years of my mom being her caregiver my mother has gotten VERY depressed, she can't leave my grandma alone in fear she'll fall or drop things. My grandma of course is very rude, hard headed and stubborn. Doesn't appriciate anything my mother does for her and always gives her such a hard time about everything. My mom HATES her now, but continues to take care of her - she has no choice.
what gets me is my grandmother has trashed her entire house (my parents converted the basement into an apartment which is where I grew up) dirty disgusting carpets from her old dogs, trash, spills, bodily fluids, etc. A nasty stained up couch, dirty bathroom and bed sheets. (staind with blood and feces) UGH! she NEVER tells my mother when she has accidents and my mother does clean for her but in two days its back to that mess! its so disgusting and its really tearing my mom apart because she can't afford a nursing home for her. My grandmother just doesn't care about her health or my mothers. My mom and I are both naturally skinny, I'm 110 pounds (healthy weight for my size) well shes close to 80 pounds.. skin and bones. Shes a drinker too.. I just dont know how to help my mom deal with this. I am so glad I no longer live there... does she have any options that we just don't know about?
sorry this is so long ... any feedback would be appriciated .. if you don't understand something I will answer questions in an update.